Have you ever slapped or been slapped?

[EllenL]

The other day, watching a recap of Grey's Anatomy, I began to wonder if I've lived too sheltered a life. They showed Meredith's father slapping her. This was a first for me (a man slapping a female) but I've seen so many TV shows and films where a woman slaps a man or a woman slaps a woman. I've never slapped or been slapped, even as a kid (name calling sufficed----and I think I remember one hair puller). Does slapping really occur in real life? Is it really a slap-happy world out there?

[misskitty100]

Never been slapped nor have I ever slapped someone....:eek:

I saw that part of GA too. Unfortunately Comcast messed up BOTH tapings of that particular episode so I never got to see why he was so angry with Meredith? I assume the step mother passed away and he was saying something about hiccups????

[Robyncz]

Nope. I've never been slapped, nor have I ever slapped anyone. I simply can't imagine circumstances in which it would happen, but I'll check back in if that changes!;)

[EllenL]

I didn't see that complete episode (it was the two hour one and I was getting tired of the Addison spinoff) but from what I could gather, dad was upset that Meredith's advice to hospitalize stepmom and her reassurance that all would be okay with her.

[Canice]

Nope, never slapped or been slapped.
But just this morning I was thinking about a friend of mine who had been dating someone for over a year and as the relationship was waning they had a fight and he slapped her on the shoulder.
She filed a police report and never spoke to him again.

[avariell]

misskitty- he blamed meredith for the stepmother's death basically. there wasn't a lot of logic behind the slap (not that ever is with physical violence methinks) :)

my mom used to slap as punishment. i do not think she was abusive. i think she was ignorant about child punishments. the very last time she slapped me, it chipped a tooth. she was horrified at what she had done and never laid a finger on me again. i think she "learned her lesson" and i am fine. i don't have any hidden resentment or whatever towards her. she is a wonderful woman and a fantastic mother. i don't want this to seem like i have a crazy mom. i just think it was a generational thing. anyway, just figured i would be one of the first to fess up to being a slappee once or twice :)

[slknight]

my mom used to slap as punishment. i do not think she was abusive. i think she was ignorant about child punishments. the very last time she slapped me, it chipped a tooth. she was horrified at what she had done and never laid a finger on me again. i think she "learned her lesson" and i am fine. i don't have any hidden resentment or whatever towards her. she is a wonderful woman and a fantastic mother. i don't want this to seem like i have a crazy mom. i just think it was a generational thing. anyway, just figured i would be one of the first to fess up to being a slappee once or twice :)

I don't ever remember being slapped, but I do remember my mother threatening to slap my sister. I'm not sure she ever actually slapped her, but I remember her standing there saying "Do you want this hand across your face?" I think my mom is a really wonderful mom too and there was no abuse in my family. But I do remember this.

[ChristyMarie]

An ex boyfriend slapped me once. I hit him back. Hard. I'm sure some foul language was used on my part as well - as in "who the ^^^^ do you think you are to hit me?"

No one gets away with hitting me, not acceptable.

[TKay]

Never slapped, never been slapped.

[Cookin4Love]

My mom slapped me once. She was going through menopause as I was going through adolescence--not a good combo. One summer day, she thought I had thrown my wet swimsuit in the floor. I hadn't; my brother had thrown his down (they were the same color). When my mom saw it, she went into a rage. She flew into the room where I was, backed me into a corner, and slapped me across the face, back and forth, about eight times. Honestly, I'm still resentful of it, although I didn't receive much discipline at all. I didn't need it. Really. :cool: At any rate, I think slapping someone is about as demeaning as anything that can be done. I would never slap anyone.

[badunnin]

I have been slapped, many times unfortunately. :(

[jabelt]

When I was a child (maybe 8), my step mother slapped me. I don't remember the circumstances, but needless to say we weren't exactly crazy about one another. Luckily, I only saw her a couple of times a year. My father finally came to his senses and got rid of her. Now he freely admits what a crazy b**** she was. Geez, wonder how he came to that conclusion. :rolleyes:

[MrsOliver]

my brother and I used to slap each other all the time...actually, as recently as a few years ago (in our 20s). We always had that type of relationship and I think he was just playfully slapping me though.

[PAMMELA]

My mother slapped me a few times....but I definitely deserved it.

[sneezles]

I have been slapped, many times unfortunately. :(

I was too. Many times by my mother and only ever my mother. Wasn't ever the best of relationships. I have never slapped anyone.

