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badunnin
06-03-2007, 06:20 AM
10 years ago today, I lost 3 friends, Michael Jamieson, Andy Stindt and Ashley Easterbrook, to a drunk driver - my cats, Michael and Andrew (and previously Ashley as well) were named for these wonderful human beings. I wanted to post this article, written by Mitch Albom, as a reminder to not drink and drive, and in their memory today. And fwiw, Michael is curled up under my knees now, sleeping peacefully, and Andrew is next to me. We're listening to the rain today.

A Deadly Decision
By Mitch Albom, “Dreams Deferred 1997”
Last in a series on the heartbreaks and hopes of unsung Detroit area athletes.

A thin drizzle fell that night, giving the streets an oily sheen under the lights. It was just
past midnight, Monday turning to Tuesday, and a teenager named Tim Doil was driving
through Troy with two friends, coming home from a high school graduation party. It was
warm. Early June. They had Puff Daddy on the radio, singing “I’ll Be Missing You.”
They were heading east.
In the intersection up ahead, Crooks and Long Lake, Doil noticed a black Grand Prix
coming west. And from the corner of his eye, to his right, he saw a white Trans Am
moving fast from the south. Doil instinctively stepped on his brakes, even though the
Trans Am had a red light. Something funny about the speed.
One second later, with the disbelief of seeing someone fall out a window, Doil watched
the Trans Am run that red light and plow broadside into the Grand Prix, splitting it in
two. There was a loud boom, smashing glass, sparks and smoke and pieces of metal
flying.
And then, there was silence.
“God, did you see that!” Doil yelled to his pals. He pulled his blue Oldsmobile to a safe
spot, shut off the engine and jumped out. Near the median curb he saw the first body, a
young man with blond hair. He was face down in a bloody mess. Doil had never seen a
dead person before, but he was pretty sure he was looking at one now.
Just a few feet away, there was another young man, dark-haired. He was facing up,
barely breathing. Doil kneeled down and squeezed his hand.
“Hey…” Doil said.
The young man gurgled. There was blood everywhere. Doil saw the eyes close and felt
the life slip out of the young man’s fingers. He let them go.
From the middle of the street, he heard the wounded howl of a woman in paid. He ran to
join his buddies, who were already around her. It was so eerie, all these bodies in the
rain.
“What’s your name?” he asked the woman.
“Lori,” she moaned. She had been driving the white Trans Am, but had been hurled out
by the impact. She was bruised and bleeding, in her dying hour. But out of shock, she
tried to lift herself, as if to get up to go.
“Stay down,” Doil and his friends kept saying. “You hear the sirens?…Help is
coming…Everything will be all right.”
By now, a few other motorists had stopped, and someone shined a flashlight in the
woman’s eyes, which kept rolling back in their sockets. Then Doil heard a voice yell,
“There’s another one, over here!”
He ran to an area by some small trees, where the back half of the Grand Prix had landed.
He swallowed hard. What he saw was the worst of all. It was a girl, or it been a girl, in a
plaid shirt and jeans. She lay against the wreckage in a pool of bloody water. A few
minutes earlier, Doil guessed, she had been the same as him, alive, laughing, maybe 17 or
18, on her way home for the night.
And now the look.
Drink, drink, drive, die. This is the story of a killer, only the killer is a decision to get
behind a wheel. This time it killed in Troy, a place where children still shine, where they
