Dating Diaries

[jjsooner73]

Hello! So, my dbf and I broke up about 4 months ago. At that point, I decided I needed an attitude ajustment in regards to dating and such. I am making it a priority to be more outgoing, to actively put myself in more situations in which to meet people. I'm doing match.com again as well.
I've had a few dates from match over the last month. None were super great, though there is one on Tuesday I am really looking forward to.

Then yesterday, I'm at a restaurant for lunch with my cousin's fiance and 3 of her friends, who were in town for the day. I had been to a teacher recruitment fair for my district, so felt really frumpy in my 'spirit wear' shirt.

In walks handsome man. Alone. We all notice (the other girls are all married). He's obviously waiting for someone. We get the waitress's help to find out info about him. I actually thought he had to be waiting for a female friend. He was dressed in slacks and a sports coat. Finally, in walks older woman-so we think it's his mom. Then walks in a man who sits with the woman, but the waitress hears the lady introduce him to her husband. We're trying to figure out what the relationship is.
I finally relent and let them write my name on a business card with my number and we give it to the waitress to give to him. SHe goes and talks to him, and catches us out the door and says he wants to meet me. So, here I am feeling like Miss Frump and horribly embarassed--I go up and meet him but not the people he's with. I manage to stumble through some conversation and do tell him that he is very handsome (and this is very out of character for introvert me).

Fast forward a few hours--he calls! Turns out he was on a Job Interview!! He is from New Orleans and instead of driving back like he planned, he decided to see if I wanted to meet for drinks in which case he'd get a room and stay the night.

So, I picked him up at about 6:30, we went to have drinks/dinner (Cuba Libre--carribean food and we had mojitos). We then went to a loung/bar and had a couple more drinks, and finished off at an Irish Pub. We had a wonderful time! We were giddy and laughing all night about how crazy it was that we met. His interview was earlier than planned, the lady suggested meeting for lunch and said her husband would be there (odd), his interview didn't get planned until Friday on the spur of the moment, which is why he drove and didn't fly.
We were going to meet for breakfast this morning, but he got up earlier than planned and hit the road (plus, I live 35 minutes in the opposite direction of where he's headed). Can't blame him-it's about a 9 hour drive to New Orleans. We have talked 2x already. I'm telling you, random things like this just don't happen to me normally. I really didn't think he'd call. And he is VERY handsome and funny--I had the best time last night.

So, he's positive about the interview--in spite of all the weirdness. That's certainly going to be a story to tell. THe interviewer's husband kept saying, "I'm so impressed. Do girls approach you all the time?". The whole thing is just so funny. He could be moving here in about 2 months or so if all goes well.

Just thought I'd share...this dating thing can be fun! Next up: Tuesday at an Indian restaurant with a guy I refer to as 'good hair guy'. :)

[JanetJ]

What a great story, I'm so glad he called and you had a great time!! I'm so excited for you, please keep us posted!

[gertdog]

I didn't know you and dbf had broken up, so first I want to say I'm sorry to hear about that- I know you'd been through a lot together and you'd put in a lot of effort to make it work long-distance.

Good for you for getting back into the dating scene! What a story- glad you had fun on the spontaneous date and hope that you have fun with good hair guy too! :)

[Cookin4Love]

That is a great story, and I don't think things like that happen by coincidence, either. I once met a guy on an elevator; he was serving on the grand jury, and I worked in the courthouse. When I started to get off on my floor, I heard this desperate, "Wait! If you leave now, and I don't get your number, I'll never see you again." We didn't get married, but we had a great time for a couple of years and parted friends. I still have sweet memories of him, and we still tingle a bit when we occasionally run into one another. Wishing you many happy times in this relationship.

[jjsooner73]

Originally posted by gertdog
I didn't know you and dbf had broken up, so first I want to say I'm sorry to hear about that- I know you'd been through a lot together and you'd put in a lot of effort to make it work long-distance.

Thanks Stephanie. It was for the best. We were growing apart rather than closer, and though I brought everything up, we mutually decided it would be best to part. I've had dinner with him a couple of times since. Honestly, I felt like a huge weight was lifted after we broke up.


That is a great story, and I don't think things like that happen by coincidence, either.

That's what one of my girlfriends said. Of course, I agree, but then I'm superstitious and don't want to jinx anything. :) I'll just go with the flow--what happens, happens. Regardless, what a great story, eh? I still can't believe we interrupted a job interview.

[Molli526]

Yay!

I love hearing stories like that.

Good luck on Tuesday too :)

[Kristine]

wow, i'm way impressed! go jennifer...that is so awesome. :) i'm glad that you had a fun evening last night.

[MISSINDI]

It's all about seizing the moment -- glad you didn't miss your opportunity. Good luck!

[Wendy w]

Way to go and good for you! :)

Have fun on Tuesday too.

[mom2garret]

Wow. GOOD FOR YOU!!! That is a very brave thing to do. Not everyone would have the confidence. The story is a great one. Let us know how good hair guy turns out.
Jodi

[Canice]

I am impressed, Jen! :)

[stacy7272]

What a great story! I really enjoyed reading it. How good for him that he gets to show his interviewer how "wanted" he is ;) . I hope everything works out. That would be the best story to tell the kids and grandkids.

I met DH when I was in a big frumpy sweater too! I was very embarrassed but he didn't seem to mind!

[ErinM]

That is a great story! I hope it all works out, and if it doesn't, I hope you gain a good friend!

If anything, I think you helped the guy get the job, since that the interviewer got a chance to see him handle a curveball in a "pressure" type situation!

Have fun on Tuesday! I'll be looking forward to hearing about how good his hair is...

[JenniferJJ]

Awesome story Jen!!



Originally posted by jjsooner73
to actively put myself in more situations in which to meet people.


Can I ask what you are doing? I need some ideas.

[SueK]

Great story Jen! Good for you for doing that - I'm not sure if I'd have had the nerve, so way to go. Keep us posted, and have fun on Tuesday night's date, too!

[jjsooner73]

Originally posted by JenniferJJ
Can I ask what you are doing? I need some ideas.

It's more about attitude than anything. I'm actually talking to a guy friend right now about this--he's always my rock when it comes to life issues. We know each other from college and haven't seen each other since his wedding 6 years ago, but keep in touch through IMing.

