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Beth Y

11-13-2001, 08:46 PM

First of all, Erin CONGRATS!!! Welcome to the group. We are growing (the group and our bodies!).

I know I have not posted in a while. The update on me is that I am only four 1/2 months, but with twins I look like I am about 7 or 8 months and feel like it too. The are putting me on bedrest at 26 weeks, that gives me 6 weeks to get everything done that I need to get done before the babies get here....clean the house, organize, get an extra set of everything, arrange for a baby nurse, arrange for someone to help around the house and with DD when I am on bedrest. The list is endless for someone who only has about 3 hours of energy a day. So that is why I have not posted.

I do have a favor to ask though.......and it may not be a popular one, so understand that I am prepared to be overruled on this and will not take it personally. On the last pregnancy thread, there were so many new mothers who also posted about new baby problems. While I enjoy reading them and they are of interest to those getting ready to be new mothers, can we keep this post largely pregnant related and start another post for new mothers?? As a mother of a 3 year old, I am also interested in the kid info, but really want to keep up with the other pregnant Moms like all you new Moms did when you were pregnant. Every time I get a minute to log on, I have to read tons of info to get the pregnancy updates. PLEASE don't take this as me saying I don't want to hear about the new Mom questions and I intend to check that thread too, but I want to be able to check in with the other PG woman quickly if I want to. So there, I have said it and hope not to offend anyone. Just have so little time these days!!!!

shoyski

11-14-2001, 06:11 AM

Excellent news, Erinl! So glad you can join! We'll need a lot of people for when we start meeting for reunions. :-) JK

BethY, your idea is great...no offense taken at all. The new moms need to start a new thread anyway. So six weeks, huh? Good luck and I'll be sending extra energy thoughts your way.

beacooker

11-14-2001, 07:01 AM

Congratulations, Erin!! What great news. Yes, there is a lot of reading to do during pregnancy! I got my EDD from 'What to Expect When Your Expecting'. Actually, I didn't think I was pregnant, but just out of curiousity, I looked to see what my due date would be if I was pregnant, and when I saw my due date would be Jan 1, I thought 'Whew, I'm glad I'm not pregnant. What a crappy birthday for the baby.' Well, then it turned out I was pregnant, and doomed my son to a crappy birthday for the rest of his life. ;)

Shelley, that picture of Tru is great!! Looks like he's going to be quite a flirt - already winking! How was the meeting last night?

Beth, sorry to hear you are so tired. If I ever find myself with some energy to spare, I will send it your way! I'm sure the bedrest will be difficult, and I can't imagine having to be prepared so early.

As far as splitting the threads, I can't say that I'm in love with the idea, but I can see how that would make it easier for Beth (and others) to be able to post with us more often. My main objection is that I like talking to all my new mom friends, but I won't have anything to contribute to the new mom thread (not for 5-9 weeks - my due date +- 2 weeks !). But I don't mind splitting the threads if thats what everyone wants to do.

11-14-2001, 10:54 AM

Congratulations Erin!!! that is wonderful news! you have quite an exciting time ahead of you! to predict your estimated due date, you usually go from the first day of your last period and count 40 weeks. there are many calculators to do this on the internet. mine was june 17. later, when you go for ultrasounds, they may give you different dates, based on the size of the baby. i also had june 21 and june 14! but the baby is considered full-term at 37 weeks, and that was when they induced me...so she was born may 29! so just remember that due dates are estimates only!!! anyhow, i hope you are feeling good, and not experiencing any morning sickness!

shelley, tru is cute...so he can wink and smile now? :)

beth, good luck in the next 6 weeks. it sounds like you really have your work cut out for you.

about splitting the threads: i had been thinking about this a while ago, since our group is growing. i kind of like all the moms-to-be and moms in one thread though; don't know why. i was reluctant when they created the 'other stuff' part on the board too though. basically, i'm not a big fan of change. but i guess i'd go with a separate moms thread anyhow. i mean, that doesn't mean i won't be allowed to lurk or post on the pg thread, right? ;)

marisa :)

Mousie29

11-14-2001, 11:39 AM

Yeah! We are due around June 12, however we have not told family yet, or my boss.....we will at Christmas as a fun little gift - wrapped up toy baby.

I hope this isn't selfish since Christmas is for everyone and we have siblings, step siblings, etc. We are the first to have a baby though.

We are so joy-filled about this of course.

I felt terrible for weeks 4-10, but now, in week 11, I feel normal again

I'm reading lots of Dr. Sears' books: preganancy, birth and breastfeeding. And several views on baby/child-raising, although we have a good idea of our viewpoint...although you never know.

Praying for health!

I have got to eat more nutritiously!!!!!!!!!!!!

erinl

11-14-2001, 05:17 PM

Okay, it's 40 weeks from 1st day of last period. I was counting 40 weeks from ovulation. July 21 it is then. Almost 5 weeks along sounds so much more impressive than almost 3 weeks!!;)

I haven't exactly been sick yet, but my digestive tract does seem a little unsettled. I've been having lots of gas pains :o .