leave their parents dazzled by their achievements. Three of the brightest lights you could
ever imagine were in that black Grand Prix, that night, sober and happy. And now their
fathers cry in the middle of the afternoon, and their mothers wait longingly for them to
somehow burst through the door, still young, still laughing.
Drink, drink, drive, die. This is the story of everyone that killer decision destroyed. And
what really kills you is that it didn’t have to happen.
The baseball player
“Hey, Mom, we got some garlic bread…”
Say good-bye to the first innocent victim. Nineteen-year-old Michael Jamieson, with the
rangy frame of a baseball pitcher, his blond hair still parted in the middle, the way he
wore it in high school, flashed his gleaming smile and held out a fresh-baked loaf.
He had been home a month since finishing freshman year at Western Michigan. His
mother, Penny, was glad to have him back, glad to have the commotion her youngest
child brought with him. There were always friends coming by when Michael was
around. They flopped in her living room couch the way teenagers do, watching TV,
making jokes, sometimes falling asleep and spending the night face down in the pillows.
Penny liked Michael’s friends. She liked Andy Stindt, the former high school lacrosse
star, who was here with Michael now. It was the night of June 2, 1997. The two had just
come from getting their new uniforms at Kruse and Muer, a restaurant where they were
due to start work the next day.
“I don’t know,” Michael said, studying the outfits and grinning. “I think our jeans need
to be tighter. Show off our butts, Haha.”
Michael Jamieson was mischievous and he was witty. He liked the Beatles. He liked
Mountain Dew. And he loved baseball. He kept sports sections boxed up under his bed,
with trading cards of his hero, Nolan Ryan.
When Michael was a kid, his stepfather, Randy Mapes, took him to a baseball camp run
by former Tigers star Bill Freehan. Michael wanted desperately to meet the famous man,
so Randy walked him over.
“Don’t be nervous when you talk to him, OK, Mike? he said.
“OK.”
“He’s just a guy, like you and me.”
“OK”
Then when Freehan looked up, Randy froze.
“Uh…” he mumbled. “I, uh…”
Michael never missed a beat.
“Hi, Mr. Freehan. My name is Michael. This is my father. He’s a little nervous…”
Like a lot of kids in Troy, Michael Jamieson blossomed through a bevy of school
activities. He pitched for the Troy Athens team. He played soccer. He played the viola.
He won an $8,000 scholarship to attend Western and his plan was to become a history
teacher.
For now, he was doing what most college freshmen do on summer break: working to
make some cash. He loved the idea of working with Andy. They remained tight friends,
even though they had chosen different colleges. Hey. Your high school ties are the ones
that blind, aren’t they?
And Michael and Andy had tied it together in high school. They’d done the prom thing
with their girlfriends. They’d hung out in Royal Oak coffee shops. They also took a
senior trip to Hilton Head Island, S.C., that was, for both of them, unforgettable. Each
day they would start walking down the beach, and an hour later they’d come back with
40 new friends. There’s a photo of them on that beach, all tanned skin and young muscle,
surrounded by girls, grinning like bandits.
Penny loves those photos.
“This bread is good, huh?" Her son said that night.
“Mmm,” she answered, smiling through her bites.
They stayed there a few more minutes, talking, eating, just another family moment in the
kitchen. The Michael said they were going over to Andy’s and Penny said OK.
She heard the door close behind them.

