Adult-only party update

[ChristyMarie]

For those who remember, my husband and I had asked friends of ours to not bring their children to an adult party we threw last night via email. They did not respond to either of our emails. However, they did show up, without their children, and very mad at me. Other friends let me know that they had been speaking rather poorly of me in regards to the situation. Somehow it is all my fault even though the first email request came from my husband. In fact, when they arrived I went to greet them and the wife walked right past me and loudly greeted the next person in the room. :rolleyes:

They have never really liked me so it isn't a great loss to me - and I was able to enjoy my party without worrying about the little monsters running around unsupervised. And you'll be happy to know that I went over to her and greeted her quite warmly. I think sometimes kindness makes them even more mad. ;)

Thank you to everyone who offered advice!!!

[Chefzhat]

What ghastly behavior. :( You've done what you could, and are well within your rights to no longer be obligated to invite them anywhere.

Grrrr. Sometimes I wonder when people will "grow up". Seems that it doesn't happen to some.

Debie

[bensdad]

I agree, That would be the last invite they would recieve from me, Oh by the way, how are the hang-overs fairing this morning? ;)

[moonbeam]

Thanks for the update. I was wondering what had happened. How extremely rude to bad mouth you and to ignore their hostess. Now maybe others in your group will have the courage to follow your example.

Kim

[blazedog]

It's the silver lining -- You don't like them, they are boorish, their children are boorish but you have been forced to interact with them because they are legacies -- they will soon be a fond memory in your social life. :D

[donnamp14]

Let me get this straight: They came into to YOUR home and treated YOU rudely? They are indescribably rude! And you are a total gentlewoman! Hats off to you for your grace and manners! I hope you had a great time, and I hope you can host and attend many more adults-only parties! (How nice of you to let us know how this worked out.)

Merry Christmas and Happy New year!

-Donna

[Chefzhat]

. Other friends let me know that they had been speaking rather poorly of me in regards to the situation.

I hope these "friends" stood up for you.

[blazedog]

d I hope you can host and attend many more adults-only parties! Merry Christmas and Happy New year!

-Donna

In the future, any adult-only party can properly exclude these people as they fail to make the grade on any level. :D :D

[Jazzmatazz49]

I don't always agree with that old sourpuss Dr. Laura, but as she says, Why would you want these people as friends anyway? :D

I'm glad the party was a success, and I'm sure most of the people there agree with you and think they are nutzo.

[GingerPow]

I must have read Donna's mind!! I thought the same thing reading your post, Christy - she walks into YOUR home and thinks that is the time and PLACE to prove HER point and be rude to YOU? That's your turf. And this behavior in your home is after she criticizes you behind your back?

People will show you who they are if you just keep your eyes and ears open. She is SCREAMING to one and all just who she is. I would not want her within a mile of my life.

You did indeed, engage in behavior at a much higher level than that woman, my hat's off to you! That is what I have taught my children, and husband, frankly :rolleyes: - operate at a higher level in the face of bad behavior.

You can look back on your behavior and know that you were gracious in the face of rudeness. You showed everyone who YOU are, and they are bound to be impressed. That is not something that ill-mannered woman can claim this morning.

(BTW - we went to an adult's only party last night, even the host & hostess' children were at Grandma's house. No one minded, no said an unkind word about our friends - I would have put them in their place had they tried - and we all had a great time. It was a wonderful party).

[LaraW]

Talk about that saying...with friends like that, who needs enemies.

Good for you, and I certainly would not invite them to anything in the future.

[Dfen911]

Christy thanks for the update. And I just love how she acted both before and during the party. I would love to have been there just to hear how she made a fool of herself with the bad mouthing and how she made a fool of herself again by being rude to the hostess. That does not bode well for future invitations either from you, or from those that had to listen to her tripe.

Good job for sticking to your guns. In the long run she's the fool, and you were the gracious hostess. Kill em with kindness :)

[kima]

What Donna said.

What nerve! :mad:

[vbak]

good for you for sticking to your invite. There is a time and a place for children, and last night wasn't the time or place for them! You have set a precedent for your group of friends. What a rude and obnoxious woman.

Vicky

[Peweh]

What galls me is that if they were THAT offended and bothered bad-mouthing you to the rest of your friends, why show up at all? If I were so offended, I'd make it obvious by boycotting the event in question. Although my guess is, your husband and hers are friends, she blew it out of proportion, and he was coming with or without her anyway. Anyway I am proud of you for being the ever gracious hostess, I probably would've taken the tack of What's Your ##*!@?! problem!!!, so we didn't want kids here, don't take it personally! :p You are a better woman than I and hope you had a great night! (and many future pleasant Adult Only Parties withOUT the rude lady!

[generic]

Like Ginger said, her behavior says everything about her, and nothing about you. If she wants to engage in junior high behavior, who cares? Other grownups in your circle of friends will recognize it for what it is.

The important thing is that you stood your ground, did it politely and tactfully, and got the desired result! Yippee! Doesn't it feel grand? :D

I'm glad things worked out for you. You showed that you are one classy lady!

[Paula H]

What galls me is that if they were THAT offended and bothered bad-mouthing you to the rest of your friends, why show up at all? If I were so offended, I'd make it obvious by boycotting the event in question. Although my guess is, your husband and hers are friends, she blew it out of proportion, and he was coming with or without her anyway. Anyway I am proud of you for being the ever gracious hostess, I probably would've taken the tack of What's Your ##*!@?! problem!!!, so we didn't want kids here, don't take it personally! :p You are a better woman than I and hope you had a great night! (and many future pleasant Adult Only Parties withOUT the rude lady!

My thoughts exactly!!

May your future Adult Only Parties be delightful and witty and child-free (the grown-up kinda child, I mean).

[ChristyMarie]

Yes, they certainly showed their true colors as rude, inconsiderate individuals. I don't think they'll be invited to our home any time soon. I just cannot believe how rude and low class some people can be.

Hangovers didn't seem to bad. My husband managed to fall asleep on the couch after the last person left around 3:30. I heard a noise and came downstairs at 5 am to find him asleep with Star Wars blaring. :rolleyes:

[BarbaraL]

Kudos to you! Like everyone else has already said, you were classy and gracious to some beyond-the-pale boors! You certainly have the right to invite whom you want to your home., and your request for no children should be respected. There is NO excuse for accepting your hospitality, then treating you rudely. If they were so offended, they should have stayed home. As others have said, they showed their true colors. Hopefully, the rest of your social circle will follow your lead. As Chefzhat said, I wonder what your friends said when these people complained about you.

When DD was young, there were certain events that I missed because she was not invited and I couldn't arrange baby-sitting. In one case, I tried to find out if children were welcome (because the invitation was not clear). I called the hostess to RSVP, and said we'd love to come, but were having trouble finding a sitter (which was true); the hostess did not respond with "Oh, bring her along!", which I understood meant that kids weren't welcome. We couldn't get a sitter, so we didn't go. Found out some other people had brought their (not invited) children, but I felt good knowing I'd respected the hostess's wishes.


Again, congratulations on having your party your way!

[colleency]

Why would they even come to your party if they were so mad at you?!? If it was an issue for them, they should have stayed home. They're the ones that decided to have kids!

[Wendy w]

Why would they even come to your party if they were so mad at you?!? If it was an issue for them, they should have stayed home. They're the ones that decided to have kids!

Yes. Why did they even bother, and after they bad mouth you? What examples they will be to their children. :rolleyes: Congratulations on your graciousness and most of all, sticking to your guns.

[maddolee]

Thanks for the update. I agree with what everyone has said, and I am very glad that you had a great time! Sounds like it was a smash!!