I'm Outta Here...

[sneezles]

Well, I had thought this was a place that I could share recipes, laughs and such...
But after reading all the posts regarding the fact that the July issue was given out at the CL Weekend (and I was in fact the only dissenter), I can take a hint. I offer reciipes with no thanks or made to feel my opinion is wrong...(and BTW, I have had my July issue since Saturday but as I have said on other threads, I don't like to gloat or make others feel left out when they don't have their copy-it's not a contest but I have felt that it's has become one, lately).
So, it's been real!
Vaya con Dios!

[jazzcat]

Sneezles, Please don't go. I'll miss you not being here!

Jazzcat

Brad Paisley wouldn't want you out of here either. We've all danced.

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[Mamasue]

Sneezles....what am I missing here. I must have missed the comments that you are talking about. Please think this over and don't leave. I value your help, sharing, friendship and will miss having you here. First Pheobe and now you. What is going on! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/frown.gif

[SandyM]

Originally posted by Mamasue:
What is going on! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/frown.gif

My sentiments exactly Sue. I think we all need to sit back, relax a little bit, and reflect on what the bottom line is for this bulletin board - a place to share ideas, gather information, and hopefully, maintain friendships that will last a long while.

[lindrusso]

This is just a suggestion.

I know that many of us may want to show support for those we feel may have been insulted (whoever they may be), but maybe we should email them privately. I'm just afraid that this could turn ugly quickly. If you have an issue (or even if you want to show support)with someone on this board, please work it out privately if possible. Further public discussion on the boards about this sort of thing will likely succeed in only making things worse.

Like I said, just a suggestion....

[BlueMoose]

So, how about those (insert your favorite sports team here)?

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[kwormann]

Im sorry you feel no one appreciates or thanks you.....I felt I had, I know I appreciate all your help.....

Kim

[maizeyoats]

Sneezles,
Say it ain't so! You remember when we did the link on what we liked about the BB and you were one of the people I specifically mentioned.
I hope, like all of us do, you are just having a bad day.
And I have to say, like Mamasue, I am not sure what triggered all of this. I guess I missed something too.

[Curleytop]

Sneezles, Hey, we need you! Please don't go!
Guess we all get a little p.oed sometimes, but most of us are real and enjoy and appreciate your posts!!

[Beth Y]

I am sorry, but I have to weigh in and say a couple of things.

1. Sneezles, please don't go over this. In the scheme of things, it was a small thing on everyone's part and not worth leaving this great place for.

2. Lynn, sneezles, post was a bit "short" (as used by Mom in the sentence "don't get short with me, young lady!) as she recognized later and apologized for, so I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by saying that you shouldn't have been hurt by the initial post.

3. But what I AM SAYING is that if Sneezles' somewhat snippy post, which she apologized for fairly quickly, is the WORST that happens on this BB (I have only seen a snippy post one other time on this BB and it rose about to the level of Sneezles.. that is, not so bad, and, if I recall the person apologized that time too) then this is a PRETTY GREAT BOARD! Lets all count to 10, understand that we all have bad days (which are so much worse when you hear about someone else's GREAT DAY which we all are so amazingly envious we couldn't be on!)and try to understand.

4. I, personally, am having a great day. Unlike a previous poster also in the throes of potty training, my 3 year old has worn underwear for 2 straight days WITHOUT peeing on the rug. Can life get much better or more exciting than this?

[kima]

Very well said Beth. I agree wholeheartedly!! As i have enjoyed this BB so much I ventured out to try a sports related one. I quickly gave that up as I couldn't believe how rude people were all the time!!
Everyone has bad days and sometimes something just hits you the wrong way. We are here to have fun and share- Lynn and Sneezles are such an intergral part of this community. They contribute so much. Let's stay together and move on!!

[Julie O]

I just took a class about personalities and communication. They provided a very interesting statistic. When we think of communicating one-on-one with a person, how much do you think your words contribute to the total process (versus non-verbal clues)?? (Is that clear??) Only 10% is the actual words, 60% is the inflection in your voice, and 30% is body language.

For example, say this sentence out loud.

"I didn't say he took the money."

Emphasize the I. Read again. Emphasize the didn't. etc. HUGE difference in meaning depending on the word that is emphasized.


Unfortunately, when we're on the web, we lose 90% of the process of communication. We can't see the looks on each others faces, we can't hear the way the sentence was said. And, most of us write very quickly, so words can be taken in the wrong way. We all really need to relax and realize that no one in this group has ever intentionally tried to be mean.

[laughsandlaughs]

Hi Sneezles.

All I want to say is that you've made over 1500 posts!!! IMHO if you feel slighted, misunderstood or unthanked for a few, well, you've come out lucky!! Just look at this in the big picture. I know sometimes things come out misunderstood or we don't get as much feedback as we'd like, even though people do appreciate our posts. Please take a breath, a moment, a few days, and then come back.

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[Jewel]

Sneezles, I respect your decision as much as I respect your humor, information, and integrity on this board. Do whatever you feel is right, but just try to remember one thing: We're (nearly) all female. Hormones can get to us every once in awhile, and come to think of it, even the boys get hormonal!

