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Canice
10-04-2007, 02:39 AM
Some of you will remember that my "big sister" died in November 2005 -- I'd already lost my father and brother.
Sadly, my mother suffered a major stroke on Monday afternoon and died in the hospital on Wednesday. My only small consolation is in knowing how peaceful and comfortable and relaxed she looked when last I saw her, deep in some other place, reclined in her hospital bed.
Just a week ago, we tore off together into Napa for a birthday lunch for me, out on the terrace of Bistro Don Giovanni, and then off for a couple of errands. I phoned her on Sunday to thank her for the fun outing, and then got "the call" a day later.
Both siblings, both parents gone now -- just me.
Canice, I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Peace and prayers to you.
Vicky
Deechef
10-04-2007, 03:27 AM
Canice...........
I am so sorry for your losses and really don't know what to say. You will be in my prayers.
newcook
10-04-2007, 03:58 AM
Canice, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. May I offer you my condoleances. How very sad.
Chefzhat
10-04-2007, 04:08 AM
Awwww, Canice. :( I'm so terribly sorry for your loss.
Hugs and hugs and hugs
beacooker
10-04-2007, 04:21 AM
Oh, Canice. I am so so sorry to hear that. :( I am glad to hear that you and your mom had a good time together soon before she died, and that she died peacefully. I hope you can share in some of the peace she felt.
Melman
10-04-2007, 04:26 AM
Canice, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You'll be in my thoughts.
suebear37
10-04-2007, 04:47 AM
(((Canice)))
So very sorry... may you find peace & comfort in your memories of your mom in the days ahead.
mom2garret
10-04-2007, 05:02 AM
Canice, I am very sorry. I am happy that you were able to enjoy your birthday with your mom.
I wish you strength and peace in the days that follow.
Jodi
lindrusso
10-04-2007, 05:02 AM
Oh, Canice I was so hoping your thread didn't have the negative connotations I feared it did.
But please know that however alone you may feel, you are not alone.
Peace and strength,
Alysha
HejazSunKat
10-04-2007, 05:13 AM
(((Canice))) - I'm so saddened to hear of your loss. What a shock to lose a parent that way. I have had this happen with important people in my life too - my mother (20 years ago) and my FIL (4 years ago) and there is no overstating the pain of losing someone so unexpectedly. Like with your mother, DH and I had a wonderful trip with him (to Paris) just days before FIL passed away and that means so much that we had that wonderful time together with him and MIL. You have been so blessed to have your mother in your life as long as you did and I'm sure she has loved having you so nearby these past couple of years. Wishing you peace.
((Canice)) - I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
bobmark226
10-04-2007, 05:23 AM
Oh, Canice, I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you.
Bob
mrswaz
10-04-2007, 05:45 AM
((Canice)), My deepest sympathies. I'll be thinking of you in my prayers.
wallycat
10-04-2007, 05:50 AM
Canice,
words can't express my sorrow and anguish I feel for you/with you at this moment.
May you find peace and fabulous memories.
You know I'm here to talk if you need to PM me.
(((((((((((((((((((((CANICE))))))))))))))))))))))) )))))))))))
IndyKF
10-04-2007, 05:51 AM
I am so sorry to hear this. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
muriel3002
10-04-2007, 05:52 AM
(((Canice)))
gertdog
10-04-2007, 05:53 AM
((((Canice)))). I'm so sorry for your loss.
Alethea
10-04-2007, 06:06 AM
Canice, I'm so very sorry. You're in my thoughts.
newtricks
10-04-2007, 06:10 AM
(((Canice))) I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I know from your posts that you were a wonderful daughter. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
If I could bring you a big pot of soup right now I would.
clairea
10-04-2007, 06:12 AM
I am so sorry. I will be thinking of you.
BucknellAlum
10-04-2007, 06:17 AM
So, so sorry to hear your sad news. . . my sympathies to you and everyone mourning with you
gdnr77
10-04-2007, 06:24 AM
I'm so sorry Canice,
My thoughts are with you, and may the memories of your mom comfort you in the days ahead.
Joan
Chris415
10-04-2007, 06:29 AM
Canice, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I don't even know what to say. But I'm sending you healing thoughts and peace during this difficult time.