Anyhow, ATTITUDE. I just have a different attitude than I did before I met ex-dbf. I'm more positive, more outgoing, less stressed about 'is he going to call me'. I'm more confident (though at my heaviest weight thanks to a bout of pneumonia and no exercise for months). I started teaching this year, and instead of turning down invitations because I don't know anyone or am the only single one, I go. It seems like common sense stuff, but it's all new to me. I am just putting myself in more situations and being more approachable I think. Even w/ match, I'm being much more open about meeting people for coffee or whatever. What have I got to lose? The more chances I give myself, the more chances I have of meeting someone really special. Previously, between attitude and being a homebody, I wasn't giving myself many chances.

[MISSINDI]

Originally posted by jjsooner73
Anyhow, ATTITUDE. I just have a different attitude than I did before I met ex-dbf. I'm more positive, more outgoing, less stressed about 'is he going to call me'.

Truer words were never spoken. Attitude is really it. When I broke up with the boyfriend I had before I met my dh, I adopted a new, similar attitude. It was basically I'm going to live my life the way I want to, do what I want to and just have fun. It became much less about ... how can I meet a guy. I was single and wanted to enjoy myself, whether that meant staying home and watching TV with a feast of crackers and Cheez Whiz, or hanging out with my girlfriends, I did it. I was really enjoying myself. And, of course, true to form, as soon as I started looking out for myself, and stopped looking for a guy, I met dh, and the rest is history. :)

[acginkc]

That is so awesome!! I am so glad it went well, and I will keep my fingers crossed for Tuesday.

I completely agree that attitude makes all the differnce. I dated a guy from high school till halfway through college, and when we broke up, I had to figure out who it was I wanted to be. Fast forward one year and some flops of "relationships" later. The bar that we always went to had a great staff that were really nice. I knew them all, but wasn't all that close to any of them. One of the guys who worked there and I sat and talked one night for like 2 hours and I gave him my number (without him asking for it, big step for me). After not hearing from him for about 3 weeks, I got up the nerve to confront him at the bar. I asked why he hadn't called and he explained that he was nervous. I have to say, once he said that I was nervous as well. Happy to say that 4 years later he can still make me nervous (in a very good way), but even if nothing had never come of it, after being in a long relationship, it is so good to be able to start over as the type of woman you really want to be.

[rosie_one]

What a fun story, thanks for sharing it.

My baby brother is completely smitten with a girl he's been dating for a whole week now. It's so cute. :) I like her from a first impression. He can hardly think/talk anything but her right now. That rush of the first "click" is just such a neat thing. It's nice, so far they just seem to have the same goals in life. Soooo, we'll see. He's doing that same thing though, hedging a little as he doesn't want to jinx it!

Good luck with Mr. Nice Hair guy, too. Either you'll have fun or it will just confirm how much you really like Mr. New Orleans. ;)

[RebeccaT]

Jennifer, that is such a great story! I am so impressed with you and your attitude. I wish my brother would be like that... he's doing eHarmony, and is trying (I have to give him credit for that) but he doesn't put himself in many real-life, in person situations where he could meet people. I wish you the best of luck!

[Lynno1975]

Hi Jen,

This is such a fun thread. I'm so glad you told that story. Just think, if you hadn't split up with Paul (I think that was his name?) then you'd never have a good story like that and all the ones to come. I had fun just reading it. I've been trying to come up with off the wall ideas, too. I'm on match.com as well, but it was kind of a fluke. I filled out a profile and then let it go. I hadn't posted a picture, so I didn't think it went through. I had 14 emails the next day. Then I posted a picture.

I was talking to one of the girls at work and told her that we should get a bunch us and go out, her bf included. He's a jack-of-all-trades sort. I said that I wanted to borrow his stud finder and go around the bar with it. Then I'll go up to a cute one without a chick and tell him that the thing went off and I needed to buy him a drink. When he says no, I'll tell him thanks for pointing out that I had it on "dud" instead of "stud" setting. We had a good laugh, but I'm wondering if it would work.

As for things to do to meet new people.... I do a lot of volunteer work. I'm also doing my fourth event with Team in Training (yes, Jen, it's me in Indy that did Honolulu when you did I think Austin Tri, how have you been?...). I'm starting golf lessons on my 30th birthday in a couple of weeks. I'm also trying to find some wine tastings and hit those. Network, network, network....

Keep up posted on how Tuesday with hair guy goes. If I ever get an actual date off match.com, I'll post a story, too.

Lynn :-)

[HejazSunKat]

Jen, that really took alot of guts and self-confidence and I think it's a good sign about him that he didn't feel threatened by your assertiveness but was charmed by it instead. My first thought on reading the story was "Fortune favors the bold". Hope it's the start of something great. Enjoy!

[jjsooner73]

Originally posted by Lynno1975
As for things to do to meet new people.... I do a lot of volunteer work. I'm also doing my fourth event with Team in Training (yes, Jen, it's me in Indy that did Honolulu when you did I think Austin Tri, how have you been?...). I'm starting golf lessons on my 30th birthday in a couple of weeks. I'm also trying to find some wine tastings and hit those. Network, network, network....



LYNN! Good to see you! And a huge KUDOS on training for your 4th TNT event. Paul (you got the name right) did the Austin Marathon last year while I did a tri. I haven't signed up to do another one yet, but plan to next year (once I'm done w/ school and more into a teaching groove).

Anyhow, back to the dating thing--New Orleans guy and I played phone tag today (he called first). I'm anxious to hear if he knows anything about the job. I'm still giddy and happy and have had a cheezy smile on my face all day long. I just have this renewed confidence. It's fun. :D

[jmarie]

Jen! Seize the Day!! I love this song, it is so upbeat!

I know a girl who was schooled in Manhattan

She reads dusty books and learns phrases in Latin

She is an author or maybe a poet

A genius but its just this world doesn't know it

She works on her novel most every day If you laugh she will say


Seize the day Seize whatever you can

Cause life slips away just like hourglass sand

Seize the day pray for grace from God's hand

That nothin' will stand in your way Seize the day

Lai de dai de dai Lai de dai de dai da dai

Lai de dai de dai Lai de dai de dai da dai

Well I know a doctor A fine young physician

Left his six figure job for a mission position

He's healin' the sick in an African clinic

He works in the dirt and writes home to the cynics

He says we work through the night almost every day

As we watch the sun rise we can say

Seize the day Seize whatever you can

Cause life slips away just like hourglass sand

Seize the day pray for grace from God's hand

That nothin will stand in your way Seize the day

Lai de dai de dai Lai de dai de dai da dai

Lai de dai de dai Lai de dai de dai da dai

Well I know a man who's been doin' some thinkin'

He's as bitter and cold as the whisky he's drinkin'

He's talkin' bout fear 'bout chances not taken

If you listen to him you can hear his heart breakin'

He says "One day you're a boy The next day you're dead

I wish way back when someone had said..."