badunnin
06-03-2007, 06:22 AM
The lacrosse player
“Hey, Mom, check out your hair!”
Say good-bye to the second innocent victim. Nineteen-year-old Andy Stindt --- they
called him Andy, Andrew, “Drew, whatever fit at the time --- flipped through the pages
of Nan Stindt’s high school yearbook, as she looked lovingly over his shoulder. He
laughed at the photo of her synchronized swimming team. “Look at your hair!” he said
again.
Andy and Michael had driven back to the Stindts’ house in the black Grand Prix that
belonged to Andy’s father, John. The task for the evening was to move a futon into
Andy’s bedroom. But once they’d made the typical college freshmen mess –all the
furniture pushed out in the hallway – Michael mentioned that Nan had graduated high
school with a friend of his mother’s.
“I can’t remember her maiden name,” Michael said.
“Hmm,” Nan said. “Wait a second…”
She dug out her old yearbook. And now she and Andy and Michael sat on the hallway
floor, leafing through pages, sailing through time.
Andy Stindt was a muscular 6-feet-1, strong enough to play defensive line on the Troy
Athens football team, fast enough to be a star defenseman on its lacrosse squad. He had
tremendous hand-eye coordination, and could wield a stick like Zorro’s sword. Once, in
the high school playoffs, he played an entire game with a fractured leg. He never
complained. His thirst for lacrosse was unquenchable, even in college, and he was likely
to be named team captain when he returned to Albion for his sophomore year.
And yet, like many of his Troy friends, Andy did not seem satisfied with sports success.
He was also an exceptional musician, who played the string bass, of all things, an
instrument as big as he was. He pulled the bow across the strings until the low notes
trembled. He loved Tchaikovsky. He even won a scholarship to the prestigious
Interlochen program. Sometimes he and his friends would play music at local
coffeehouses – that is, when they weren’t busy shooting the breeze, entertaining girls.
“Does he ever get mad?” friends would ask of Any. His disposition was unfailingly
upbeat. Maybe he knew how good he had it, loving parents, older brother, nice house,
safe school.
Maybe he knew his time was short.
“We’re gonna go get some coffee,” he told his mother that night, when they finished with
the yearbook.
“But what about all this furniture?”
“Don’t worry, Mom. We’ll finish it tomorrow.”
Believing her son’s tomorrow was just a few hours away, she smiled and said, “Don’t
stay out too late. Be home by 12:30.”
“OK.”
She heard the door close behind them.
The gymnast
“Mom, Dad, I’m going out.”
Say good-bye to the third innocent victim. Ashley Easterbrook, 18, had met Andy and
Mike on a ski trip over the winter. She wasn’t expecting them to call that night, but she
was happy they did. They wanted to go for coffee, and it was cool to go out with college
guys, especially since she was just five days from graduating high school herself.
She looked especially pretty that night, having dolled up for her brother’s sports banquet.
Her father, David, swelled with pride when he watched her pass his table. She had
volunteered to go with her parents simply because her brother, Adam, “is always coming
to my things, so I should go to his.”
This was a teenager?
Well, if you didn’t know Ashley Marie Easterbrook, you might not believe she existed.
How could anyone this young, popular, beautiful and vivacious also be captain of the
gymnastics team, a National Honor Society member, lifeguard at the local aquatics
center, founder of a bilingual tutoring program, and holder of Franklin Planner so stuffed
with activities, it made Bill Gates look like a slacker?
Ashley was a ball of teenage energy, with white teeth, blue eyes and blond highlights on
her camel-colored hair. She was not the best gymnast on the Troy High School team, but
she was captain because of how she made everyone else feel. In the floor routine, her
specialty, she scored well, not only because she could ad-lib a flip or a tumble --- or the
move she practiced in her backyard until her muscles ached, a back layout --- but because
she had a smile that was hard to mark down.
She was smiling in the car ride home from the banquet. She commandeered the radio
knobs and turned up her latest favorite country song, LeAnn Rimes’ remake of
“Unchained Melody.”
“Quiet,” she said, urging everyone to listen to the words.
Oh my love,
My darling,
I hunger for your touch
A long, lonely time…
Ashley hummed along, smiling. As the eldest of child of a top-ranking Kmart executive,
she had moved 12 times in her young life. Teens in that situation loathe it or embrace it.
Ashley embraced it. She made friends wherever she went. She was inquisitive and
unembarrassed, the kind of kid who, at age 7, asked her father where babies came from,
then stopped him in the middle and said, “I don’t want to hear this now.”
Four years later, she came back and said, “OK, Dad. I’m ready the rest.”