Well, I'm off to attempt yoga. Hopefully I won't fall asleep in class...

Erin

Mousie29

11-14-2001, 05:19 PM

ERin,
I felt awesome until the 6th week.......! Now in the 11th, I'm back to normal. But, 6-10, I cannot explain how out of it I felt. Could hardly walk 1 mile whereas in my 5th week I worked out 5 times (mildly).

How exciting though :-)

Tiger

11-14-2001, 06:54 PM

Hi! Usually I hang out on the great food board but I would like to join the preg. thread!
Erin -Congrads! It's a little confusing. Yes, they consider pregnancy 40 weeks, but you're really only pregnant 38. The first 2 weeks of pregnancy you are really not even pregnant. They just estimate most women ovulate and get preg. 2weeks after their last period. So if you're 6weeks preg the fetus is only 4 weeks old. I don't know if this is making any sence, but I hope so.

djoygirl

11-15-2001, 10:34 AM

Hi! Welcom Erin, Mousie, and Tiger. And congrats to all, as well:)

Tiger, I believe I read on the food board that you're high-risk and have been having a difficult time. How are you doing, and how far along are you?

Beth, good luck with all of your preparations. Hopefully you have some friends/family who will help out during your bedrest. I'll say some prayers for you. I hope you'll still check in occasionally.

I've been talking with my doula by phone recently. We're going to meet in a week or so. I can't wait--I already adore her. I know she is going to be wonderful, and make the birth the best possible experience for me. DH is glad I decided to have one, b/c now he feels like he is "off the hook". I think he would have been pretty useless during delivery, anyway.

I don't mind splitting the posts into preg/new moms. I'll read them both, but it might make it easier for some people to have it that way. Just my 2 cents.

BosunsWife

11-15-2001, 11:42 AM

Djoygirl I think its funny that you think your DH would be useless in the delivery room. I thought that about my DH too, but he really surprised me. He was my "rock" literally. He supported me totally in the last hours of my labor with DD since I did all of my laboring standing up (most comfortable position for me). Poor guy, my water actually broke all over his shoes. He has a big aversion to blood so I thought he would keel over. He did so well but chose to stay up in the area around my head when DD was actually coming out. His reply was he didn't chose to remember "that area" as the place where a baby came out of LOL!

Mousie29 I'm so glad there is hope in site for me. I've been feeling lousy for the last couple of weeks. I'm currently in my ninth week and am hoping the end is in site. This total exhaustion and nausea (not actual hurling) is really getting me down. Top it off with DH being gone most of the time and it really is bad. I feel the worst for our 2 year old since I just don't have the energy to do all the things I used to with her. As for working out its just not happening this week.

Beth I'm sending good thoughts your way. My mom keeps teasing me that maybe I'm having twins since I have gotten big so fast (already wearing maternity clothes). I don't mean this in a bad way, but I really hope not. We wanted one more child, not two. We would love them both anyway, but really just want one!

Bye ladies, I have a wiggling two year old on my lap!

clairea

11-16-2001, 12:34 PM

I'm one of the (many) lurkers on these pregnancy threads. For those of you experiencing complicated pregnancies and/or upcoming bedrest, I wanted to let you know about the organization Sidelines, which will match you with a phone or email volunteer who has been through a similar situation. I have never used their services but have seen them recommended by several sources. Having had 2 pregnancies that both involved complications and bedrest, I think I would have loved the additional support if I had know about it at the time. In any event, their website (if you are interested) is:

http://www.sidelines.org/index.html

Best of luck to all moms-to-be!
Claire

Beth Y

11-16-2001, 04:28 PM

Djoygirl, the doula sounds great. I strongly recommend one. Take it from someone who DID NOT get one, after thinking about it, and wishes she had. I had a 36 hour complicated labor. The doula and your husband are two different things, in fact, I believe that the doula can help your husband be more helpful to you by telling him what to do, even if it is only stand behind her and hold her hand. Mainly, for me, it would have been helpful if I had had someone in there who was both knowledgable and on my side. The labor nurses were great and helped a lot, and ended up getting my doctors to do more than they wanted to to help me, but if I had had a doula, I would have known what to ask for. Plus, I hear they give you massages, which my hubby will only do for about 5 minutes before "his hands are tired".

Tiger, welcome.. how far along are you? If you are a high risk pregnancy, I repeat the question "how come" and add "welcome to my world". Keep in touch!

For all you girls with morning/evening sickness, try chewing on crystallized ginger. Worked for me.

Beth Y

11-16-2001, 04:30 PM

Oops, Mousie, I forgot to add my welcome to you! Sounds like we have a lot of summer babies coming!!

