Exercise and pregnancy-the 1st few weeks

[MrsReber]

Help!!! I have always exercised regularly, but now I am about 4-5 weeks pregnant (this is what the tests tell me!). I have absolutely no energy, which I understand is normal. I just cannot get myself to the gym at all or to do any other exercise because I get tired so quickly. Work is wearing me out, too. I am also fighting nausea for the past three days. Should I still try to force myself to exercise or is it okay to be lazy? I feel guilty not getting any exercise. I am eating more often to combat the sick feeling, too. It seems to work, but I am concerned about consuming too many calories. I don't go to see my doctor until the 12th so I appreciate any advice that you veteran moms might have! This is the first one for us!

[Kristilyn1]

That is totally common--the first 3-4 months you will probably feel like a total slug. The most important thing you can do, besides eating healthy is to get enough sleep!!!!! Yes, this will be MUCH more than you usually get. While I think it is easier to exercise from the get-go when pregnant vs. doing it later--you need to see your doctor to determine things like: your blood pressure, etc. to determine whether you are ABLE to exercise. Though fitness before pregnancy is a pretty good indicator of whether you are healthy enough to continue--every pregnancy is different. I would say (IMHO) that walking when you feel up to it is always good--but otherwise--wait until your first visit. A few weeks off won't hurt you overall. Good luck!!!

ps--peanut butter is pretty good for combating nausea.

Kristi

[lindrusso]

Congrats again! How exciting! Usually (though, as you'll find, very little goes by what they tell you in the books!) the tiredness is associated with the first 3 months and hopefully you'll get your energy back soon.

Some people can gain all sorts of weight during pregnancy and lose it all just fine. Others, such as myself, have a hard time, so if you think you might fall into the latter category, you might want to try to do at least a little for now - maybe a little light treadmill or walking outside. But I wouldn't feel too bad about being lazy. I personally feel that the MOST important thing to do in pregnancy is what you're most comfortable doing. Enjoy it all!

When you do get your energy back and feel up to more, Shape magazine puts out a "Fit Pregnancy" a few times a year that might help you figure out how you can adjust your workout to your pregnancy. I even have 4 copies here if you'd like them - you can email me your address (but if you don't feel comfortable doing that - I understand - just thought I'd make the offer). I don't even know why they are still on the bookshelf, 'cause I'm done.

Continued best wishes!

[MrsReber]

I spoke to a trainer at the gym and she had told me that my heart rate should not go over 140 because it is not good for the baby if your body gets overheated. It's funny, I was fine for the first couple of weeks, but now I am dragging!

I am afraid of not being able to lose the weight. I was doing a little weight training and about 45 minutes of running/walking on the treadmill. I did get out for a walk with my husband the weekend before last, but I confess that last weekend, I didn't move from the house too much. Felt too sick, actually.

Lindrusso, that is so nice of you to offer to send me those magazines! I will email you with my address. That would really be great! I really appeciate it.

Peanut butter, eh? That could be dangerous!!

[mightyh]

Congratulations!!!

Everyone wants to give you advice when you're pregnant, huh? http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

I had baby seven months ago and have some suggestions, mainly on things I wish I had done. I'm still having trouble getting the weight off.

My husband is a doctor and also recommends that you don't raise your heart rate above 140--similar with your body temperature (though not up to 140 http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif)

I think, as much as you feel up to it, I would try to get three days of 30 minutes of "exercise" in. Or whatever regular schedule you can do. Walking is great, as is the recumbent bike. I've heard that swimming is wonderful, too, especially as you get bigger, but I'm not a swimmer.

I just tried to work out whenever I felt like it. Which wasn't too often--so I wish I had kept a goal/schedule. I really think exercise can keep you in a better frame of mind most days and can help you feel better during labor.

Good luck! The baby at the end is so worth it!

PS - I really enjoyed the Girlfriend's guide to Pregnancy--very humorous and focuses on YOU where most books give more attention to the baby (not bad, but not necessarily the ONLY thing you're looking for).

[Laura]

Congratulations! I am no doctor and it has been a while since I had my kids. But my recollection is that for the first 3 months you need rest more than anything. (If I remember correctly, you need to get up really early just to work!) Yes, get in exercise if you can, but listen to your body. If you usually exercise a lot, take it down and simply walk. You will be amazed at the energy level you get back around the 4th month. I swam a lot during my pregnancies and after the first trimester took aerobic classes for pregnant women. Once again congratulations!

