Reunited with high school sweetheart!

[Lucinda]

I've been wanting to share my big news for a while-- last summer I met up with my high school sweetheart, the first boy I ever kissed who was also the first boy who broke my heart. We got back in touch in 2003-- he was Googling on-line radio shows and he came across an interview I had done in 2000. We hadn't talked for nearly ten years at that point. We started emailing (he lives in Scotland, I live in California) and last summer we met in Paris for a few days. Romance rebloomed and we're now trying to figure out how we can be together full time.

So, my question to my fellow BBers is: Have any of you reunited with a long lost love? If so, how has it turned out? It is apparently quite the phenomenon-- I just read a book that had dozens of stories, including some celebrities, about reunited lovers and the incredibly strong bonds they re-establish when they get together again. I would love to hear from my fellow BBers.

[jrichards]

How exciting for you! It seems nice to reconnect like that, especially with so much shared history. As long as it was mainly good!

Was the book by any chance from Rudolph Guiliani's ex-wife? If so, I read that too.

Jennifer

[Lucinda]

It was that book. I've also read some research on the topic that indicates couples who reunite have a very high chance of ending up together in a long term relationship.

[SheRa]

how wonderful! best of luck in figuring out a way to make it work! i don't have experience with long lost loves, just long distance relationships. keep us posted!

[dixie]

not me personally, but my college roommate's mom and her high school bf reunited at their 20 year hs reunion after both were widowed, by age 40 they were married to each other and have been for over 30 years...very happily!

[GingerPow]

My grandmother died in the early 1970's, she and my grandfather had been married for about 50 years.

The year following her death my grandfather, who was well into his 70's, went to his high school reunion. It was a small high school in Minnesota, and since so many years had passed, the reunion was for people who graduated over a several year span, not just one graduating class.

My grandfather met a widow who was a few years younger than him. She had been a sophomore when he returned to high school to complete his senior year upon his Army discharge after fighting in France in WWI. (Can you imagine?) She admitted to him that she had a huge crush on the "older man" back then.

Well, a romance started right then and there. Within 6 months, they were married. They spent the rest of my grandfather's life traveling and enjoying a wonderful life together. They were one of those couple's who dressed alike. DH and I don't do that (on purpose) but it was sure cute to see how they enjoyed each other.

My grandfather died during one of their trips, and his wife lived another 20 years, passing away at the age of 101.

Keep us posted on your re-discovered romance Lucinda!

[Gilgamesh37]

A close male friend reunited with the great lost love of his life. Unlike your situation (I think, since you haven't said otherwise) they were both married to other people at the time. It is did not work out well and essentially shredded two families in the process. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear but felt it important to point out that it does NOT always end in hearts and violets.

[mackandme]

Yes, i have had a similar relationship. I dated a guy from when i was 16 to 20. We went to four proms together! We had first met at summer camp when i was about 9. Anyhow, after we broke up we did NOT keep in touch. I moved to Texas after college, and at one point did think that i never should have broken up with him.

Well, less than a year after that thought, his mom left a very vague message on my parents' answering machine. She didn't leave her number, but somehow i still remembered it after 7 years. I called her back, and as it turns out she was just so excited that Aus had come home from Afghanistan (he was in the Army) that she called everyone in her address book. After some phone conversations with him, a visit at the airport here while he was on a layover flying cross country, we decided to give it a whirl and he came and visited me for a week. And immediately we were back together. We dated for two years, all of it long distance. Part of the time he was stationed in upstate New York, and for a year he was in Iraq.

Unfortunately, when he got out of the Army he moved in with me and it was a total disaster. Without the structure of the Army he went back to being the same person I had dumped in college. He also had some post-Iraq anger issues. We broke up a month later.

While it didn't turn into forever, i don't regret the experience one bit. It also got me back in touch with his mom, and she and i are still close, even though he and i broke up (for the final time) almost 3 years ago. To her i was always the daughter she never had. She gives me great advice and i'm so glad she's in my life.

I hope things work out great for you two. Just remember that things in person will not work out exactly as they do when you are dating long distance (that goes for any relationship). Good luck to you!

[Lucinda]

I really enjoy being with someone who knows my backstory (and whose backstory I know). The distance is tricky-- if we were in the same area code we would see one another more often before making a bold plunge, but in our current situation, it's either a bold plunge or continuing long distance. I'm not sure yet how this will turn out, but it's been fun being reunited with someone who played such an important part in my early life. . .

[gordon]

Funny you should mention this subject. Sort of by accident, I ran across an email address for my first boyfriend all through school. I hadn't seen or talked to him in 35 years, since I graduated from high school. I emailed him just to see how he was doing and really to apologize for how we ended things. I always felt that it was sort of my fault and that I treated him bad. It was like we never missed a beat. He is divorced raising his sons, but me, I've been married for 25 years. We've been emailing off and on now for 6 months, just talking about our lives, children, jobs, etc. He lives about 20 miles from me. I know that at this point in my life, things are what they are, and I can't change anything. But I know if I were single again, we would be together in an instant. Funny how things turn out. Good luck to you.