Seize the day Seize whatever you can

Cause life slips away just like hourglass sand

Seize the day pray for grace from God's hand


That nothin' will stand in your way Seize the day

Lai de Dai Dai Lai de Dai Dai Lai de Dai Dai-e-i

Well one thing I've noticed wherever I wander

Everyone's got a dream he can follow or squander

You can do what you will with the days you are given

I'm tryin' to spend mine on the business of livin'

So I'm singin' my songs off of any old stage

You can laugh if you want He'll still say



Seize the day Seize whatever you can

Cause life slips away just like hourglass sand

Seize the day pray for grace from God's hand

That nothin' will stand in your way Seize the day

Lai de dai de dai Lai de dai de dai da dai

Lai de dai de dai Lai de dai de dai da dai

Lai de dai de dai Lai de dai de dai da dai

Lai de dai de dai Lai de dai de dai da dai

Joyce!

[Lynno1975]

Jen,

You HAVE to tell us about hair guy tomorrow! I'm hanging up here in Indy.

Lynn :-)

p.s. hugs, good to "see" you again, too!

[jjsooner73]

Originally posted by Lynno1975
Jen,

You HAVE to tell us about hair guy tomorrow! I'm hanging up here in Indy.


I met good hair guy tonight. He's a really nice guy and someone I may enjoy getting to know better. No sparks or anything, but a fun 2 hours of animated conversation. I wonder if no sparks has anything to do w/ New Orleans (NO) guy? :)

After playing phone tag yesterday, NO guy called me this morning on my way to work. I was very glad to hear from him and once again, had a good 15 minutes of smiles and laughter through the phone line. That's just nice that he was thinking enough of me to call me in the morning, ya know? :D

As for his job, he knows they want him, but they haven't talked salary yet. So...we'll see.

[Lynno1975]

Ah, I can sleep at night now, hahahahaha! Keep up posted. As for me, match.com has dried up I think. I think I need some new pictures. I'll have to work on that over the weekend. I can't say a whole lot, because I go off pictures way too much myself.

Lynn :-)

[ellery]

Just randomly popping in because I love reading dating stories. :D

Has anyone seen the site www.greatboyfriends.com ? I think that's the name - it's men posted by sisters, ex-girlfriends, etc. Kind of a neat idea.

If only there were one called weasels.com so that when you meet someone new you can check to see if they're posted there - would save a lot of time... ;)

Thanks for posting your story Jen. What happened to our other dating guru - Kristin?

:)

Leah

[MrsReber]

I like the idea of weasels.com! That's too funny. Kind of like the site where you can see if a car has been in an accident! I think it'd catch on, but there may be a slight problem with defamation. :D Oh well.

I enjoy the dating diaries as well, now that I'm a married mom. Of course, my dating life was never all that exciting to begin with.

[jjsooner73]

What has happened to Kristin (Longhorngal), anyway? I haven't been on here as much over the past months, but I have noticed I haven't seen many posts on her.

Lynn, have you tried eharmony? I thought of doing that one, but was just to hesitant.

I talked to NO guy yesterday after school (he called :)). Yet another 20 minutes of fun conversation. I still don't know when/if I'll see him again.

I also got an email from good hair guy. He said it was great to finally meet me, etc. I would like to see him again. I was soooo tired the night we met, that I just don't think I was quite 'myself'.

Both guys will be on trips over the weekend, so that will be good in tthat I won't have distractions and can get some much needed homework done!

[CookieG]

Just stopping by to say hello! your dating stories are much like mine...I'm on match too. Had a date last night with a guy I called Cat Boy because on the first date he told me that he had seven cats. I mean, I like cats and have 2. But 7? Red flag. Anyway, last night he told me that his parents live with him as well (I'm 35 and he is around the same age). He had a good reason for it - father has Parkinson's - but still, we didn't have a lot of chemistry so I'm not sure it's something I'm going to pursue.

Meanwhile, I've been dating this other guy from match for about seven months - yet we're not really in a committed relationship. That one is a little more complicated - which is why I'm still looking!

Anyway, just wanted to say hello - you aren't the only one out there! fingers crossed that NOLA boy comes through!

Chris

[Wendy w]

Originally posted by ellery

If only there were one called weasels.com so that when you meet someone new you can check to see if they're posted there - would save a lot of time... ;)
[/B]

Leah, I love it!! I had a similar idea recently, but a different name that is not repeatable in this venue. ;) :p

Jennifer, it sounds like things are going really well for you.

Editing to say that I almost started to talk about my (some comical) experiences when I was on Match, but I don't want to hijack the thread. Maybe another time, another thread. ;)

I have been wondering where Kristin has been too.

[jjsooner73]

Originally posted by Wendy w
Editing to say that I almost started to talk about my (some comical) experiences when I was on Match, but I don't want to hijack the thread. Maybe another time, another thread. ;)


Feel free to share--this thread could be much more interesting if it were more than just my dating diaries!

[dublchk]

Jennifer, I'm very impressed with how gutsy you were to meet NO guy. Good luck with both him and Good Hair guy. Both sound like they might be promising.

I was on yahoo personals for a while and met a couple of guys who seemed okay but nothing long lasting.

I tried fastdater a couple of weeks ago. I got 4 email addresses of guys that I said yes to who also said yes. Went out with first guy--fun, quite a comedian, but no chemistry. We agreed to be movie pals (not sure if we ever will).

Went out with second guy twice. Nice, fun, seemed to really like me. Made plans for third date, he cancelled and rescheduled then never called back.

Made plans with third guy. About 20 minutes into dinner he mentioned how he usually goes out with women in their 20s and sometimes 30s, but rarely every women in their 40s (I'm 44). Apparently, I had a surprised look on my face because he said, "by the way, did I ever ask you how old you are?"

Have not heard anything back from 4th guy.

I love the idea of weasels.com. I'm betting that any West Michigan men listed on that site would be men I've dated.

Mary

[cocoa'smom]

This isn't my story, it belongs to a friend of my neighbors who entertains us with stories of her dates from match.com & e.harmony. She went out with this guy a couple of times, enjoyed talking to him, seemed like an OK guy. They went to a place to play pool and she got something to eat - burger & fries. He didn't want anything. When her food came she offered some of her fries and he said he didn't like to eat anything that had touched his fingers. She thought, ok, that's weird. She went to the restroom and when she came back he said "I hope you don't mind, I had some of your fries". She said I thought you didn't eat anything that had touched your fingers. He opened his crumpled napkin and in there was a little pile of french fry nubs! She never went out with him again!!