Chris
HealthyinMN
10-04-2007, 06:31 AM
Canice - Jeff and I are so very sorry to hear the news of your loss. I wish we were near to give you a big hug!
cocoa'smom
10-04-2007, 06:43 AM
I am so sorry, Canice. I can't find the words.......I am thinking of you. I'm glad you have good memories of your time with your mom to comfort you.
ErinM
10-04-2007, 06:47 AM
Oh, Canice, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I wish you comfort and will keep you in my thoughts.
SandyM
10-04-2007, 06:49 AM
Canice - my heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Hugs to you, sweet friend.
VAcooker
10-04-2007, 06:50 AM
Oh Canice--I am so very sorry. Please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. From your posts about you and your mom, I too think you were a wonderful daughter. My heart is heavy as I type this and I am thinking of you and wishing you comfort.
Andrea_2
10-04-2007, 06:54 AM
Canice - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you.
linsleyd
10-04-2007, 06:55 AM
Oh my gosh. My heart goes out to you and I have tears. I'm so so sorry for your losses.
I lost my brother last year, it's devastating.
I'm going to pm you something that really helped me get through the grief.
(((hugs)))
Terri_A
10-04-2007, 06:59 AM
Canice-
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. You and your mom seemed to have a great bond that I'm sure will last well beyond her life. I'm glad you got the chance to create new memories with her this past weekend. I know you will miss her dearly and I hope that you know that you're not ever really alone. I'll be thinking of you and praying for you.
Cookin4Love
10-04-2007, 07:01 AM
{{{{Canice}}}} I'm so sorry. Words can't even touch the sorrow you must be experiencing.
mmbedard
10-04-2007, 07:04 AM
Please accept my condolences Canice. I hope your memories can give you some comfort. (((Canice)))
MKSquared
10-04-2007, 07:04 AM
I don't know that anything I could say could bring you comfort, but I'm so sorry, Canice.
memartha
10-04-2007, 07:05 AM
Canice,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have the memory of your outing to Napa. Hugs.
Martha
Kayaksoup
10-04-2007, 07:05 AM
I am so sorry to hear this Canice. My thoughts are with you.
Robyn1007
10-04-2007, 07:06 AM
Oh, Canice, I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. (((Canice)))
greek salad
10-04-2007, 07:14 AM
I am so sorry. All I can say is to reach out to your friends for support and love. You are not alone.
My condolences.
EllenL
10-04-2007, 07:19 AM
I am so sorry. I'm sure the shock and grief must be overwhelming. I'm just glad for you that you saw your mom so recently and had spent quality time together---at least no regrets there.
tamawrite
10-04-2007, 07:21 AM
Oh, Canice. I am deeply sorry. I know it's small, small comfort compared to all you have lost, but you are much loved and appreciated here and you're always welcome to come and vent. You are in my prayers.
sneezles
10-04-2007, 07:23 AM
Dear Canice,
My heart breaks for you. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your mother. Please know I will keep you in my prayers.
ourthreegirls
10-04-2007, 07:30 AM
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.
TieKitty
10-04-2007, 07:32 AM
Dear Canice,
What a terrible loss you've suffered. Please know that you are in everyone's prayers. Remember that it may feel that way, but you are not "just me".
((((( )))))
slknight
10-04-2007, 07:45 AM
(((Canice))), I'm terribly sorry for your loss.
ChristyMarie
10-04-2007, 07:46 AM
I'm so sorry. I reaaly don't know what to say. May you find comfort in her memory.
JHaris
10-04-2007, 07:49 AM
((((Canice))))
I am so very sorry for your loss. May happy memories be your support in the days to come.
Joan
mcgeiger
10-04-2007, 07:56 AM
(((Canice)))
testkitchen45
10-04-2007, 07:59 AM
((((Canice))))
I am so very sorry for your loss, and grateful for the good times you had together. :(
I know you feel very alone right now, but please know that we on the BB are thinking of you, and offer you sympathy and companionship in your loss. You are in my prayers.
leightx
10-04-2007, 08:00 AM
Canice, I'm so sorry for your loss.
ClaraB
10-04-2007, 08:01 AM
I'm so sorry about your loss, Canice. I know it's all the harder, since your mother was the last member of your immediate family. Your mother must have been a really special woman to have raised a wonderful person like you.