And now she was ready for one of the best weeks of her life. She was graduating high
school! At last! There was an honors banquet on Thursday. The diploma ceremony on
Saturday. A blow-out party at her house Saturday night. And then summer and the great,
big world that lay ahead at the University of Michigan nursing school…
Time, goes by
So slowly
And time can do so much…
Ashley’s parents, David and Gail, always had trusted their daughter implicitly. So when
Mike Jamieson and Andy Stindt came to the house that evening, they greeted them the
way they greeted all of Ashley’s friends, with smiles and handshakes. And when the kids
said they were going out for coffee in royal Oak, David and Gail didn’t need to remind
Ashley of her curfew. She knew it. Twelve thirty.
She was never late.
“Bye!” Ashley sang to her parents.
They heard the door close behind her.
The Trans Am
Here is what we know of the other driver that night, the fourth victim, not so innocent.
Or, as some of the parents refer to her, “the murderer.”
She was not an evil person. She had no prior arrests. She was 33 years old. Her name
was Lori Ann Smith. She was married, with a child of her own. She worked as a cook at
the Northfield Hilton. She had a company softball game scheduled for that Monday night
but it was called off due to the rain. At some point, she and her 11-year-old daughter
went to McDonalds for dinner, then visited a friend. Sometime around 9 p.m. she
dropped her daughter at home and went out again, to a restaurant bar.
And she started drinking.
Whom she was drinking with is still in question. How many drinks she had is also in
question. What is not in question is the effect of those drinks.
She was more than legally drunk when she got behind the wheel of her white Trans Am.
And she was traveling somewhere between 80 and 90 miles an hour when she came to
the Crooks and Long Lake intersection, just a few minutes after midnight.
The light was red.
She did not stop
Say good-bye.
FROM THE POLICE REPORT: As a result of the impact between the two vehicles, the
Pontiac Grand Prix was torn apart into two large sections…the front section struck and
jumped the median curb…the rear section also struck and jumped curb…then jumped
another curb, crossed the sidewalk, and came to rest in a water saturated area…
The white Pontiac Trans Am struck and jumped the center median…then once again
struck a curb and jumped the curb…
Two male occupants of the black Grand Prix, Andrew Stindt, the driver, and Michael
Jamieson, the right front seat passenger, were on the curb and the median strip…
The right rear seat passenger, Ashley Easterbrook, was located just outside the
passenger compartment of the Grand Prix, with an arm still inside the vehicle…
Writer could find no signs of life in the three victims…
The horror
Parents who truly know and love their children can always tell when something is wrong.
Penny Mapes, Michael Jamieson’s mother, had the feeling the moment she was
awakened by a phone call around 2 on that wet summer morning. It was a friend of
Ashley Easterbrook’s, trying to locate Ashley. The friend sounded worried.
“I’ll go downstairs and check with Michael,” Penny said. But she was starting to think
Michael wasn’t there either. Just as she reached the first floor, the doorbell rang. Two
police officers stood outside.
“Mrs. Jamieson?” one asked when she opened the door. “Is Mr. Jamieson here…”
At the same time, a few miles away, Nan Stindt woke up and saw the light on in Andy’s
room She felt a shiver. She always left the lights on when the kids were out, so when
they came home and went to sleep, she would know by the darkness that everything was
OK.
No darkness.
Everything was not OK.
She ran into Andy’s room and saw that he wasn’t there. She yelled for her husband.
Then remembering Andy had gone out with Mike, she immediately called Mike’s house..
Penny answered. She sounded odd.
“Penny, the kids aren’t home. Where are they? What’s going on?”
“There was an accident…” Penny whispered. “Michael’s been killed.”
“What?”
There was a stunned silence, the intersection of sympathy and horror.
“Penny…” Nan said slowly. “What about Andy?”
Penny couldn’t find the words.
“Penny?”
What could she say?
“Penny! What about Andy? You have to tell me!”
“Nan,” Penny finally blurted through her tears, “they were all killed. All of them…”
A few miles away, David and Gail Easterbrook were also awake and calling the police.
“Yes…hello…it’s 2:15 a.m. and my daughter isn’t home, and she’s always home, or she
always calls. Something’s wrong.”
“Sir,” the woman from the police department told David, “there’s been an accident this
evening on Crooks and Long Lake. Could you please describe your daughter?”
He described Ashley. Her height. Her weight. Her hair. Her face. He saw her childish
beauty so clearly in his mind’ eye. Uncharacteristically, she had forgotten her wallet,
she had no ID when investigators arrived.
“Please hold on,” the policewoman said.