[beacooker]

Ok, fine. I'll out myself as having slapped someone once. It was in 8th grade history class, and the girl who sat behind me was usually mean to me, but I just put up with it, as I always put up with anyone who wasn't being nice to me. One day, we were watching a movie in class, and she kept putting paper in my hair. I decided I wasn't going to take it anymore, and I turned around and slapped her face! I have no idea what got into me - I think I got the idea from tv, actually. I didn't really connect all that well, but it made her start to cry, quietly, and put her head down on her desk. Everyone around me looked very impressed. I think it may have been the first time I really stood up for myself, and it felt so good. That started a long history of standing up for myself, although I've never done it through slapping (or any violence) again. I look back on that event as being a very pivotal moment in my life, and even though I don't necessarily think I handled it the best way, in the end it has made a huge positive difference in my life. Kinda weird, huh?

[jmarie]

Spanked by parent...never slapped.

I sure wish I had what it takes to slap someone right now.

But as mad as I get, can't do it.

[MikeC]

I was slapped only once, by my mother. I can't remember what I did, but it must have been awful because my mother wasn't a slapper or a spanker!

As a man, I can't imagine ever, under any circumstances, slapping a woman.

[DeeK]

I have been slapped, many times unfortunately. :(


Yep... me too. My Dad slapped me across the face once for calling my mother "she" instead of Mother and my Mom, well, she was the Queen of Slapping. :mad:

I don't think I've slapped anyone.....ever.

[DanaSD]

Once in a dance club this guy was touching my butt and putting his hands around my waist as I was trying to walk through the club - it was very crowded so it was slow walking and he was behind me. I turned around a slapped him - not hard at all but I did slap him. Well a bunch of his friends came up to me and gave me a hard time saying I embarased him, etc. Well this stranger had no right to put his hands on me. Now I was buzzed and I don't think I would have slapped him if I was sobber.

[LakeMartinGal]

I have probably slapped... I had a terrible temper, which I have learned to control:o , and my mother used to slap me on occasion... as Cookin4Love said, I was a (bratty) teen, and she was going through menopause... not a lovely combo, at any time!

I saw SIL slap her son once, she was vastly pregnant, and he was a snotty 6... they both cried!;)

[newtricks]

No, I've never slapped or been slapped. I've been punched (once) by an ex-boyfriend and that's quite enough for me.

My mom was definitely a spanker and I saw other kids get slapped so it was much more common "in the olden days" than it is now. In 2007 though, If I saw a parent slapping a child in the face I would consider it abuse unless I really and truly knew it was a one-time out of control isolated incident.


On the other hand, Beacooker I love a good "standing up to the bully story". You did what you had to do against someone who felt they had power over you. totally different in my book. :)

[badunnin]

I was too. Many times by my mother and only ever my mother. Wasn't ever the best of relationships. I have never slapped anyone.

Also not the best of relationships (obviously) mine was a BF/fiance. Now an ex, of course.

[Goin' Coastal]

I hate to admit it and am not proud of it because I always said I would never do it, but there were a couple times (2, maybe 3) that I slapped DD # 1 across the face. Her mouth got the best of me. It did get her attention and she learned she could not talk to me that way. That said, I was NOT an abusive parent. I may have given the kids gentle slaps on the hind end when they were young, but not even what I would consider spanking. Thankfully both daughters have turned out very well (whew.....) and I have excellent relationships with both of them. DD # 1 doesn't hold it against me, and would probably say she deserved it!

As a child, I got an occasional spanking - but not abusive. Once, when I got a bit mouthy, my Mother put a squirt of dishwashing liquid in my mouth. My mouth broke out and she felt terrible! She never did that again - & I think it cured me, too :D

[mbrogier]

I was also a teen while my mom went through menopause. I was too big to spank, and she slapped me when she thought I was being "fresh". The last time she did it, she hit me so hard my head hit the wall beside of me--we were standing in a hallway. She never did it again, but I had also grabbed her hand and explained that I would *not* be tolerating that ever again.

We're very good friends now, but I think we were both stressed out. Mom's marriage was falling apart while she was recovering from cancer and had a son that had left home to live in the streets. Life was hard for both of us.

I've never slapped anyone, but I did punch my brother out once. He called me a horrible name and thought I'd just take it. He was really impressed that I hit him so hard that he fell over. He's respected me ever since.