Tiger

11-16-2001, 05:58 PM

Thanks for the wecome! I'm high risk because I'm a DES daughter and had to have part of my cervix removed when I was 21 because of cancer cells. They put in a cerclage at 12 weeks. This is where they sew up your cervix so it hopefully supports the baby. But because of these two things I could have pre-term labor. I also have a history of servere preeclampcia in the second trimester. (Apparently very rare) I was so sick with my son they delieved him 3 months early. He was very ill and spent 2 months in intensive care. (me- one month) So needless to say I have a couple of issues going on.
I'm also happy to say that so far this pregnancy has been very different. With my son I was on complete bedrest for 5 months. This time I just have to take it easy. I take my bloodpressure everyday and so far it's been OK. Although they say that can change in one day. My last US showed the baby to be 2lbs 9ozs. Bigger than my son when he was born!!! I'm 28 weeks now. If I make it to 37 they're take out my cerclege. If I don't deliever within 2 weeks from that they will do a c-section. So hopefully I'm looking at a Jan. baby.

11-16-2001, 06:05 PM

tiger, what is DES? i hope your good health continues for the rest of your pregnancy!

marisa :)

Tiger

11-16-2001, 06:15 PM

mb- DES is a drug they gave pregnant women back before the 70"s which they thought prevented miscarriages. It did not. It did cause problems to the babies they were carrying. They became DES daughters. Alot of DES daughters have infiltility problems, mis-shaped uterus, cevical cancer at a young age, pre-term labor, ect. If I have a daughter she would be considered a DES granddaughter. They have alot of the same problems too. I'm 35 (AMA aggh!) which is actually young to be a DES daughter. By 1966 most drs. stopped giving this drug. Unfor. my Mom's dr. gave it to her.

karen w

11-17-2001, 07:28 PM

DES is Diethylstilbesterol which is a synthetic nonsteroidal drug which has estrogen like qualities. As Tiger said it was given to many woman who had histories of multiple miscarriages with the beleif it prevented these problems years ago. It causes the majority of problems in daughters of woman who took the drug, but it can also cause male infertility in the sons. My mother also took DES. She had 3 miscarriages before taking DES. Fortunately, she took it for my oldest brother(who now has 2 healthy kids of his own, so infertility was not an issue with him) and not with me! He is 40 yrs. old. Even though my mother had problems carrying me(bedrest for 5 months), by then they knew about the problems with DES.

11-18-2001, 07:47 AM

thanks for the info. it's funny karen, when you mentioned diethylstilbesterol, i knew what you were talking about. for some reason, i just didn't think that wheni saw DES. when i saw DES, i just thought it was something like DAR (daughters of the american revolution!) and i didn't know what that had to do with anything! i guess the sleep deprivation is showing itself again!

anyhow, i hope things continue to go well with you tiger. i'll keep you in my thoughts!

hope all you other pregnant ladies out there are feeling good!

marisa :)

Beth Y

11-18-2001, 01:27 PM

Tiger, thanks for the response. Sounds like you are well versed in all this. As mentioned on other posts, I am at 21 weeks, so a little behind you, with no other high-risk problems except that I am carrying twins. My practice is VERY conservative, so they put all their multiple Moms on bedrest at 26 weeks, whether they are having blood pressure, cervix, etc. problems or not. As much as I have put into this pregnancy (42 yrs old., 2 1/2 years of fertility tests and treatments, two in vitros, etc) I am willing to do ANYTHING they say to assure two healthy babies. I think it is really modified bedrest, which means I should stay off my feet as much as possible, but can get up to get lunch, etc.

Do you have any hints on bedrest? I have already got the name of a masseuse that does in house massages for bedrest Moms here. We are having a phone line put in the den. Other than that, any advice you can give me. The hardest thing is going to be how to handle my 3YO DD after she gets home from school at 1. We still haven't figured out how to get the computer where I can get to it!

Tiger

11-18-2001, 02:12 PM

Beth- I'm not going to lie. 5months of complete bedrest was the hardest thing I ever did. (I was allowed to go to the bathroom althought there was talk of bedpans) The one thing I did have going for me was that he was my first so I had no other children to take care of.
But on a positive note just keep in mind that it's temporary and of coarse worth it. I was 12weeks when I went on bedrest and 28 when I was amitted into the hospital so you'll be already at such a better point in your pregnancy. I'm sure at 37 weeks you'll be off all restrictions. I read a lot of books and watched Food Network. I also cross-stiched my son a hugh blanket that I wouldn't have ever done.
I had also gone thought infiltilty treatment which helps in really appreciating the pregnancy.
Another positive thing was I realized what a great family I had and great friends. I had such a support system. In my bedroom there was a refrig., microwave, and a coach for all my visitors. Everyday I had vistors bringing me meals, books, and just keeping me company.
Also get dressed everyday. Laying around in PJ's can be depressing. Remember you're not sick but pregnant.
And most of all I was willing to do it again. This time I'm on limited activity (much better) but I was thinking I'd be on complete bedrest again and I knew it would be worth it!
If you could set up the computer that would be wonderful. I didn't have that. And you know how time can fly on the computer.
good luck! Do you know if you're having boys or girls?