Deechef
01-05-2008, 03:25 PM
And I want to direct them at my X at a very high speed!!!!
I am so angry I can hardly type. I don't post much about my personal life as it really goes quite smoothly for the most part but I have shared/alluded to troubles with my son. He is 20 yo. Both my kids are adopted and he was an "at risk" adoption and gave us a run for our money from the get go. Fast forward to recent history. X and I divorced 5 years ago. I had son custody of son and he got into trouble on a daily basis. He got arrested for risk of injury to a minor at 16 with a 14 yo tramp. The system put him through the ringers. He bashed some mailboxes with some friends and that infraction carried more weight on his record than the first. Blah, blah.....he went to live with his father (which I appreciated so much) Dad's idea. He finally said one day to his father "I need to get a life of my own" and fled to who knew where. As it turns out he moved in with his girlfriend and her grandmother in a tenament type place. Bad neighborhood. She became pregnant. Baby born. Son, girlfriend, everyone else in the rattrap on welfare. I visited once. Over the past 7 months no contact from son. To be honest I felt like no news was good news but I imagined him dead in some alley. So he calls Christmas Eve and sounded great. This kid actually took the bulls by the horn and became a CNA. He works at the local hospital and makes $13.00/hour with full benefits!! He called a few days later asking what town he was born in because he wants to get out the rat trap and get into income housing but they needed to know what town he was born in. His Dad has his birth certificate so I suggested he call his Dad which he did and Dad said he would stop by on Saturday and give it to him. I was thrilled thinking his Dad would meet his graddaughter. OK........talked to son this evening and his "Dad" shoved the birth certificate in the mailbox and sped off.........Spitting nails, spitting nails.............Son sounded very disappointed. I still have to maintain my distance from son as well and take things slowly but give me a break.
OK...........vent done
I am so angry I can hardly type. I don't post much about my personal life as it really goes quite smoothly for the most part but I have shared/alluded to troubles with my son. He is 20 yo. Both my kids are adopted and he was an "at risk" adoption and gave us a run for our money from the get go. Fast forward to recent history. X and I divorced 5 years ago. I had son custody of son and he got into trouble on a daily basis. He got arrested for risk of injury to a minor at 16 with a 14 yo tramp. The system put him through the ringers. He bashed some mailboxes with some friends and that infraction carried more weight on his record than the first. Blah, blah.....he went to live with his father (which I appreciated so much) Dad's idea. He finally said one day to his father "I need to get a life of my own" and fled to who knew where. As it turns out he moved in with his girlfriend and her grandmother in a tenament type place. Bad neighborhood. She became pregnant. Baby born. Son, girlfriend, everyone else in the rattrap on welfare. I visited once. Over the past 7 months no contact from son. To be honest I felt like no news was good news but I imagined him dead in some alley. So he calls Christmas Eve and sounded great. This kid actually took the bulls by the horn and became a CNA. He works at the local hospital and makes $13.00/hour with full benefits!! He called a few days later asking what town he was born in because he wants to get out the rat trap and get into income housing but they needed to know what town he was born in. His Dad has his birth certificate so I suggested he call his Dad which he did and Dad said he would stop by on Saturday and give it to him. I was thrilled thinking his Dad would meet his graddaughter. OK........talked to son this evening and his "Dad" shoved the birth certificate in the mailbox and sped off.........Spitting nails, spitting nails.............Son sounded very disappointed. I still have to maintain my distance from son as well and take things slowly but give me a break.
OK...........vent done