[Wendy w]

Mary, it is comforting to know that some of these guys know no boundaries. I thought that they were were affected by the sun and smog here that it gave them an excuse for bad behavior, etc. I know that this venue has worked very well for some people.

I used Yahoo and Match (not simultaneously-because there are guys who are on all of them at once :rolleyes: ) for awhile, and although I did meet some nice people, and even dated someone for several months who was nice until he just couldn't keep the facade on any longer. He had discussed marriage and I told him that we could talk about it if we make it to a year. Thank God we didn't. It was such a relief to be rid of him.

About a month ago, I decided to roll up the carpet because I had been meeting jerks, even after pre-screening. I decided that it hasn't been worth my time and money. The beauty of this is that you can weed out the wackos most of the time.

There was the time when the "bird man" contacted me. He had his own business and he was with a beautiful Hyacinth macaw and a few other parrots in his pictures. After several emails discussing birds, we agreed to talk on the phone.

I found out that he had been married for 22 years, divorced for 6 months, had 6 kids, 4 cats, and 30 birds. :eek: He seemed to have "issues" with the fact that I had never married. In the middle of the conversation, he pretended that someone had come in and it was obvious that he was arguing with himself. :rolleyes:

I have a few more doozies, but another day. ;)

[jjsooner73]

Originally posted by Wendy w
I found out that he had been married for 22 years, divorced for 6 months, had 6 kids, 4 cats, and 30 birds. :eek: He seemed to have "issues" with the fact that I had never married. In the middle of the conversation, he pretended that someone had come in and it was obvious that he was arguing with himself. :rolleyes:


Yikes! I guess it takes all kinds to make the world go 'round, eh? Wow.

There was one guy from match.com I talked to a couple of times, and we were going to meet, but then I got sick. Really sick. I guess he had issues with this. One night, after having slept all day, I signed on to match really quickly and he 'saw' me online so emailed me and said, "I thought you were sick? Why are you up so late?".
This was the guy who I found out lived with his mom when I returned a phone call-he was a 38 year old man living w/ his mom! No wonder he lied about it. I decided to be openminded due to extinuating circumstances in his life last year.
Anyhow, about a week later, he called me at 11:30 on a Saturday night. I had been on the couch for 3 days sick with what turned out to be pneumonia. Had I felt better and been more with it, I would have told him off. Then he called me a few days later (I was in class) and said, "Oh, you're not home so I guess you're feeling better". I was really annoyed at this point. The day before Valentine's day, he emailed me to let me know how 'really disappointed' he was that we hadn't met yet. I replied and told him how disappointed I was that I had been sick and miserable for a month. I told him I didn't have time for him or anyone else at this point. He replied w/i 5 minutes and told me how disappointed he was again. When I didn't reply w/i 2 hours, he sent one final email that said "So, that's it?"
I've since blocked him...I just hated feeling like I was being stalked by someone I hadn't even met! That, and/or he's the type who is so insecure he has to know your where abouts at all hours every day. No Thanks.

[Wendy w]

Sheesh Jennifer. Sorry to hear that. Thank God for the blocking option.

After my post about Birdman, I feared that I had put a wet blanket on the thread and extinguished it. On the other hand, I should share a nice experience. Over a year ago, my Mom had a stroke, my former roomie died, and I had an ex who turned out to be wacko, crash the funeral. :rolleyes: Another story. It was also December and very close to Christmas so add the chaos of that.

There was a nice guy who I had been out with a couple of times. No sparks, just a really nice person. He invited me to go for a hike. To add to the roll I was on, I broke a back tooth that morning. :mad: We went to a really beautiful wilderness park and it took 2 hours to hike to the top. Once up there, we were rewarded with a nice breeze, silence, and a view of the ocean. On the way home, he told me that I could tell my friends that I had been out with a guy who I met online, and he made me sweat and breathe heavy. After the hike, I thanked him because I was really relaxed and content. He told me that it seemed that I needed something quiet. We talked and emailed a couple of times after that, but there just weren't any sparks. I hope that he finds someone special, because he was really nice and had a great (dry) sense of humor.

[Lynno1975]

Jenn,

I tried eharmony, and I had about as much luck with that as I did match.

I know that we're not trying to steal any thunder, but I have to share the story about the guy that I went out with the first time I tried match a couple years ago.

There was a guy that emailed me first, so I checked out his profile and he asked for my number. I gave him my cell. At first I thought he had a speech impediment, but then realized that it was his Hungarian accent. We met at Starbuck's on a Sunday afternoon and then he asked if I wanted to go to a movie. So, we went to the movie. All went well (so I thought), it was the afternoon and he walked me to my car. I said I had a nice time and then he proceeded to give me a tonsil exam with his tounge. So, I thought, this is how it is in Europe (he moved here with his family when he was 8 and that was 20 years before).

He called back and we made a late Thursday dinner date. On the day before, I checked my voicemail at home from work at 11am and I got the brush off/good luck on your search speech. I thought the vmail was lame, but I didn't feel much chemistry. THEN I checked my match account and he had emailed at midnight the night before. Same thing, we're not a good match, good luck. There was a p.s. on this that said "By the way, your mouth is more crowded than a liqour store on the corner of 16th and Illinos on the first of the month." (Sidenote: 16th and Illinois is a bad part of downtown.) I let it go, for two hours. Granted, my teeth aren't model straight, but I don't have teeth that resemble "Billy Bob Teeth" either. Besides, he had a big square head that the pockchop sideburns didn't accentuate the finer quality of that by any means. I emailed back and said "Funny thing, I got this email that said (insert above here). If my mouth is so d@#$ crowded, then how did you see your way past it to get your forked tounge down my THROAT!" Then I blocked him and a few days later cancelled my membership.

Once a year I try this online dating thing, and once a year I wonder why.

Who's got another story?

Lynn :-)

[mbrogier]

I have a very meddlesome SIL who loved to think she was my husband's big sister. His brother is 7 years older, and she hung around for 10 years while his brother was all wishy washy about whether or not he really liked this girl. (I'd have ditched him once and been done with his foolishness.) When my husband entered college and I was a senior in high school, she decided to start meddling. She told each of us separately that the other person wanted to see other people, which wasn't true. As you can imagine, it didn't go over well. We each stew a little bit. It also didn't help that I lived in another state and high school and fdh were 8 hours away. So, going back to school was sort of a reacquaintaince period--which wasn't going so well. There was also this girl that fdh had met over the summer, not told me about, not told her about me, and then she wants to hang out with him.