((((Canice)))) You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
CompassRose
10-04-2007, 08:02 AM
I'm so sorry, Canice.
helios7
10-04-2007, 08:16 AM
I'm very sorry for your loss. :(
Minky
10-04-2007, 08:31 AM
Canice,
I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Sheila
SheRa
10-04-2007, 08:34 AM
((((((((Canice))))))))) my thoughts are with you in this difficult time.
Canice, I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself. Michelle
seathyme
10-04-2007, 08:40 AM
:( :( Oh Canice, what terribly sad news. I am so very sorry you've suffered yet another profound loss. Please give yourself time and space for grief, and know how much your cyber-community cares. :(
patissac
10-04-2007, 08:41 AM
(((( Canice)))) You are in my thoughts and prayers
LittleBrownCat
10-04-2007, 08:51 AM
My sympathies on the loss of your mother. Just remember you are never truly alone.
Canice, please know you are in my thoughts. I am so sorry for your loss.
oceanjasper
10-04-2007, 08:54 AM
I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it must be to lose a parent. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
generic
10-04-2007, 09:02 AM
(((((Canice))))) It truly brings me sorrow to hear your sad news. :( I'm glad you found some comfort in your last moments with her.
As you can see from all the posts, you are genuinely loved by many many people here. I hope that helps you feel a little less "all alone."
aggie94
10-04-2007, 09:17 AM
Oh Canice, I am so saddened to hear this news and so very sorry for your loss. I know how close you and your mother were. I'm sure she knows she's left a wonderful legacy in you.
Cherise
10-04-2007, 09:18 AM
Canice, I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. The loss of a loved one is not easy to deal with when it's expected, much less when it is so sudden. Having lost both my parents, and being an only child (basically), I can relate to that sense of being "just me". It's a very lonely feeling. Please take comfort and support from your friends (IRL and here in cyber space) and know that you are not truly alone. Also remember that you carry a part of your loved ones with you always, in your heart and in your mind. They are a part of you and live on through you. Wishing you the strength to get through this difficult time.
boisewinesnob
10-04-2007, 10:14 AM
Canice,
I'm so sorry to hear this news. Hugs and prayers for you.
honeygirl1971
10-04-2007, 10:59 AM
Canice, I'm truly saddened to read this and so sorry for your loss. :(
Jalapeno
10-04-2007, 11:14 AM
I am so sorry. You will be in my prayers.
manetta
10-04-2007, 11:24 AM
I am so very sorry for your loss, Canice. Peace to you in the days to come.
Oh Canice, I'm so sorry to hear this. (()) May her memory be a blessing to you.
Helene
springsgourmet9
10-04-2007, 11:39 AM
Oh Canice, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Always know that we are all here for you if you ever need someone to talk to.
Kahlico
10-04-2007, 11:39 AM
((((Canice))))) My prayers are with you.
~Emilie~
1MegMeg
10-04-2007, 12:13 PM
I am so sorry Canice, my thoughts are with you....miles away in Florida. ((()))
Gecko
10-04-2007, 12:22 PM
Canice, I am so very sorry to hear the news about your mom. Take care of yourself and remember that we are always here for you.
MaryMac
10-04-2007, 12:22 PM
Canice, I'm sorry for you loss and hope that your fond memories of you mom will last with you. Having your birthday lunch with her hopefully will give you warm feelings to help you through this sad time in your life.
Mary
mcgee
10-04-2007, 12:51 PM
Dear Canice, I am so very sorry for your loss.
Oh, Canice. What shocking and awful news. I am so sorry you are going through this. What a big loss. I hope it is some sort of comfort to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I had words to help you through this.
:(
kcmo727
10-04-2007, 01:13 PM
I am so very sad to hear this, Canice. I am so sorry. It is difficult to understand the challenges and tragedies of this life. Please take good care of yourself and remember that you have so many friends here that are thinking of you, your mom and your family with love and concern.
KathrynY
10-04-2007, 01:23 PM
(((Canice))) I'm so sorry.
LakeMartinGal
10-04-2007, 01:27 PM
Canice, I'm sorry for your loss. I hope it brings you comfort and peace to have the happy memories of your last visit with her, and that you seem to have been a great daughter! Your posts have always included stories of the good times you have spent with her. It seems she went peacefully, and that, also, should be comfort!