All of us at one time or another have said something on this board that we wish we hadn't, or stuck our bottom lip out just a bit when we felt we were slighted. One of the main reasons that this board is so successful, I believe, is because we're all adults with a bit of the child still lurking inside! We're able to talk about things from standup mixers to natural disasters, but then there's that little kid in each one of us that we don't seem to be afraid to let loose once in awhile! (remember: Crusty Diaper-Sniffer!)

This has always been the type of forum where we could speak our minds and know that we still had friends. Your post here today is proof of that. Just respect the forum enough to give us all a chance to learn from it. Take a few days or take months if you'd like. I think I speak for all of us when I say we'll welcome you back with open cyber-arms no matter when you return. And by the way Sneezles? Thank you... http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/biggrin.gif

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[Ed]

Hi,

Sneezles, I have enjoyed your recipes and comments here on the board, and I think I have expressed this to you before but in case I just thought I did, please accept my apologies and my thanks too.

I didn't know Phoebe left the BB, I have been quite busy with my other interests these past few months of spring, and evidently haven't been keeping up with all the events on the BB.

I too have noticed though, about people being happy about getting the new issue of CL, I'm happy to get the new issue too and it always seems to come too late in the month to suit me, but Sharon and I sure do look it over when it does arrive. And we try some of the recipes on occasion. I don't really care when the CL magazine arrives as long as it is about the same time each month -- I'm into consistency.

Well anyway best wishes to Sneezles and Phoebe they will be missed on the board.

While I would like them to stay and contribute, this is a voluntary group and Sneezles and Phoebe are exercising a fundemental law of volunteers -- The Law of the Feet -- When you no longer enjoy being a voluenteer in the outfit, you use your feet to voluenteer elsewhere.

I made a real good recipe tonight for supper, and when I get the recipe typed into Master Cook I'll post it here so you can take a look at it.

Happy Cooking,

Ed

P.S. My computer has been on the good side lately, but you can never tell when it will act up a little, so if you notice that it changed the spelling of some of the words to the incorrect way then you know it, (the computer,) has gone back to it's old ways.

Ed

[Melina]

Sneezles, I don't think we've had any direct postings, but I do read the interesting and friendly interactions you have with other members. And on that basis, I too want to ask you not to leave.

When I first joined the BB, I was very offended by a posting, and I responded with both feet and a fist. When I saw the type of feedback I got from the members, and realized the caliber of people I was dealing with, my next five postings on that day were apologies.

I was new, I had embarassed myself and it was hard for me to continue on the board. But I felt I had already learned a lot from being here, both in cooking and in being cool, and I wanted to try to stay. I'm so glad that I did. As Beth Y said, this is a great place. I still marvel at how quickly and willingly members respond and give of themselves.

Hang in there with us Sneezles, life is a work in progress.

And I'll miss your sense of humor!

Melina

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[Kristilyn1]

Okay, I've been in the midst of a move so I've been without the boards for ten days--so I REALLY have NO IDEA what happened--so does this make me an impartial observer?

I guess with all the entreaties--how can you go Sneezles? I think you have to look at this board like a houseful of women living together--we ain't always going to get along.

Kristi

[GayeC]

Sneezles -- I don't know what happened but I hope you won't leave us. I have enjoyed and appreciated many of your posts. Gaye

[Vanessa]

I really liked Julie's observation. Many of us email to friends & fa and have started friendships on this board. As my DH and I were talking about this we were saying how hard it is to communicate without seeing each other, hand movement (must be the latin in me) etc. I think thats why the smilies etc play a key role. When reading a sentence it can be read differently by many of us.
I think like Ed this is Sneezles (& Phoebe's) decission. You both will be missed as well as others who have left this CL board... Maybe someday you will join the board again...we hope so ! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif
I just want to say at times it VERY hard communicating by email or mail because there can be misunderstandings. Then again even by phone that can happen but when you are typing its hard to convey a thought or a feeling as clearly. Believe me this is a great board. I have seen others and really have kept away from them as I think in CL we have a group of intelligent, nice, love for cooking people and from different cultures and ideas which makes it quite active and interesting board.

[Zinnia]

All I can say is-I have absolutely no idea whats going on here BUT, I do know that the CL bb without you Sneezles, is like me... without the CL bb!!
I hope things workout- whatever you choose to do. Good luck to you, and I will miss you-take care Sneezles, http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif Zinnia

[cjm]

sneezles - just wanted to add my 2 cents worth...I will miss your good ideas and insight and remember...the door swings both ways...(it is always open). Hope you reconsider!

cjm

[carolyn.1]

Sneezles...I was overwhelmed when I found this thread this morning. I don't know what happened I have read a few July issue comments within this week, but don't know what it is about.
As you know, even you and I have more or less had a fallen out. But that is my fault and my problem. I am a redheaded hot head at some times. I do not put my words on paper very well. I'm sure you can remember this. I too decided to "go away", but with the wonderful words of Ralph and other people on this board I realized that we are all just human beings with good days and bad--and alot of times our daily personal lives get in the way of our posting messages on the board.

I will truly miss you if you decide to leave... http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/frown.gif I hope that you will reconsider!!
Carolyn--

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[Ralph]

Yes, men do blush! Thanks for your kind words, Carolyn.

[SandyM]

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