So...we have this mutual "friend"...evidently fdh talks to him and gets sympathy. :rolleyes: My class goes on our Senior trip to this camp in the mountains in late September and this "friend" starts working on me. (he must have been taught my now SIL) He's lying to me because he's had this thing for me for over a year. I'm gullible and see him as a friend, and I'm fed up with fdh and his childishness. (besides...the friend just got out of bootcamp and there was that uniform...) So, I start to see things differently. We're officially boyfriend/girlfriend for one day.

I get home, FDH is beside himself with joy to see me, I flatten him with my news. He lives a weekend in absolute misery, pounds on my stupid SIL when he finds out what she did, and this "friend" who the US Government gave a gun to--which was rumored he brought to school, threatens and stalks me until I had a show down with him (no guns, at a church) two years later.

Evidently I am an evil woman who digs out beating hearts with spoons. (I also rewrite stupid "epic" poems that are supposed to make me feel guilty and send them back to creeps. :o :mad: )

Before we graduated, this guy did the same thing to at least 6 girls. I was the last. He didn't DARE do it again.

[jjsooner73]

Originally posted by Lynno1975
"Funny thing, I got this email that said (insert above here). If my mouth is so d@#$ crowded, then how did you see your way past it to get your forked tounge down my THROAT!" Then I blocked him and a few days later cancelled my membership.


Good answer, Lynn. :)

I just got a call from an old friend--we go back to kindergarten, were HS sweethearts, slightly tested the waters some in college, but all that ended in friendship (with a lot of drama mixed in here and there). He recently got a divorce (he stayed the night at my house the night before divorce court as he lives back in OK now and he's also house/dog sat for me over the last year; we are pretty close friends).
I've detected a few maybe slightly suggestive comments from him here and there. Tonight he said that he thinks we'll be married in 2 years. :eek: His sense of humor is such that I know he's kidding, but then I get this feeling that deep down, he's not. He really just wants to be happy again--don't we all want that? The divorce was nasty. Thankfully, no kids are involved.
So, I go on to tell him about meeting NO guy last weekend and mention my other date. He suddenly has to go, though he said he'd call back. He hasn't.
Hmmmmm....I used to think that someday we'd end up together, but that was more of a young person's dream, not built in reality.

[emily]

Sounds to me like your friend was a bit shocked by the idea of you dating someone else and being in that blissfully happy giggly stage. Hopefully he'll come to his senses, realize what a great part of his life you are and call back after he's assimilated the new information and the idea of Jen just as a friend for life...

I love the dating diary! Thanks for sharing. I'm doing nerve.com right now and have had one ok date, the conversation was fun, but the guy smokes and seems to be ready for marriage immediately (asking me if I was ready to be an item with him the next day). So, I think I'll just leave it at one date with him. However, I've been emailing with another guy for about a month; great, long emails. I'm looking forward to a date with him when we both are back in the same town. We'll call him Mr. Motorcycle as he's got an old BMW bike that he's been fixing up.

Emily

[pattiarl]

Emily, what's nerve.com? I'm officially back in the dating scene today (almost officially I as I am looking at the pile of DBF stuff--we were to talk today and make it official but he hasn't called).


I've done match.com but dbf and I dated for 8 months so I'm a little rusty.

Patti

[Lynno1975]

Yes, what is nerve.com. Pattiarl, welcome to singldom again. I've been here for a little while now (actually two years come my birthday, how's that for the entry back?) I've been so frustrated with the whole dating idea that I just don't really care too much. Then there's days when I think "let's see what happens if I do...this," and a week later I'm thinking "way to go, Miss Brilliance!"

Side note, I do have a blind date this Thursday. A friend of mine is seeing a guy that she actually met last spring. She wasn't sure that she wanted to see him since he's finishing his MBA, moving to NYC for a job and then wants to move back to India in a couple of years. She kept in contact and is moving along with it now. His friends had joked to her about when she was going to introduce them to her single friends. I popped into her head. The four of us (she, her guy, the guy in question and me) are going out to dinner Thursday night. She thinks that it's just to meet someone to go have fun with before he goes back home (to India). That's fine with me. I wouldn't consider long term because I really don't want to move to India anytime soon or otherwise. It might be nice to remember what it was like to have someone buy me dinner once in a while. Come to think of it, it's not like the last boyfriend did much of that. He didn't like to be waited on, what was I thinking seeing that one?.... I'll let ya know how Thrusday goes.

All in all, being single really hasn't bothered me too much. I do whatever I want when I want and don't have to worry about anyone else. I'm starting to think that maybe, just maybe, guys are nothing more than mortals around to make me worry about stuff and fix stuff. Then again, I'm still coming across stuff that he "fixed" that needs to be fixed. I'll change my mind tomorrow I'm sure.

Lynn :-)

[jjsooner73]

Well, it's been a while so I thought I'd update this.

New Orleans guy is still in the picture! He hasn't moved here yet. He just had a 'formal' interview here today. The last was sort of unknown about, under the table so to speak. This was the real thing. Forunately, it was my most free day of the week (that timing thing again). I picked him up at the airport and we had lunch, then I dropped him off downtown for his interview and came home.
Then for dinner, we met at the airport as that was all we had time for. It all went well. He's still a gentleman, still makes me laugh, and is still darn handsome. :)
Hopefully he'll get the job. If so, things should start moving quickly and he'll be here soon and we can see where (if anywhere) things go.

Good hair guy and I had a total of 3 dates and I never heard from him again. Not sure why, am not worried about it. He was nice, but I didn't detect any chemistry so I'm sure he didn't either.

I'm communicating with a few through eharmony, but am not putting too much effort into it right now.

Any fun summer dating stories out there?

[dublchk]

About a month ago I started seeing a man I met on Match.com. On our first date, I didn't think he was my type but he's nice and energetic and likes to stay active, etc., so I agreed to go out again. We went bike riding twice and then he invited me out to his sailboat.

I've always had a bit of motion sickness problem. Actually, I can get carsick riding 5 miles down the road so I was very nervous about this. I took a Dramamine a couple hours ahead of time. I lasted about 10 minuts and was ready to get sick. I asked him, "which is worse, not going for a sail, or me throwing up on your boat?" He paused for a second and said, "let me drop the sail and we'll get you back to shore." We spent the afternoon hiking at the nearby state park and then he took me to dinner and movie. He was so nice about it, he gained a lot of points with me right then.

We've been spending quite a bit of time during the week together, but his weekends are almost totally at his boat. I called the dr. and got the scapolamine patch and offered to try the boat again. He went out and bought a relief band for me to use. Between the two things, we want for a 3 hour sail last Sunday. I had a great time and he was VERY happy that it went so well.

There are still nice men out there....and they can be fun too!

