Anyone see The Bachelor finale? (Spoilers)

[TKay]

Okay, I'm exposing myself here. No, not that way. Just saying I did watch part of The Bachelor this time around. I didn't catch every show, but I saw enough to be interested in who he picked.
Did anyone see it last night? What did you think of the conclusion?

[MKSquared]

I haven't watched any of it. In fact, I've never watched a Bachelor series, but for whatever reason, I tuned in to the last half hour last night. All I can say is if I'd been watching the series from the beginning, I'd be pissed.

[Robyn1007]

I very rarely watch the Bachelor but for some reason got hooked this season.:eek: :rolleyes: :p Although I'm not pissed I'm definitely tuning in tonight to see how the after the rose show handles this. Although, you gotta hand it to Brad for not asking some girl to marry him when he wasn't ready for it and didn't think it was right.

[TKay]

Yeah, it was kinda strange. I'm impressed and yet disappointed. I mean, I think some of the other bachelors (and I have not seen them all :rolleyes: ) have said things like, "Let me hold onto this ring and see how things go, but you are the one I pick." It's hard to tell whether they really cared for these women or just picked the one they didn't like least (if you know what I mean). So Brad saying he didn't choose either was honest, but really strange to watch. He appeared to like both of them. To not choose to continue a relationship of any kind with either one seemed odd.

[avariell]

i watched maybe 30 mins total throughout the season, and now i am dying to know what happened :)

also, holy cow, that man is hot. from what you guys have said, it sounds like he didn't pick anyone. i might have to move to austin texas! :p

[TraditionsGirl]

I'll be watching tonight just to see what happened. Maybe there is something else going on in his life that we don't know about.

[TKay]

Avariell - You're right. He didn't pick either girl. It was kind of wierd because you just assume he's going to choose one. And yes, the guy is cute. ;)

[Lauren]

I didn't watch this round, although I confess to watching other shows. But if he didn't pick a woman, why in the previews was he saying he found the woman that is right for him ... a woman he loves? :eek:

[kcmo727]

I also thought it was weird that he seemingly did not even want to continue dating them, to give either relationship a try w/o the pressure of the show. There is a rumor on the internet that he has a two year old daughter back in Texas. Maybe he will talk about that tonight.

[TKay]

I saw last night's show also. :o I couldn't help it! I felt for the guy. I really understood what he was getting at, but I just don't think the way he expressed himself was direct enough. A better way to say it might have been, "I really think you are both great girls with wonderful qualities. But you're just not right for me. Since I want to get married, there's no point in me continuing to date either one of you when I am sure you are not the one(s) for me."
I remember that feeling from way back in my dating days. I got to a point where I didn't want to have a two-year dating relationship that didn't end in marriage. I wanted to find a partner. So if I went out with someone who was great and I had fun with, it wasn't always enough. Some of the guys (and it's not like there was a parade!) would have made fine boyfriends, but weren't husband material. Why continue to date them if what you really want is to get married?
I wish the bachelor hadn't continually said he had strong feelings for the girls. I think that was misleading.

[Robyn1007]

I agree, I felt for him as well in trying to explain his feelings but I can also see why the girls were so angry and upset.

[Jewel]

One of my guilty pleasures has always been The Bachelor series...I've seen each and every one, start to finish. :D Brad is one of the few bachelors that I've ever really liked. He always came across as very honorable and ethical to me. Maybe it was that the easygoing Texan quality that made him so likable to me! ;)

I honestly think Brad went in to this with the best intentions. He wanted to fall in love and simply didn't! He mentioned not feeling 'butterflies', which spoke volumes to me. He could have made it a classic TV happy ending twirling a lady around and promising true love, and then dumping her a month later, but I think he thought more of both ladies and himself to do that. 90% of all of the Bachelor relationships have tanked even before the show airs. It was more responsible of him to say goodbye NOW instead of stringing someone along simply for TV ratings.

You simply can't pick and choose who you fall in love with. Just because he had 25 'beautiful' women to choose from, who says his soulmate is one of them? Think about it, we've all walked into a bar, a classroom or a church and seen 25 'eligible' people there. What if someone told you on your way in "You have to find someone in this room to spend the rest of your life with..." :eek: There's a possibility that you would end up 'settling' for the best in the room, not the best for YOU. I think Brad decided walking away from all was more honorable than settling. Just my opinion. He could possibly have handled the way he did it better than he did, but the end result was probably best for all involved.

I do, however, think DeAnna should be the next Bachelorette... :cool:

[MISSINDI]

I totally think DeAnna and/or Jenni should be the next Bachelorette. Why haven't they done another one, especially since it ended up in their most successful union (Trista wedding and baby).

I felt bad for both of the girls, particularly DeAnna, and it was definitely a-w-k-w-a-r-d. I get that he didn't fall in love with either of them, that's fine. But his statements to both, particularly DeAnna were misleading, and the question of "well, couldn't they just date and see where it goes?" should be asked and answered. I didn't get that -- no promises, no engagement, just see what happens, as opposed to walking away from someone who you obviously had feelings for. And to tell her Saturday was going to be a good day? And have ABC fly her dad there because you wanted him there so you could ask his permission? I didn't get the thought process.

I liked seeing/hearing from Trista and Byron, but thought it was a little uncomfortable to bring them all back out at the end when Brad was on stage ... kind of a little knife twisting, you know? As in ... "well, they got it right, why couldn't you?":confused:

[JLS]

I watched both the ending and the "after the rose" show, neither of which he (Brad) made any sense in explaining himself. I couldn't figure out if he was a jerk, a total wimp or he was geniunely a good guy, who was just confused.

It seems, that if he did have real feelings for Deanna, he would have said "hey, let's keep in touch and see how it goes". So if he couldn't say that at the last rose ceremony, he could have at the "after the rose" show. Instead he kept saying how much he really cared about her, how he thought about her every day, yet he let her sit there and tell everyone that she would give him another chance and he just said no, that he had no regrets and he stood by his decision. Was it my imagination, or did Chris Harrison seemed to have an issue with him too?

I vote for Jenni to be the next Bachelorette.

[mst]

I did not watch, but I do have some comments.:p

Keep in mind that this is a TV show, and as much as we think think it is reality, it is scripted also. I am positive that they make the Bachelor pretend to be interested in most of the people. I mean, have you ever heard a Bachelor say that this was an easy elimination? They can't really have feelings or even the desire to continue with most of the people. Also, if he had explained during the course of the show that he was not into any of the women, then the show really couldn't continue. And, I think it is gentlemanly to pretend after the fact that these women were so special to him, when in reality, they might have felt wrong to him for a while.

Remember, the same sort of thing happened with Jen Schefft when she turned down both proposals.

As for the Bachelorette being the most successful- well, that might be that just the relationship was the most successful. I would assume that the Bachelor is more successful in the ratings. The woman tend to be more dramatic about the bachelor than the men are about the bachelorette. And, I love watching the women's clothing- the men's fashion really isn't as exciting. Frankly, I find the bachelorette boring.

I stopped watching when I realized how many shows there are, and how few relationships work out. I think there have been something like 14/15 shows, and only two couples are still together (and one is still just dating her Bachelor.)

[mst]

I just read on tmz.com that Mary Delgado (the only one besides Trista to still be with her guy), that she was arrested for domestic violence for punching her bachelor. Yikes. I guess these stories really don't have the happy endings that we hope for...

[TKay]

Mst - Yes, I saw that update too. Funny it came on the heals of their re-appearance on TV. Very strange.