What am I to do laugh or cry

[matt]

Today i had to go to work at 2 had a chance to finish a paper that is due tomarrow, I got to work and they went out of business. There is like nothing going to work and they go out of business. so what should i do laugh or cry. I really loved that job and the people especially getting to know the customers. So give me your input should i laugh or cry. matt

[SueK]

Well, I would say laugh, or, if nothing else, don't cry.

Look on the plus side: you now have the work experience, additional skills, etc. In the area where you live, I am sure those will be a great benefit in getting another job.

It's pretty bogus that you had to find out by just showing up for work, but keep your chin up!

[Gail]

I'm looking at this from the point of view of your next employer. You tell 'em you LOVED your work and you were good at it, but that the business folded. Your prospective employer sees (1)somebody with experience (2) somebody who was eager to work (3) a positive attitude toward the work. These are pluses in the world out there. Use them to your advantage the next time around.

...now go have something wonderful for dinner, pour yourself a glass of wine and move on.

[aka]

Matt,
I had a (somewhat) similar experience a couple of years ago when I was a cook in a bar...the owner sold the restaurant and as we was leaving one Friday he informed me: "I sold the place, but don't worry you still have a job. The new owner is keeping you." The way he did it as he was rushing out the door....well NOW I can laugh.

Good luck to you; and as Gail said, try to use this to your advantage in your future job search.

Lilia

[Ed]

Hi Matt,

That's good advise fron Gail and SueK, and I really don't have much to add exept to say keep smiling, it's not your fault that they decided to close the doors and not treat their employees fairly by giving them a heads up on the future -- So keep smiling, your future is still bright.

Here's poem I like, you might like it too.

Keep a – Goin’

By Frank L. Stanton (1857-1927)

If you strike a thorn or rose,
Keep a – goin’!
If it hails or if it snows,
Keep a – goin’!
`Taint no use to sit an’ whine
When the fish ain’t on your line;
Bait your hook an’ keep a – tryin’----
Keep a – goin’!

When the weather kills your crop,
Keep a – goin’!
Though `tis work to reach the top,
Keep a – goin’!
S’pose you’re out of ev’ry dime,
Gittin broke ain’t any crime;
Tell the world you’re feelin’ prime ---
Keep a – goin’!

When it looks like all is up,
Keep a – goin’!
Drain the sweetness from the cup,
Keep a – goin’!
See the wild birds on the wing,
Hear the bells that sweetly ring,
When you feel like sighin’, sing ---
Keep a – goin’!


Good Luck and Best Wishes.

Ed

[Melina]

Hi Matt,
Here's my two cents worth. First, I think it's okay to cry, because you've lost something you enjoyed and wanted to keep.

Then, you should laugh, because how many people have lost their job the way you did? I think it's going to be a great story to tell and retell, especially if you do it with a laugh.

I wish you lots of good luck in all that you do.
Melina

[Mamasue]

Matt,

I agree also with Gail and SueK! I don't understand how a employer can just close up a business without a word to employees....but it happens.

Ed...I love your poem http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

[BlueMoose]

Matt...good luck on the new job hunt http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

Ed...You remind me of someone I know from Lake Wobegon http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/wink.gif

[jazzcat]

Matt, I'm so sorry to hear about how you lost your job. It must have been quite a shock. Good luck in your job search, I'm sure you'll be working again very soon!

[rinsav]

Matt,

You're not alone. I got laid off from my job several months ago and still haven't found anything new yet. It's very tough to get used to and it's sad, especially when you like your job as you and I did. It's certainly okay to cry (I know I have), but you need to try to laugh too and know that all will end up okay. This type of experience will really help you grow and you'll be stronger for it. And, please don't worry...You'll find another job that you love again one day soon. I know it! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

Take care,
Rindi

[Vanessa]

Hi Matt. I agree with Gail. How can an owner close and not inform the people working for them seems hard to believe but its happening more and more. I hope you find another job soon and the new employer can see you are hard working, with potential and positive attitute. I agree with Gail too make a nice dinner, a glass of wine and I will add reach out to friends being with friends enjoying their company will help you feel better.

[TamiK]

Matt, my heart goes out to you, as I know these setbacks seem overwhelming at the time. It may not help, but I'll tell you how I get through the really tough stuff. I ask myself one question to help me refocus and prioritize: If this is the worst thing that happens this year, can I handle it? I formed that question after my husband was nearly killed by a drunk driver 7 years ago. Even when really difficult things strike (see my post on stolen identities), that question helps keep me from sinking in despair. It doesn't mean that what you're going through right now isn't really, really rotten--it is. Sometimes, though, it helps to focus on all the things we do have: our health, our families, a sense of humor http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif . Hang in there and let us know how you're doing.

[BarbaraL]

Matt, my best wishes to you. I can sympathize; I was laid off from my job yesterday. I'd worked there 22 years! You laugh and you cry (usually with more of the latter). Have faith that something even better will come along!

[crlykat]

Matt,
I feel for you! The same thing happened to me in April. The whole company just shut down its doors that very day I (and everyone else) was let go. Of course I freaked out for a week.
But then I worked my connections with the people I knew through work (clients etc) and I started doing some freelance work to keep the $$ coming in.

I guess what Im trying to say is, there are ways you can make this work for you. Look for any positive in it and keep going.
What Gail said is soooo true. That was what I relayed to the interviewers during my interview.
And I got the job!
Good luck!

[carolyn.1]

Matt,
I am sorry to hear about your job not being there when you arrived for work. I cannot imagine what that would feel like.
I on the other hand was on the other side of the coin!!
I was working for a restaurant chain, I worked at their corporate office and I handled 9 stores. In another state there were 2 stores, I called them every morning to get all the figures from the day before. I spoke with the same managers of these 2 stores every day for 2 years, I got to know them and knew about there families..etc. Well I was told by my boss(owner) that he was going down there (Ga) the next month on a particular weekend and close the doors.!! Literally put pink slips on the door. I thought I was gonna die. I continued speaking with these nice people, knowing all would be out of a job. But if I said anything I would have been fired. That was one of the hardest things I had to keep inside.
Believe it or not, I do have the faith that all happens for a reason. I believe your life will be better than ever. So...laugh don't cry
Carolyn-- http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/wink.gif