Haircut comments- Nice (not!)

[donnamp14]

Gotta love Monday mornings. I just came into work with a new haircut, inspired by JeAnne's gorgeous new style, and I was feeling pretty good. It's quite short, but will grow and be styled a little differently next time.

Comment from an obnoxious colleague: "Why did you cut your hair? It used to look so good!"

Well, it did not look good longer. It was just hanging there, drawing attention to me chin(s). I am 50+, and my hair is fine and it just hung. I like this new look. My question is: Why is a rude comment like this having such an impact on how I feel today? :confused: I just want to go home and get under the covers. I know better than that!

Thanks for the vent. Carry on!

-Donna

[manetta]

You should have responded "What happened to your brain? It used to function a little."

Sorry you had such a rotten start to your day. I'm sure your hair looks great. :)

[KristiB]

I'm sure your hair looks great too.

And that was RUDE!

I'd pull them aside and try to make them feel really bad about it. Lay on a major guilt trip. :)

[Robyncz]

People are morons. End of story.

(Enjoy your fun new cut. I'm sure it looks great!)

[donnamp14]

I decided that I will tell EVERYONE what she said! Anyone who notes how nice my new 'do is, will hear her comments! Ha!

Thanks for the buck-up this morning, friends! I'm getting the last laugh!

-Donna

(PS I still can't believe she said that out loud! :rolleyes: )

[GingerPow]

Comment from an obnoxious colleague: "Why did you cut your hair? It used to look so good!"
Thanks for the vent. Carry on! -Donna
Like it would have been so difficult for her to say, "Donna, love the new 'do - you look great!" That's just bad manners, or maybe a bit of envy.

Enjoy your new cut - just got one myself. Since I've been frustrated at not being able to find a hairdresser in my area who is up to date on the latest cuts and techniques, I made an appointment with my DD's hairdresser in Philadelphia. He's 23 and absolutely adorable and does a fabulous cut on her hair. Wow, is this young man talented! I had several inches lopped off and I love it. I've received compliments on it, MIL said it makes me look 10 years younger - I'll go for that.

This is the picture I showed him and the hairstyle he gave me. I'll gladly drive 1-1/2 hours to get this quality of a cut.

Donna - enjoy your new haircut and how it makes you feel! And oh yes, definitely 'share' your co-workers comments.;)
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[Vanessa]

Hi:
ome people don't think before speaking. Don't let it spoil your day. The way I see it is your hair and if they don't like it well thats their problem Smile & enjoy your new do.

[stacy7272]

I've experienced feeling like I look good only to have a negative comment said to me and then I think, "Hmm - I thought I looked good, I guess I was wrong."

But I've since had this revelation. Think about when you see a hot guy. You point him out to your friend and she says that he's gross. Do you then think that he's gross or do you think that it is just too bad that she doesn't share your opinion because she's missing out on this hot guy? I know that I think the latter. If my opinion on someone else's appearance isn't going to change because of a different person's opinion on that person then I'm not going to change my opinion of myself because of another person's opinion.

Easier said than done unfortunately but worth a try. :)

[SusanMac]

Forget about the crappy, annoying coworker comments...

we want to see pic's of your new 'do!

[manetta]

Forget about the crappy, annoying coworker comments...

we want to see pic's of your new 'do!

I second this. :)

[badunnin]

I decided that I will tell EVERYONE what she said! Anyone who notes how nice my new 'do is, will hear her comments! Ha!

Thanks for the buck-up this morning, friends! I'm getting the last laugh!

-Donna

(PS I still can't believe she said that out loud! :rolleyes: )

While I agree that her comment was rude, is it any less rude to do this to her?

[Terrie53]

Why is it so hard to be respectful and nice? I just don't get it. I'm sure we have all had a hair cut or have a friend who has had one that someone else felt was unflattering. Why spoil it for them by giving a negative comment. Keep it to yourself!

When I get my haircut, I feel great!! I really don't care who likes it. I do care about how it makes me feel....not them!

Chin up, Donna! I know you look and feel great! Hold your head high!

In a day or two, I would double back to the individual who made the comment about your hair and let this person know how it made you feel. But, that's just me! This is something I would need to do to get closure to the whole thing for me.

And, I also want to see a picture of your new and beautiful haircut!

[VALERIEA234]

This Person Must Have Had Her Brain In A Sack For That Day...
As Long As You Like The New Style, Why Care What Some "dimmy" Person Has To Say.
Val

[TKay]

And the picture is coming when? ;)
I would take the high road and just let the comment go. Chalk it up to jealousy. That's what I always do. :p

[Jessnc]

What a rude comment. That was very unnecessary. After all, you didn't cut your hair to please her. Enjoy your new cut and flaunt it! :D

[Kayaksoup]

What posesses people to do that? As long as you know your cut looks good, that is what matters....

While I agree that her comment was rude, is it any less rude to do this to her?

You are kidding right? Please tell me you are not trying to take a moral high road here. Sometimes, mean comments deserve mean comments back. It is certainly no worse than telling someone that you and your friends had a good laugh at how pathetic he was for loving his dogs a little TOO much.....

[Robyn1007]

What posesses people to do that? As long as you know your cut looks good, that is what matters....



You are kidding right? Please tell me you are not trying to take a moral high road here. Sometimes, mean comments deserve mean comments back. It is certainly no worse than telling someone that you and your friends had a good laugh at how pathetic he was for loving his dogs a little TOO much.....

The big difference I see in those two situations is that this is a workplace situation. Certainly the comment was rude and uncalled for but it seems childish to do a campaign of embarrassment to anyone who will listen.

[Terrie53]

The big difference I see in those two situations is that this is a workplace situation. Certainly the comment was rude and uncalled for but it seems childish to do a campaign of embarrassment to anyone who will listen.

I agree! The deed is done. Why go back and display the same behaviors as the original behavior that offended you?

Wait a couple of days and approach the individual and talk through the situation. It should remain between the two of you and not become an issue in the workplace.

[donnamp14]

Thanks, everyone! As far as the picture, maybe I'll humiliate myself and get batteries for the digital camera!

For the record, this person makes rude comments to everyone (except the boss). Everyone I told the tale to laughed and related tales of what she'd said to them.

Thanks again. I do like the haircut.... Now about the weight and maybe contacts.... ;)

-Donna

[newtricks]

. I like this new look. My question is: Why is a rude comment like this having such an impact on how I feel today? :confused:

Donna - There is the 80/20 rule. Even when 80% of people respond to something (like a new haircut) positively, we focus on the 20% who respond negatively. It makes no sense but it's human nature. :)

[luv2cook]

So when you go from shoulder length long hair to short above your ears and no one says anything either way....? What do you say to that, sports fans???:eek:

[Robyn1007]

So when you go from shoulder length long hair to short above your ears and no one says anything either way....? What do you say to that, sports fans???:eek:

The people you've been around are blind! :p :D

[bobmark226]

Donna, will it make you feel any better to know that when this fringed bald guy shaved his head completely, well before Michael Jordan made it accepable, that virtually everyone, from lover to casual co-worker insulted me in one way or another about it?

There are always people who will be unkind. Fortunately, the majority know better. Try to keep in mind the mantra that JeAnne was given, paraphrased here, that it's not what other people think, it's what you know to be true.

And if you see it as a happy improvement, that's really all that matters.

Enjoy!

Bob

[donnamp14]

Thank you, Bob. Thank you very much!!!!
-Donna
(
PS- My own honey is thinking about shaving his head, and I say go for it! It's hot, as Paris says!)

[SusanMac]

Bobmark - you were so ahead of your time!!