As nice as you are, you will never be alone!
Please know that we are here for you, and sigmaration (my DD1) is only a couple of blocks away, should you need someone to bum with!;)
(((((Canice)))))
lisas3575
10-04-2007, 01:30 PM
Canice, my heart goes out to you. I can tell you feel really alone right now-- hopefully all of the people here that love you are bringing you some solace. What a wonderful memory to have of that last outing in Napa. She'll be in your heart forever. Hugs to you, dear friend.
donleyk
10-04-2007, 01:36 PM
Canice,
My deepest sympathy to you. I'm glad you had that outing with your mom. Hugs to you.
((Canice)). I am so sorry.
Beth H
10-04-2007, 01:48 PM
I am so sorry for your loss.
PAMMELA
10-04-2007, 01:50 PM
(((((Canice)))))
Robyncz
10-04-2007, 02:26 PM
My sympathies, Canice. How wonderful that you and your mother were able to spend some special time together so recently. And that you got the chance to thank her for it.
I know there will be difficult times ahead. I hope your memories bring you comfort and peace.
jphilg
10-04-2007, 02:29 PM
I'm so sorry. I wish you peace.
Canice,
I am so very sorry. I was just going to write and ask how she is doing - came here first. Oh, Canice. So sad to hear this.
I have such a fun visual of your mom in my head now after we talked the other day. I am sure she was a great woman and one I am sorry I never got to meet.
Please know you are not alone. You have so many fun memories and experiences you shared with your Mom. She will always be with you. And of course all of us!!
You are in my thoughts and prayers these days....
Meg
Wendi
10-04-2007, 03:33 PM
Canice,
I'm so sorry to hear this news... and send my deepest sympathy for your loss. Will keep you in my thoughts.
Wendi
greta
10-04-2007, 03:35 PM
Canice,
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. May some light be sent your way.
Hugs, Greta
badunnin
10-04-2007, 03:35 PM
Canice - I'm so very sorry to hear this. I always read your stories of outings with your mom fondly. I hope that you know that even if you feel lonely, you are never alone. Sending many hugs and comforting thoughts.
jmarie
10-04-2007, 03:59 PM
I am so sorry to hear this. how wonderful that you were able to share a last birthday together and the memories of that will be treasured for a lifetime.
Joyce
syzygy
10-04-2007, 05:20 PM
(((((Dear Canice))))) I'm so very sorry for your loss. :(
When you are able to begin to heal, may your mother's memory ever be a blessing and a comfort to you.
AzAnne
10-04-2007, 05:31 PM
Canice,
My deepest sympathy for your loss. Please know that you are not alone.
VALERIEA234
10-04-2007, 05:55 PM
I am so sorry Canice. I lost my mom almost 2 yrs ago and i miss her very much....((((((((((((((((((((hugs to you))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
val
fstrpstr
10-04-2007, 06:06 PM
Canice, I know nothing I could say can help with your pain. Your loss is so very great. I can only offer is my prayers. Know there are people out here who are thinking of you at this time and we will continue to keep you in our prayers. You are not forgotten. You are loved!
phantomcg
10-04-2007, 06:08 PM
((((((((((Canice))))))))))
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Words never seem to be "enough" at a time like this, but my thoughts and prayers are with you. The love that you and your Mom shared will live on forever in your heart and in your memories. I pray that you will find peace, healing and comfort in your memories.
Many, many, many hugs,
Cheryl
zackaboo
10-04-2007, 06:27 PM
Hugs and prayers coming your way Canice. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother.
colleency
10-04-2007, 07:01 PM
Oh, Canice! I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My heart is with you.
Jessnc
10-04-2007, 07:16 PM
Canice, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the grief you must be dealing with at this time.
CindyWeightWatcher
10-04-2007, 07:16 PM
Canice,
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I PM'd you.
LaraW
10-04-2007, 07:21 PM
Canice, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know from your postings how close you and she were. Take care, and know that we're all thinking of you during this time.
(((Hugs)))
Canice, I'm so sorry for you loss and the shock you have had. I am losing my mother in bits and pieces, and I hate it. There is no good way. It is a blessing that you had just shared a special time together and your last memories are a good time and then her at peace. Cherish them.