David waited a minute, maybe two, the world’s most unbearable silence, a child in the
balance. “Total hell.,” he would later call it. How else do you describe it?
“Sir…” the woman said upon returning, “it appears that your daughter was involved in
the accident.”
“Well, what hospital is she in? David said.
“Sir…it was a very bad accident.”
Gail began to weep. David felt dizzy. He ran out the door and hollered at the night sky,
words he never used, angry words, curse words, words of anguish and agony and
disbelief. “NOOOOO! NOOOO!” Neighbors awoke and looked out the window.
Adam, Ashley’s brother, heard his father yelling and began to cry. Gail stood beside
him, numb and sobbing.
When a police officer arrived, David raced up to him. And when the officer said the kids
had done nothing wrong, they hadn’t been drinking, but “sir, I’m sorry, your daughter is
dead,” David thought, not his daughter, not his first-born. She had to graduate from high
school this week.
“Punch me! Hit me! I’m dreaming! It isn’t true! There’s no way! There’s no way!
There’s no way! THERE’S NO BLEEPING WAY!…”
The farewells
Ashley Easterbrook was buried with her mother’s rosary, stuffed animals, varsity letters,
and photos of the gymnastics team.
Andrew Stindt was buried with his lacrosse uniform, a cross from his older brother, and a
golden shell souvenir from Hilton Head.
Michael Jamieson was buried with a Western Michigan flag, a bottle of his favorite
cologne, and a baseball glove.
The funerals were staggered, so that kids from the high schools could attend all three. No
one in Troy could recall bigger gatherings, people spilling into the hallways and
vestibules and front steps. No one could recall more tears.
Lori Ann Smith was buried, too. She is also a victim --- her own. She left a weeping
child and a grieving husband. She had never been arrested for driving drunk before. But
her blood-alcohol level that night was between .14 and .17; well above the legal limits,
and no one will ever be able to ask her what she was thinking.
In the weeks that followed, as the visitors thinned, the grief grew more acute, and the
families yearned for any signs they could find. There’s a light above the shower in John
and Nan Stindt’s bedroom. Now and then, when one of them is around, it flickers on
inexplicably, just holds the light, then goes off.
“that’s Andy,” they say, “he’s telling us he’s all right.”
Meanwhile, Randy Mapes, Michael Jamieson’s stepfather, wears a watch that Michael
had ordered him from Sports Illustrated. After the accident, the watch alarm began to go
off. Randy took it to a repair place, but they said there was nothing wrong with it. The
time when the alarm sound is always the same: 12:16 a.m. The time their son was killed.
“That’s Michael,” they say. “He’s sending us a message.”
Ashley Easterbrook’s father, David, didn’t wait for signs. A make-things-happen man in
his job as human resources director for Kmart, he threw himself headfirst into the issue of
drunken driving. He wrote to judges. He collected data. He gave interviews, spoke in
public. It made him feel somehow closer to the little girl he lost.
Ten days after his daughter’s death, David was in courtrooms, witnessing the way
drunken driving cases were handled. He was flabbergasted. Cases being dismissed,
shuffled through, bargained down.
“One time, I sat in a courtroom with a guy who had a .20 blood-alcohol level after a Red
Wings game,” Easterbrook says. “And this attorney stood up and he said, ‘Your honor,
you gotta understand, the Wings game went into overtime, and my client was caught up
in the excitement. That’s why he was drunk. That’s why he was stopped. But the
Stanley Cup, judge, it hasn’t happened here in 42 years.’
“And I’m sitting in the courtroom and I can’t believe what I’m hearing.”
Ten weeks after the accident, Easterbrook accompanied police on a special patrol. They
arrested nine drunken drivers in seven hours. One woman was weaving all over the road.
When the police handcuffed her and put her in the back of the squad car, she was livid.
“You guys think you’re really big men, don’t you?” she hissed. She glared at David, and
mistook him for a copy. “You should be out arresting murders!…I hope your mother
dies! I hope your wife dies!
“I hope you daughter dies!”
At the woman’s sentencing, David turned and told her, “You were 10 weeks too late.”
In each of the family’s garages now, there are vehicles with bumper stickers. A drunk
driver killed my son.” “A drunk driver killed my daughter.” “A drunk driver killed my
brother.”
And the stunning thing is, there’s a story like this every day.
Tonight is New Years /Eve, a potential disaster for alcohol and vehicles. Last New
Year’s Eve, 50 Americans were killed by drunken drivers. Mothers Against Drunk
Driving estimates that on a typical Friday or Saturday night, there are thousands of
drunken drivers on Oakland County roads lone. And those are nights without champagne
toasts and party hats.
So tonight, what Michael’s family and Andy’s family and Ashley’s family want you to
know, what these weary mothers and fathers and sisters and brothers want you to know,
what these hundred of cousins and uncles and aunts and friends and teammates want you
to know, is simply this: When you drink and drive, you become a potential killer. And
when you kill, you don’t just kill a person. You kill Christmas. You kill New Year’s.
You kill Sunday dinners and Saturday picnics. You kill holidays, vacations. You kill
summer and winter.
You kill photo albums. You kill home movies.
You kill a popular gymnastics captain, and a smiling baseball pitcher, and bass-playing
lacrosse star.
You stop time in its tracks.
You ruin everything for so many people, hanging an anvil of depression around their
necks, and for what? That is what they ask of you: For what? For a Red Wings
celebration? For a New Year’s party? For the simple inconvenience of asking a friend to
drive, or calling a cab?
On the morning of the teenagers’ funerals, David Easterbrook was searching for
something to put in his daughter’s casket. In her bedroom, he discovered a plastic box of
diaries that he never knew she kept. He handed one to Gail, who was sitting on Ashley’s
bed, crying. She opened to a random page. These are the words she saw:
“Dear God --- I wanted to write and say I just heard the best
poem about a girl who didn’t drink but got killed by a drunk
driver. The poem is sad but true. It’s never the person who
drank who gets hurt. It’s scary to think of all the people I know
who drink and maybe a friend of mine could injure or kill me and
another one of my friends. It scares me to DEATH! Literally! If
something were to happen, and I can’t say how I feel, please
make sure my parents know that I love them and Adam with all
my heart, even though I don’t always show it. I do.”
If you drive past Crooks and Long Lake today, you’ll see three large wreaths positioned
around the intersection, each bearing a single red ribbon, one for Ashley, one for
Michael, one for Andy. They sit precisely where that first young man discovered their
bodies, shortly after midnight, when heaven opened in a gentle summer drizzle, and life
met death in a chilling chorus of why, why, why?

