My daughter had her 2CD miscarriage

[sharon kopenski]

She is 38 years old and has a beautiful daughter aged 1, so she can carry a baby full term. So why is she loosing these babies. She will never do any
infertility testing, but is there some simple thing it could be(besides age). You all seem to have the answers to everything---so any ideas?

[tyroleancutie]

I don't have any answers but I wanted to let you know that I am very sorry to hear that you DD had a miscarriage :(

[lindrusso]

Sorry to hear about the miscarriages. Was she very far along?

Miscarriages are, unfortunately, pretty common, especially at the early stages. The pregnancy tests these days allow us to find out so much earlier than we ever did in the past, so we are now more aware of miscarriages than we ever were before. So, it's possible that there is nothing wrong, just nature doing what it does.........

[sharon kopenski]

She was 9 weeks. On vacation in San Diego standing in the bathtub letting this happen all by herself as her husband was at a meeting. She is so sad and also very weak as she lost so much blood. What a lousy vacation. Thanks for your support.

[Ann1965]

I had several miscarriages before I had a successful pregnancy. We found out, through simple bloodwork, that my hormone levels were off. It usually takes 3 losses before the dr.'s will investigate anything. When I became pregnant with my son, the dr. tested my hormone levels frequently. There are suppositories that you can use that will help keep the levels up. My heart goes out to her!

[newtricks]

I'm so sorry to hear that.
I agree with Ann about testing her hormone levels. I miscarried my first pregnancy and since I was mid-30's my ob-gyn was fairly agressive. When I got pg again she tested my levels two days in a row to be sure they were going up appropriately. I also had an ultrasound at 6/7 weeks.

And to Alysha's point, I also miscarried between ds1 and ds2 but I'm happy to tell you I have three healthy kids running around right now. The important thing to remember is that your dd can carry a healthy baby to term. Best of luck to her. :)

[cumulus]

Sorry to hear this- but yes, it seems they are fairly common. It's likely nothing she did, and many factors that cause miscarriage may simple be out of her hands.

Best of luck to your family, and I hope she does pursue a few tests- at least for peace of mind!

[615bride]

I'm sorry to hear about this. I've miscarried twice myself.... There can be many reasons or none at all so I won't speculate on your daughter's situation but wanted to send my good, healing thoughts along...

[sharon kopenski]

thanks so much, I really needed to hear some positive reports and you did it. I will pass on what you shared with my daughter. Thank you, support is a wonderful thing- it brings hope.

[TKay]

I am so sorry for your daughter's loss. If it's any consolation, I read the statistic is one in three pregnancies ends in miscarriage. I have two kids and had one m/c, so for me, the stat was accurate. My mother had a miscarriage, then my brother, then another m/c. She was terrified she'd only have one child. Well, she had five others. So there you have it. She didn't have any testing either.
I have heard that hormones can have a big impact on early pregnancy (is it the progesterone--can't remember?). I think her doc might recommend checking to be safe.
Give your daughter a hug.

[SDMomChef]

A miscarriage can be so devastating - my heart goes out to your DD. I have not had a miscarriage, but I have had very close friends who have and in both of their cases, it was the hormone level and the third pregnancy was carried to term.

[Cookin4Love]

My DD had a miscarriage at about 14 weeks. They never did know why. That pregnancy was unplanned, and she hasn't tried again, but I know she has lots of anxiety about what will happen when she does want to become pregnant. I know how hard it is for you, too, to lose the treasured dream of a grandchild, as well as to see your child in this much emotional pain. Hugs to both of you as you get through this.

[Hoodone]

I had two miscarriages, so I know how your daughter feels! The good news is that she can get pregnant and carry a baby to term. So many people out there can't even get pregnant. After my second miscarriage, we went in for testing and found out right away that DH has a chromosome abnormality called a balanced reciprocal translocation. We thought that this made us infertile, but here we are with 2 healthy kids (one with the same translocation, one with normal genetic material) without "trying" to get pregnant at all since we thought we couldn't. I had those kids at 39 and 41. Your daughter should not give up hope, even though it is hard to go through this pain. Good luck to her!

Also, if she or her husband has a similar translocation, they would not know it without being tested. There is no "treatment" for this problem, just the knowledge that you have it.

[Chelle D]

((hugs))

I am so sorry to hear of your daughters miscarriage. It is so devastating to have the excitement of a new child and go through a loss.

I agree with everything being posted. I lead an infertility support group in my town and have been through and seen friends through quite a bit. Alysha is right that we find out so much earlier now than we did in the past. Miscarriages are more documented also with earlier doctor visits and more women talking about them.

It may be something as simple as progesterone deficiency and the easy treatment for that is the suppositories. There are also other causes, luteal phase defect, another immune deficiency, etc, but those are more unlikely since she has had a child. It also may have just been something wrong with the cells in this one embryo. It happens quite a bit, but that does not make it any less painful for those who experience it.

[AmyO26]

Hi Sharon,
I just want to send good thoughts for you and your daughter. I had a miscarriage in March (I was about 12 weeks) and an ectopic pregnancy last June. I also have a healthy, beautiful 2-year old daughter. My OB said that the ectopic and miscarriage were totally unrelated...I had no "risk factors" for the ectopic, and the only risk factor for the miscarriage is my age (I am the same age as your daughter). I will keep her in my thoughts.
Amy

[sharon kopenski]

I just wanted to let you all know that my daughter is feeling much better about the whole thing and therefore so am I. All of your words of encouragement have been most helpful and reassuring. How I hope that she will be able to have another baby but if not, she has one beautiful daughter and she herself is one beautiful daughter. Thanks again.

[Jessica]

Sharon--I am so sorry. I had two miscarriages before I got pregnant with my son and that was a terrible time in my life. The second one happened at 8w when I was home alone, too, and it is a scary experience. In my case, my progesterone was borderline low and my doctor treated that and I was able to carry my son to term. My doctor said we would never know if the hormones were the problem or if we just had some bad luck, but I do know hormone levels can change as we age and also after a pregnancy. I have no idea if your daughter's losses were due to a medical reason or if they were bad luck, but please pass on my sympathies.