Mary

[Escher]

Anyone see the Friends episode where Joey says to Phoebe something along the lines:
"So you had sex with this man, right?
And you told him that it's "just sex"...
and that he doesn't have to call you...
and you never have to see each other again?
(Phoebe gulps yes)
This man is my God!"

This thread reminds me of the same scenario....

What do we know about JJSooner's crush?
He's handsome.
He's either out of work or in an unstable job.
He drove instead of flying a very long distance.
He agrees to unusual job interviews "under the table", yet no definitive offer has been made.
He lives very far away.
He was approached by a unknown woman, and agreed to have drinks and spend the night to be with that woman.

Now I ask you all tell me why again this is such a great connection? Because she had the courage to pass the man a phone #? No, sorry, the objective facts to me suggest that quite a bit of wariness is in order here.

Just some wild, wacky, out of left field thinking from Escher.

[SusanPC]

I just wanted to weigh in and say I love reading these posts. I was on and off Match.com for 1.5 years and finally met the love of my life. We have been dating for just over 9 months and I think a proposal is not far off (He isn't too great at secrets after a few drinks and I have been serving them up in abundance lately :) )

I joke with him that with all of my stories and those of my friends I could write a really funny book. Unfortunately, he isn't willing to let me do any more due diligence :eek:

Good luck to you with the NO guy and keep us posted!

[jjsooner73]

Originally posted by Escher
This thread reminds me of the same scenario....

What do we know about JJSooner's crush?
He's handsome.
He's either out of work or in an unstable job.
He drove instead of flying a very long distance.
He agrees to unusual job interviews "under the table", yet no definitive offer has been made.
He lives very far away.
He was approached by a unknown woman, and agreed to have drinks and spend the night to be with that woman.

Now I ask you all tell me why again this is such a great connection? Because she had the courage to pass the man a phone #? No, sorry, the objective facts to me suggest that quite a bit of wariness is in order here.


LOL Escher.
He does have a job, is just looking to move forward-the new job entails taking a Series 7 exam and will provide for more potential growth.
And he did fly yesterday!
Under the table was probably not the best way to describe his initial interview. You know how the business world is. His potential boss new of an upcoming opening, knew he was interested, and was checking him out. Things have to be done formally now that the job has officially been posted. That's all. :)

Anyhow, aren't you glad you're hitched and have those beautiful babies, and don't have to deal with crap like this anymore? :D

[Escher]

I'm glad you didn't take it the wrong way, JJSooner...

Dating has it's advantages...but, yes, I'd rather be married than not.

[Wendy w]

Jennifer, thanks for bringing this thread up. I had been wondering how things were going.

I am on a dating "hiatus" right now and am enjoying it.

Mary and Susan, it sounds like you may have found the last couple of nice guys out there.

[LonghornGal]

Originally posted by Wendy w

I have been wondering where Kristin has been too.

Didn't see this earlier - I had been living in the world of dial-up so haven't been on the boards.

My life continues to be interesting to me and my friends, I enjoyed sharing in the past but decided I didn't need abuse from random people about my style of sharing stories. However, since it seems that the flaming has died off, I may start sharing again.

It is fun to hear everyone's stories though.

Most recently I have been having fun avoiding my own personal stalker, whose name (quite seriously) is Spiritwolf.

Yep.

Spiritwolf.


<shiver>

[slawrence]

My dating tale....met my first guy from Match.com and we hit it off immediately-it's been 5 weeks now and we are having a blast. He is the most romantic guy I have ever met, has his own place, his kids are grown and approve of his dating me as do my grown kids...he cooks wonderful meals for me and brings me fresh flowers every week. Part of me is waiting for 'reality' to take over but for now....I am enjoying it! I think jjsooners story is great! I would never have had the nerve and look what she could have missed out on! You go! Sue

[jjsooner73]

Kristin,

Good to 'see' you! I for one have missed your dating threads. They were always more exciting than my own dating life! :D

Sue--that's great! I have known plenty of people who have had success with match.com, so I know there are good guys to be found there.

[JenniferJJ]

I'll play (and I have a question.)

I signed up for Table for Eight in February. This is an organization where you fill out a profile, you have a phone interview, you send a picture and then they arrange dinners for for you and others who generally match your profile. The tables are evenly matched with men and women and they've been tables of 6 or 8. First two dinners, no matches. Third dinner, there was a guy that I was not totally interested in, but I thought it might be nice to talk to him again. We had a coffee date two weeks ago and will have dinner tonight. The fourth dinner was very interesting: Two years ago I participated in a speed dating and had a quick weeknight dinner with one of my matches. He never contacted me after that and that was just fine with me. Anyway, he's one of the men at this table and I ended up sitting next to him. Arghh! Then I thought the guy sitting on the other side of me was interesting and attractive, but after a few minutes it was obvious that there was mutual interest between him and the woman sitting across from him. Then there was the guy across from me that I thought was nice, but not interested in at all. He emailed the coordinator that he would like my contact information. I was surprised since he seemed more interested in talking the the woman next to him. (If you are interested in someone, you are supposed to contact the coordinator - takes the awkwardnesses of asking out of the dinners.) I had no interest in him so did not email or call him.

Then I was riding my bike on a trail. Some guy just past me, then returned and talked to me for a few minutes and asked if we could go on a bike ride together some time. I gave him my cell number. He called over the weekend (left a messege). I can't go for at least a week since since I drive to the trail and my car is being fixed (had an accident Friday).

[MKSquared]

I'm still trying to figure out if the accident was a sign or what about This Guy.

I was headed up to have a talk with Guy to see if we could kind of advance things past this friendship stage. On the way up to have this conversation, a dump truck plowed into me. A bad sign, maybe ... :D On the other hand, Guy came and rescued me, and I showered and spent the night at his place. A good sign, maybe?

Anyway, we talked again tonight, and I still have an awful crush on him.

No dating for me until I've defended my capstone project and I have my M.Ed in hand. :)

[emptyspool]

This is a great thread. I love the first story, Jennifer, your friends were great support. It reminded me of a book that was lightly reviewed in our newspaper titled "Always Talk to Strangers." It is, of course, a book on great ways to meet people....talking to people while in the grocery line,etc. I am going to go to the bookstore and sort of look for some ideas.

A good friends 32 yr old beautiful daughter was starting to date a married man and while she and her mom both knew it was a dead end, it was just so enticing....needless to say how nice he was. Well good friend and daughter came to visit and good friend asks me what I think about it and of course I blasted the idea and told the daughter as long as she occupies herself with someone married she will miss opportunities to meet someone who isn't. So I thought I would go take a look at the book and see the suggestions and mail to her. I am long married but it is very hard to meet people once you are out of college and in the real world. As a matter of fact I think I will email your story to her!