Lauren
06-03-2007, 06:54 AM
Bethany,

Thanks for sharing the story with us. I'm crying. My heart goes out to the familes and friends of Andy, Michael and Ashley. It's an important reminder for all of us. I'll be printing out a copy for my 16 yo to read.

funnybone
06-03-2007, 06:57 AM
After all these years, I am sorry for your loss. Tragedies like this, as painful as they are, are always needed as a reminder. In this day and age, when so called celebrities think their DUI's are nothing but a nuisance, it's obvious that many still don't get the message.

BaileyJune
06-03-2007, 07:16 AM
What a heartbreaking story. I'm so sorry for your loss.

mom2garret
06-03-2007, 07:21 AM
Wow. VERY moving. I am sorry for you senseless loss. People need to realize the tradgedy of drinking and driving.
Jodi

MaryMac
06-03-2007, 08:30 AM
I am so sorry for the loss of your friends and happy that you chose to remember them daily by naming your cats after them. As we are now in graduation season I hope I can find this article on the Free Press archives and print it for my daughter. She graduates next Sunday and we live two few miles from where this terrible accident happened. I drive by the intersection almost dialy and I will think of your friends often now. This reminds ALL of us to check the oncoming traffic even if you have the green light. Thank you for sharing this with us.

beacooker
06-03-2007, 08:35 AM
That was very moving. I'm going to save that article, and give it to my boys to read when they are teenagers.

So sorry for your loss, Bethany.

TKay
06-03-2007, 10:45 AM
Always good to have this reminder. I'm sorry for the loss you continue to feel.

bobmark226
06-03-2007, 10:52 AM
That's an outstanding piece, Bethany, thanks for sharing and I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm sure you all know and do this already, but I hope those of you who are parents not only warn your children about drinking (period) and driving, but perhaps more so, beating it into their heads to never ever get into a car with someone who is intoxicated or high in any way. This past week, a much loved local youth, a young man full or promise and headed for college in the fall, was killed, a passenger in the car of a drinking friend. Horribly sad, and it could have been avoided.

Bob

LaraW
06-03-2007, 01:05 PM
Thank you for sharing that piece, Bethany. I am so sorry for your loss.

TieKitty
06-03-2007, 01:43 PM
Thank you for sharing that story. We all take so much for granted and think that life is infinite. It isn't, of course, and can be taken from us in a heartbeat. I'm sorry for your loss and am happy that you have your cats to remind you of your friendships. God bless you!

Robyn1007
06-03-2007, 02:49 PM
Bethany, although you've mentioned your friends before I didn't know the story behind their tragic deaths. Thank you so much for posting the story and sharing your pain with us in hopes that just one life is saved. I wish that I could be there to give you a hug and help you through this difficult anniversary. (((Bethany)))

badunnin
06-03-2007, 03:24 PM
Thanks all. :) I've had a very pleasant day, all things considered, spent with friends. I feel very fortunate to have known Mike, Andy and Ashley for the short time that I did, and I am very grateful to have this article written by such an eloquent writer - I did have the opportunity to meet Mitch at one point, and I thanked him for remembering my friends in such a poignant way. Those trips to SC are hard for me to read about - my brother was one of that group of boys. My parents were more tolerant than most of teen drinking, and it wasn't unusual for me to walk downstairs on a Sunday morning to a family room full of teen boys, crashed everywhere. I'd make a pot of coffee, and Mike would always get up and join me in the living room or on the deck, and we'd talk about boys (for me) and girls (for him) and college and life.... Both Mike and Andy had brothers that I graduated with, and I still keep in contact with Mike's brother.

MaryMac - we must live very close to each other. :) For several years I would drive out of my way to work to avoid that intersection. I still don't like driving through it, especially west bound. The irony is that both Andy and Ashley are at the cemetary right there - Mike was cremated.