Kristena
10-04-2007, 08:04 PM
Oh, Canice, it is just you, now. But, YOU is strong and wise and will carry on...even if this isn't grammitically correct. Your's is a rough and wild history with your family and I hope things can be put to rest and peace. You have a good soul. Be peaceful.
Tena, class of '82, Redwood High, friend to Heidi B.
RecipeGirl
10-04-2007, 08:10 PM
Canice,
I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Glad you have wonderful memories. It sounds like you had a terrific, close relationship with your mother. That's something to be thankful for. Take care of yourself, and your online friends send you lots of HUGS!
Gumbeaux
10-04-2007, 08:15 PM
My prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Kiwismommy
10-04-2007, 08:27 PM
I am so, so sorry for your loss! I get the feeling, though, that you have a lot of support around you.
hugs,
Danita
KristiB
10-04-2007, 08:31 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about this.My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kay Henderson
10-04-2007, 09:22 PM
I am so sorry for your loss, Canice! How many wonderful memories the two of you made for each other.
You will be in all of our thoughts and prayers.
Kay
jrichards
10-04-2007, 09:36 PM
Canice - I am so sorry to hear this! I can't even imagine how you feel right now.
I'm sure you have a lot of people IRL and from your many BB affiliations to give you love/support. It also sounds from your posts that you have a wonderful DBF to lean on. Hopefully other family is around as well to talk with and share concrete memories.
I remember reading about your bday lunch with your mom. Glad you had that nice outing recently.
My thoughts are with you.
Jennifer
misskitty100
10-05-2007, 12:21 AM
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. You will be in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
Farhana
10-05-2007, 05:18 AM
I'm sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you.
Chelle D
10-05-2007, 05:24 AM
((((Canice)))) I am so sorry.
TitlePending
10-05-2007, 09:15 AM
((((Canice)))) Your walk is not one I have had to take so I can't possibly comprehend the depth of your sorrow, but my heart simply aches for your loss. Linda ~
Jessica
10-05-2007, 03:46 PM
I am so sorry for your loss and for the suddenness of your mother's death. Thinking of you as you move through this rough time.
Jessica
karen w
10-05-2007, 04:20 PM
{{CANICE}} Take care of yourself. Extending my sympathy to you during this stressful time.
Karen
Peggy
10-05-2007, 04:35 PM
(((Canice))) My heart breaks when I think of all the loved ones you have lost in such a short period of time.:( You have been dealt a tough hand and you have endured it with such grace, strength and courage. You will be in my thoughts and prayers in the difficult weeks to come. If you need to escape SF and get a change of scenery, please come up for a visit. I haven't had the pleasure of your company in a few years and we could do some wineries or discover a great restaurant!
Hugs!
Peggy
cher48603
10-05-2007, 04:54 PM
Canice - I'm so sorry for your loss.
Natasha
10-06-2007, 04:50 PM
Canice...
Sorry I'm late seeing this. I'm so very sorry to hear about your mother. You will be in my thoughts.
Natasha
cookinator
10-06-2007, 06:13 PM
Thinking of you.
emily
10-06-2007, 09:52 PM
Oh, Canice. I am so sorry to read this. I wish I was still there to support you in person. :( I am so sorry for your loss and the "alone" feelings you have right now. Know that I am virtually there for you. {{{Canice}}}
Lobb,
Emily
lonetree1353
10-06-2007, 10:53 PM
Canice, I am so sorry for your loss.
I lost my mom on my birthday this past April but luckily have my sister still. Take care of yourself.
shscharles
10-07-2007, 05:42 AM
Canice,
Please know you are not alone. May strength and peace be yours.
Sonja.
Lrimerman
10-07-2007, 06:46 AM
Canice,
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in your memories and that fact that your last outing with your mom was so sweet.
Lisa
buffygirl
10-07-2007, 02:30 PM
Canice, I haven't been on in a few days and wanted to say how sorry I am. Hugs and prayers coming your way.
Kim
GingerPow
10-07-2007, 07:36 PM
Both siblings, both parents gone now -- just me.
(((Canice))) My sincere sympathies to you on the loss of your dear mother.
I'm so sorry to read that your father, brother and sister have all passed away. The love you all share is a bond that can never be broken.
My prayers are sent your way to feel that love around you now, and to bring you peace.
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