[ellery]

I just wanted to say that I too have missed hearing the dating stories. I like following along with them and wondering what's going on with all of you. :)

Leah

[britneyelise]

I hope to have some dating stories soon, I signed up for eharmony after realizing I am never going to date anyone I meet at a bar. I was dating, what I thought was a nice guy for a month (a very long time for me). We were on opposite sides of the political spectrum. I could agree to disagree...he could not. So that ended. It's eharmony for me for a month, we'll see how this goes.

Shannon

[jjsooner73]

Good luck on eharmony, Shannon. I am on there as well, but my heart isn't really into it right now. There is one person I'm communicating with that seems interesting.

NO guy received a job offer, but it wasn't what he wanted. He is going to counter, but the person he needs to talk to is on vacation until next week. In the meantime, I know he had a realtor come look at his house today. We talked for a short while and I think I laughed the whole time! To be continued...

[jem927]

Shannon,

I wanted to see if you have had any dating stories to tell as of yet from EHarmony?

After a couple of months alone post-breakup, I have decided it is time for me to get back out there. As with you, I'm not going to meet the one at a bar, so I signed up for EHarmony over the weekend. I haven't made contact with anyone yet - but hope to this week.

Good dating vibes to everyone!

Jamie

[britneyelise]

No stories yet. There is a guy I have been communicating with and so far I like him. It is way too early to tell though. I have been inundated wtih "Match Requests Communication" and I need to catch up. Before I did some cleaning up, I had almost 50 matches on my list. I can barely keep track of myself! My longest relationship ever is only a month, how pathetic is that. I am not looking for a husband, just someone who "gets" me...which is pretty difficult. I still can't believe I shelled out 50 bucks for a month of this, but you know, if it helps me meet "that guy", then it will be worth it.
Shannon

[ErinM]

I have a friend who also did the e-harmony thing for one month last year. She met a guy, they've been corresponding, they've met, and she's planning to move in with him in the next few months. Another girl met a guy who is, I've heard, "so much like her it's like they share a brain".

As for me, I'm moving to a new city where I hope I'll be able to meet someone through my interests. If that doesn't pan out, I suppose I'll do the eharmony thing too.

Should be interesting since I haven't had a boyfriend since before Friends was on the air...:o :eek:

[jem927]

Dating update...

I haven't heard any activity on this thread lately.. How's the dating world going? Any results on EHarmony?

As for me, I'm doing the eHarmony thing, and have been having some long chat sessions with one individual. We do seem well matched, based on what I know, so we will see how it goes.

I do have a question.. When do you know it is time to meet? And what's a good outing for a first meeting? The reason I ask.. I received a couple of free tix to an outdoor concert this weekend, and thought I might ask him if he would want to join me. I thought it would be a good way to enjoy an outing, but still have talk time - rather than a movie for example, where you sit and say virtually nothing to each other.

Thoughts, ideas, votes of confidence???

Thanks!

Jamie

[doggerham]

Coming from a married person -- I am so in awe of you ladies who are out there using the latest, greatest technology!

Jamie, as for your concert idea, I generally think its a good one. But also consider -- who is the performer? is it someone that he likes, or will like? is it something that is very overtly romantic and might be a little uncomfortable? Ie, going to to the Boston Pops is one thing, going to a Celine Dion concert might be another thing entirely! (BTW, a friend just heard Carole King and it was FAB!)

Overall, I think it might be a good, relaxed atmosphere, where you can talk and visit, but there are other things going on, too! Is this something you would picnic at? If so, that would be fun too! So, basically I gues I'm saying go for it and have fun!

Amy

[jjsooner73]

Jamie,
Suggest it to him and see what he thinks. That type of place seems safe and open enough...

On my first meetings, I've met at a restauarant or coffee shop, and generally don't meet someone w/o talking to them on the phone first.

As for NO guy--he starts his new job soon! He's not here yet, but I think I'll see him in a couple of weeks when he is home hunting. :D

I'm doing eharmony, and have emailed w/ a few people, but it seems to generally move slower than match. I haven't met anyone yet, and am going to let my subscription expire next month.

[jem927]

Amy,

Good points on the concert. I need to delve into his musical likes I do believe. It is an ASO concert with Celtic Woman. I am going to love it, but not sure about him.

As for technology.. it is a safer way to meet someone than the typical bar-hoping and such. And actually, I really don't want someone that I would meet at a bar. I hardly ever hit the bar scene, and it wouldn't feel right.

Anyway, I'll keep everyone posted IF it happens.

Jamie

[ErinM]

I don't want to jinx myself, but may have met someone through Yahoo. We seem to be very well matched we've met once and have also had an "all day" date. We don't hate each other yet, so this seems to be a good sign! :D

[jem927]

Well, I asked about musical interests, and Celtic or symphony never came up.. Must come up with another idea now...

Oh well! Anyone want to go with me???? :-)

Jamie

[Molli526]

Well, I asked about musical interests, and Celtic or symphony never came up.. Must come up with another idea now...

Oh well! Anyone want to go with me???? :-)

Jamie

I don't think it would hurt to ask. If someone I had liked asked me, I would go.

[ErinM]

Well, I asked about musical interests, and Celtic or symphony never came up.. Must come up with another idea now...

Oh well! Anyone want to go with me???? :-)

Jamie


I love Celtic music! I'd go!

And I agree with Molli. If he likes you, he should be open to expanding his musical horizons.

[jjsooner73]

So, what's the scoop with you other singles?

NO guy is moving here Tuesday and we are tentatively set to meet up that night. :)

In the meantime, eHarmony has gone dry. But, I have 2 friends who have people they want to introduce me too. One has already emailed me, and the ohter might be calling shortly. We'll see....

[MKSquared]

Like, moving, moving? Wow. :)

So, here's my story:

I tried eharmony. I paid $100, justifying it by saying I'd spend it on clothes without even batting an eye, and I filled out the questionnaire and waited for my matches. And I waited. And I waited. And in that week, eharmony came up with one match for me. In Tanzania. I cancelled my membership within the trial period. :)

I also gave Nerve.com a shot. It's a lot of fun, if you're an open-minded type. What I really enjoy about it is their payment method. You buy "tokens," and when you contact someone initially, it costs you a token. To reply to an email costs nothing. If there's no one there that catches your eye, you can always wait and give it a shot later.