I also broke a guy's finger once because he kept pinching my butt. I kept telling him to stop, and when he didn't, I bent his finger back. Oops. :p

[Robyn1007]

I also broke a guy's finger once because he kept pinching my butt. I kept telling him to stop, and when he didn't, I bent his finger back. Oops. :p

I would have loved to have seen that! :p

Yes, I was slapped by a then BF.

[Puppylove]

I am a black belt in Kung Fu and there were times in my training that my Sensei would break us into partners and make us slap each other in the face. It was always at, like, 7:30 in the morning. It taught us not to flinch, and it taught us how to take a hit. We did the same with punches to the body. The guys were always uncomfortable if they were paired with a woman. Lest you think we were beating each other senseless, we started lightly and gradually built up - we could also stop progressing in force at any time. I still train but I'm not that hard core anymore (actually I don't take any hits right now since DH and I are TTC)! But it really did teach me to take a hit and not to flinch (that and getting a dead leg if we did flinch)!

[Casey1230]

Been slapped (too many times to want to remember) by ex.... I finally slapped him back and that day I packed my bags and left and never looked back.... felt I had sunk to his level... nobody before him and nobody after..

[gertdog]

I slapped a guy in college. We were at a party in someone's backyard. He was sitting on a lounge chair. I was sitting on the edge of the same chair, facing away from him and talking to some other people. He put his bare feet up the back of my shirt and under my bra strap; I quickly turned toward him and as I twisted around his feet were still caught in my bra strap, causing my shirt to pull up and me to inadvertently flash the people I'd been talking to, and I smacked him on the cheek. I don't think he intended to pull my shirt up- I think that part was an accident- but I was ticked and embarrassed and the slap was just my first reaction. He later apologized (when he sobered up) and I apologized for the slap, and we actually became pretty good friends and have remained so over the years.

I don't think I've ever been slapped- I guess I'd probably remember if I had been.

[luv2cook]

Interesting topic. I was slapped by someone while sitting next to them on NYE weekend looking, I believe, at the CL website. I was so shocked, I didn't say anything but always wondered what brought that on and I should have slapped her back, but I didn't. If it ever happened again, I'm not so sure I'd be that passive about it. sometimes shock gets the better of me in situations...:o

[CompassRose]

When I was seventeen or so, I slapped my mother during one of our frequent and infamous arguments. I don't remember whether she slapped me back.

There were good, good reasons why I went away to university in a distant town, and I'm sure at the time my parents were glad to see me go. I was the kind of teenager who makes me thankful to be childless.

[stacy7272]

One time, me being a teen and my mom going through menopause (a theme?), I was saying who knows what but I'm sure it was bad and my mom slapped me. My lip caught my teeth and caused a bloody, puffy lip but I deserved it. She didn't seem to regret it either. It only happened that once.

I've never slapped anyone.

[AvrilH]

Yep - my mom! She and I were arguing when I was a teenager, and she was making this vicious face at me. I mimicked her (I don't think she realized it - she just saw the vicious face) and she hauled off an slapped me hard. Typical for her, though, was the she was angry at me for making her do it. niiiiiiiiiiice........

If I were to include all of my brother's slaps and punches, this would take me too long.

But, I did land one on him once. We were on vacation in Las Vegas and had been on each other's bad side that day. He was walking behind me and shoved me really hard from behind causing my back to twist painfully (he claims he tripped). I wheeled around and knocked him to the ground. It was pure instinct.

I can say, though, that I am grateful my mother went through menopause when I was already out of the house. She was pretty vicious in those years as it was. Had I been in the house, I can only imagine the hissing and spitting and slapping!

[tamawrite]

No. But I will confess to a secret desire to someday slap a person who really deserves it. :p

[Jalapeno]

Yep an ex-boyfriend slapped me once during a fight....I just stared at him for a second then jumped on him and proceeded to beat living crap out of him. I do remember the look of terror on his face. Hopefully the SOB with think twice before hitting another woman!

[saserre]

Unfortunately, by my loser ex husband. After a few times on different occasions, he made me so mad I slapped him back. That really got his attention, that I was no longer his punching bag.

And I know plenty of kids I grew up with whose parents would slap them in public on the backside (which I saw at various occasions when visiting). A definite no-no these days, but it didn't seem as big of a deal back then.

[Geo_nerd]

My mom was slapped by my grandmother all the time, and was so deeply humiliated and hurt by it that she told us that it was never ok to slap someone...ever. She never slapped us and her anger about being slapped made me never want to make anyone feel the way she did.