Couple vs singles question

[Expchef]

Here's the dilema... we have formed a new club. There will potentially be 4 couples and 2 singles. Of the couples, none of the spouses cook but of course they all eat. At first we established that each member (not spouse/guest) bring a dish and a wine. I feel that it is unfair to expect singles to provide for everyone else's spouse at the same level -- especially since this will be ongoing. Does anyone else have this issue in their group and how do you handle it? My thought was that everyone bringing a guest or spouse bring an additional appetizer or side dish making the contribution level more equal.

It's not the money, it's the principle of the matter. Any thoughts or suggestions about this?

[tbb113]

Our group was 4 couples (and supposedly the men cooked as well as the women) and 2 singles. We had each person bring one dish. Since you signed up for what you wanted to bring, you could determine for yourself the course you brought. We did try and have one alcholic drink for the ONE non-cook to bring :rolleyes:

I am one of the singles. I sometimes felt that we had an awful lot of food to try and personally I would have preferred each couple bringing one dish (but that is just me). Two appetizers, two salads, two entrees, etc was just too much of a good thing :D

[kkd]

I think your first plan was the best - have the couples bring a dish AND the wine or drinks. That way the couples are contributing two items while avoiding an excess of food if they are required to bring an extra dish.

[patt]

We've been meeting for a couple of months and have 13 members, three singles and five couples. The guys aren't cooking, but they are all conducive to the success of the evening in other ways. I don't think the singles feel strained, since there is so much food and we all share leftovers. Maybe it's because our group is so large.