However ... I also finally bit the bullet and became a paid member of catholicmatch.com. There are bulletin boards there that offer a sense of community, and I've really enjoyed what I'm finding there. Sure, I'm one of the more liberal people there ... that's why I spend my time in the room that deals mostly with politics! ;)

The fun news is that before I even discovered the bulletin boards there, I came across this guy's profile ... he lives in Cleveland, but it really seemed as though we'd get along quite well. We talked, realized we were kindred spirits - which is good, because he's probably the most outspoken representative of the left on that site! We've met up a few times, and ... well ... we're getting along as well as I thought we would. :D

.... and in other news ... A guy that's broken my heart at least twice in the past year is out of my life. YAY! He hit on one of my friends, telling her he's always liked her, and that there was nothing between me and him. (Yeah, right.) There is this uncomfortable, unresolved tension between us ... so he tells me that it's not a good idea to hang out anymore ... then blames me for all of the tension ... so I gathered my things, told him I didn't appreciate being blamed, and walked out. Good riddance.

And ... the guy I dated more than a year ago ... who lives about 3 hours away ... when I signed up for the Catholic site, he coincidentally signed up just after I told him. Hmmmm. Then, he got a little upset when I said that I was going to meet the guy in Cleveland. He asked, "Is it a romantic thing?" When I said it might develop into that, he argued, "But I thought we had something between us still!" Keep in mind we haven't seen each other in a year, we've both dated other people since then, and he didn't kiss me when we DID date!

ARGH!

[jjsooner73]

MK, are any of the guys you mentioned the one who was so nice to you after your car wreck?

I may look into nerve.com later if the need is there. I've had plenty of matches on eharmony--and several who have made it to the open communication stage, but then things stop. I haven't really pushed anything either.

And yes, NO guy is moving moving. :D He has an apartment, his belongings are getting put into storage in the short term, and he's loading up a moving van w/ clothes and such and driving here on Tuesday. I was thrilled that he wanted to see me that night. :) Though I am the only person he knows here besides his future boss.

[CookieG]

Glad to see this thread is resurrected! It's tough out there in the dating world...it's good to share experiences!

As for me, I ended my relationship with my pseudo-boyfriend a few weeks ago. We had been on-again, off-again for 11 months and it just became clear to me that neither of us were getting what we wanted from each other (ie, I want a serious relationship leading toward marriage, kids, the whole works and he just doesn't as he is already divorced with kids). So, better to cut it off and start again, as sad as that is.

So I'm back on Match.com in earnest. I met a guy last week who was cute, but super shy. I don't think we have a lot in common, but I'm going to go out with him again, just to give things another chance. I've tried other services like eharmony and nerve, and they just didn't click the same way as match. I know people who met their spouses on both, tho, so I think it all depends on the individual!

Chris

[dublchk]

My dating update:

I'm still seeing the guy I met on Match.com in May. He's the nice guy with the sailboat that was patient while I figured out a way around my motion sickness. We have spent every weekend on the boat since the 4th of July and are having a great time. We both agree that our age (mid 40s both of us), we don't want to keep seeing each other if there's no future. So far, we feel there is hope for a long-term future.

I have a couple of friends who've recently signed up for eHarmony and both are in the early stages of communication with a couple of men. eHarmony definitely takes longer to get to the meeting point, but so far, so good.

Any other good news out there?

[Kahlico]

Well hey, since we're sharing dating experiences (or in my case, lack-of) I'll chime in.

Since my divorce of almost 2 years ago, I haven't dated much (but it has been only 2 years).

I just ended a friendship with a man whom I dated last year around this time. We broke up last November, didn't talk much again until late February, rekindled our friendship, admitted our feelings for each other and even talked "seriously" (a possible long-term future, etc.). We spent day-in and day-out together most of the summer. He was my best friend, but we were more than friends (so we acted).

About a month ago, he told me he didn't return the feelings he had for me a few months prior and we felt we needed to stop our friendship for the time being.

I must say, I learning to be content on singlehood for now.

~emilie~

[MKSquared]

MK, are any of the guys you mentioned the one who was so nice to you after your car wreck?

Nope. Although I'd really love to date him, he'd made it pretty clear that he's not looking for a relationship, and I know better than to try to chase after a man who'd rather be by himself for a while. Ah, well. We still talk and hang out, though.

[jjsooner73]

Well, I saw NO guy last night about 30 minutes after he got into town after his long drive. We had dinner.
It was humerous when I picked him up at the hotel (he said, "Hotels and airports. THis is crazy!)

All was well. We won't be able to get together again until next week. I'm excited! :D

[Wendy w]

Jennifer, I'm glad to hear that he is now local. ;)

I have had some interesting action myself lately, but I'm not ready to share yet. ;)

[Kahlico]

I have had some interesting action myself lately, but I'm not ready to share yet. ;)

You're such a tease Wendy! :p

[Wendy w]

You're such a tease Wendy! :p

I know, I know Emilie. Loose lips sink ships and I don't want to jinx anything. ;) :p

[brykate]

I'm certainly glad to be married but its fun to get to "listen in" on the dates of others :) Sort of like a reality show :p :o :) Please don't take that the wrong way; I certainly care more about you gals!! Jen and others - thanks for sharing with us.
Emilie - has it really been 2 years already?? Glad to hear you are hanging in there and being content. Easier said than done I'm sure.
Wendy - don't keep us hanging for too long ;)

[jjsooner73]

Wendy, hope everything is going well w/ you (and everyone else doing the dating thing).

I thought it was tme to provide an update. NO guy did finally move here, we've seen each other several times, and I think he's a total player. :rolleyes: Oh well. I guess he's still somewhat in the picture, but I'm not holding my breath.

In the meantime, I'm going to play like Wendy and keep my other news to myself for now. :)

[olchik]

That's such a nice story!:) I wish you good luck with that handsome guy!:)

[Wendy w]

Thanks Jennifer. I'm really sorry to hear that NO guy is a player. Nothing surprises me anymore, it seems like A LOT of them are.

I'm still not ready to divulge much information for the reasons I've stated, but I can say that there are two (hey, no one has asked me to go steady yet) and I prefer one over the other. Can you guess which one is calling?? :rolleyes: Yup, the 2nd choice. He's not a bad guy, it's just that he's from another country and it is hard to understand him and there are quirks. On the plus side, he's interesting , can be fun and loves to wine and dine me. I met the other one at the end of last year but he didn't call until after we crossed paths again-9 months later. We had two really nice back-to-back dates. When we last talked (2 weeks ago), he said that its his busy season at work. We have some mutual friends so I know that we will be crossing paths again sometime.

Good luck to everyone who is dating. Keep your humor, friends, and interests going. May the Dating Gods be with you! ;)