Okay - I did it. I joined eHarmony.

[foodfiend]

I did it last night and woke up to an inbox of messages. Whoa!
I never thought I'd do something like this or thought I would have to (my pride has taken a slight beating). But I'm edging towards middle age, my father just passed away, and I've got to do something.
I haven't responded to any of the matches yet, and I haven't become a paid member. The thought of sending my photo to a stranger intimidates me, but maybe I'll get used to it.
Maybe a dating service would be a better fit. Or mayb that would freak me out too:p :p :p

Reporting from the dating frontlines,

[cookinprogress]

Good for you, and good luck! :)

[Debralynn]

Good luck, I keep telling my brother to sign up for E harmony. I have heard a few good stories about people they have brought together. He seems a little shy to sign up, but I'm working on him. BTW, my brother is single 40 something 18 wheeler truck driver. He doesn't drink, is trying to quit smoking, :rolleyes: Great guy, spends too much time on the road and can't meet the right girl at truck stops. :D He has tried to meet some girls in the supermarket, he bumps his cart into the cute ones, or accidently puts his food into their cart, or starts pushing their cart away thinking it was his, great ice breakers...huh???
Good luck with E harmony, I find it interesting that over 100 people looked at the post and only one other responded???
Everybody needs somebody sometime...........................Dean Martin

[masimmons]

Good for you! It is so hard to meet people except at work and that can be disasterous for several reasons. My step-daughter met her now husband on eHarmony, and they are quite happy and very compatible.

Best of luck!

[RD chef]

Met my husband on eharmony...:)

Good luck!

[cumulus]

Good luck to you. I've heard many success stories myself (a co-worker and his wife met online and are absolutely a perfect fit!) and hope you'll find something special :)

[Robyn1007]

Couple of tips, if you don't post a pic you're going to get far fewer contacts than if you have one with your profile. The emails you got are matches found by the computer but one of you still needs to initiate communication if you want to talk to the guy which you need to pay to do. Your email will say "Match communication received" if the guys actually send communication based on the match.

[badunnin]

Couple of tips, if you don't post a pic you're going to get far fewer contacts than if you have one with your profile.

I definitely agree with this. It's a numbers game to a certain extent, and it sucks at times, but can be a lot of fun as well, depending on what your expectations are.

[wwhirledpeas]

eHappy eHunting!!!

[misskitty100]

Good luck!! :)

[Hoodone]

A friend of mine met her husband on e-harmony and they're still married 5 years later. Good luck!

[applecrisp]

I have thought about checking Eharmony out many times. I've done Match etc. So between your post and the comments (those good stories got me) .... I will be checking it out tomorrow. :D

I don't have any good pictures, and don't even own a camera. Guess I have to work on that.

I think Match has a separate section with a similar concept to E-harmmony (wow, great details on my part :rolleyes: ) -- has anyone tried that?

Good luck.

[foodfiend]

The very thought of posting my picture online scares me. I keep imagining I'll get seen by people I know, or used to know, or am related to....:rolleyes:

As you can see, I'm still hesitant.

[Robyn1007]

The very thought of posting my picture online scares me. I keep imagining I'll get seen by people I know, or used to know, or am related to....:rolleyes:

As you can see, I'm still hesitant.

That's your choice, obviously, but I will tell you that I don't respond to guys who contact me without a photo. If they aren't willing to put themselves out there a little bit then I'm not going to put an effort in. Shallow? Maybe so but most people at least want to see the person they are considering dating before hand.

[KristiB]

Met my DBF of 2 years on Match and my best friend met her fiancee on Perfect Match.

Good luck!

[BlueMoose]

That's your choice, obviously, but I will tell you that I don't respond to guys who contact me without a photo. If they aren't willing to put themselves out there a little bit then I'm not going to put an effort in. Shallow? Maybe so but most people at least want to see the person they are considering dating before hand.

I agree...I found that a lot of guys on eharmony didn't post a photo, and I was really hesitant to talk to any of them. I just like to have some idea of what the person looks like.

BTW, I met my fiance on match. :)

Best of luck!

[slknight]

Good luck! My sister met her husband on eHarmony. :)

[foodfiend]

A friend and I are doing this together, so we'll trade stories. At least there will be someone else I know in the same boat.

[wallingjan1]

I met my husband on match and our best friends that got married 2 years ago met on eharmony. With our lives today it can be really hard to meet someone. It seems safer to me than meeting drunk guys in a bar and you can see if you have anything in common beforehand.

Good luck, Pam

[Kid Rick]

Good luck to you!

I have done Match for a while and after canceling I heard of PlentiOFish . Pretty much the same except it is free. I find the experience to be the same.
You will find a lot of deception and 10 year old pics., but I have also met some pretty nice ladies just not the right one YET. I now view it as a numbers game and keep the anxioty level down with the thought that this first meeting is not a date, rather a casual meeting with a friend to maybe set up a date in the future. I convey this during our final emails leading up to our meeting which seems to relax both parties!

Now that you did it, you will be surprised how many are doing it too!

[Blissful_in_TX]

Good luck! I met my DH of over 5 1/2 years on match :)

[Jessnc]

Good luck to you. If I were you I'd definitely get a picture up. I don't respond to people without pictures either. I think it sends a negative message when you don't have a picture up. I believe Eharmony lets gives you the option of allowing the other party to see your picture once you've gone through a few of their steps instead of it being shown immediately.

Let us know how it goes. I may be putting myself back up there sometime too. Have fun with it!

[avariell]

That's your choice, obviously, but I will tell you that I don't respond to guys who contact me without a photo. If they aren't willing to put themselves out there a little bit then I'm not going to put an effort in. Shallow? Maybe so but most people at least want to see the person they are considering dating before hand.

i couldn't agree with you more- anytime i have used an online dating service, i have immediately disregarded anyone without a picture. if nothing else, i realized after trying eharmony sans photos, that i really am more about physical appearance than i thought :)

i met my bf playing fantasy baseball online so hey, love can happen anywhere! :)

[Wendi]

The very thought of posting my picture online scares me. I keep imagining I'll get seen by people I know, or used to know, or am related to....:rolleyes:

As you can see, I'm still hesitant.

I'm also a member... and the one aspect that i do like is that people can't just log in and shop thru the posted pix/profiles...only members will see photos of members... and only when the eharmony wizard matches you to each other.

I live in a fairly small community and frequently hear people say, "you should see who's on match.com". They're not interested or even single...one person sees a posting and spreads the word. That mortifies me.

I've subscribed to eh for quite some time but have only met 2 people in person; neither that I wanted to persue... but who knows... maybe they'll send me a good one.

Re pix... I agree with the others... very important... it will be to you and to others.

Good luck,

Wendi

[foodfiend]

Well, ladies (and gent), you are right. Two matches have already turned me down because I didn't have a picture up. So I'll get one up soon. YES, I have joined!
A friend of mine suggested that people our age (Gen X crowd) are suspicious of online dating because we didn't grow up with the whole Internet phenomenon. "Dating services" were things we saw for older folk. I remember in school that people hit the panic button if they were in their 30's and single.
Times change.

Spoken by a thirty-something plus,