[Kelly]

Congrats MrsReber!!! You'll feel better soon! My one piece of advise is to eat what you are craving - even if you don't normally eat it. With my first one, I craved red meat; I'm mostly vegetarian. I ate the meat for a couple of weeks and then the craving went away. My doctor told me that I probably needed the iron and that your body will ask for what it needs.

Please keep us posted on how you're doing!

[MrsReber]

Thanks again for all of your responses. I had been eating more cheese for a while, but that slowed down. This is all very weird. Am I doing the right thing by trying to keep food in my stomach all the time? I am very afraid of overeating. I know I have already put on a few pounds because I was so hungry all the time last week! Now this week, I have to be careful what I eat because I start feeling sick just thinking of certain things. My poor husband. How can I plan dinner when food turns me off? I feel like I should be eating healthier stuff. I've eaten a few grilled cheese sandwiches. I drink alot of fruit juices now (can't really stand the blandness of water anymore) and try to keep crackers or pretzels at my desk for when I get hungry since carbs seems to be okay with my stomach. I feel like it's too many carbs, though. I ate pasta for a couple of days and pierogies, but not much protein. I always had trouble with that. This is all, obviously, new to me so I really am interested in everyone's thoughts. I'm considering all the advice I'm given. Ahhh!! I hope this feeling doesn't last too long. It's so uncomfortable!

[Vanessa]

Mrsreber congrats to you & your husband. Hang in there you will soon feel better.
I recall my sis in law (had twins second pregnancy)got sick from smells like garlic etc the first 3 months, while she felt less during her 1st pregnancy. Some foods she avoided as they gave her heartburn. I was reading an article your body will let you know likes and dislikes during pregnancy.
and sometimes when you get a craving its because your body needs for example certain nutrients. Enjoy the next 8 months....
Mrsreber go to www.prevention.com (http://www.prevention.com)
in search type pregnancy and there are several articles on pregnancy and walking, excercise and pregnancy (before and after), herb contraindications etc. Prevention is a wonderful magazine and has many articles which you might find helpful and you can discuss with your doctor on your coming visit.


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[Beth]

Glad to hear the happy news. The alien comment is a lot like I felt the first time I was PG. Something does take over your body. Just wanted to add that ginger, mint and chamomile are all said to help some folks with the queazies. Also, if keeping food on your stomach helps, do it. It probably won't take much to keep that feeling at bay. I remember eating graham crackers and dried apricots at the office. I also tried to exercise, but wound up at home on bedrest.

Your body, and that baby, will guide you. Do what you feel like you can feel good about, be honest with yourself, and relax. You'll have a million new feelings, and equal number of questions, and enough advise to cover them all a few times over. You know your body better than anyone, even though it is doing something new and different. Listen to it, trust it, and wonderful things will happen.

[lindrusso]

Mrs. Reber,

Starting to feel as if perhaps an alien is inhabiting your body???? http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/eek.gif

I had the BEST of intentions to eat so healthy during both of my pregnancies, but sometimes your body just won't let you. Try to eat healthy if you can, but if it makes you feel sick and you end up vomiting because you forced yourself, then you're not getting any benefits anyway.

I didn't actually get sick with my first, but I didn't feel like eating a lot. The doctor kept getting on me to eat more because I was in ketosis, but I knew that I'd just end up getting sick if I did. My first boy was a bit underweight in the end, but he was fine.

Perhaps after the first few weeks are over you'll be able to eat healthier. My sister-in-law craved Rice Krispy treats, milkshakes and pancakes. Not exactly health central, but what can you do? I craved McDonald's fish sandwiches. And with my second, I started eating meat because I craved it - after not eating meat for over 7 years (turns out I was anemic, so I'm figuring that explains the cravings)! So, your body can do some strange things and you end up just having to go with the flow.

Just the fact that you're concerned and are trying to be careful probably means you'll get the nutrients you need one way or the other.

[mightyh]

One more website to recommend... www.babycenter.com (http://www.babycenter.com) It has a lot of great advice and articles and fun stuff to "follow along with." I recommend the section called Bobby's story--where a dad journaled his son's first year.

Didn't try any of the bulletin baords on there, really. Feel like a lot of the pregnancy-related bulletin boards focus on old wives' tales... but that's just my take/ personal preference http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

[MrsReber]

Okay, so now I don't feel so bad that chicken is out of the question, but cheese doodles are great. I actually had to stop eating last night. Couldn't look at dinner anymore. This is very weird. I think the carbs sit better in my stomach, though. It does seem like two graham crackers does the trick, too, to keep my stomach from being empty. Yes, I do have a million questions and thoughts and feelings. Ahhhh!!

I did walk on Tuesday night since I felt really good, but collapsed on the couch and slept after work yesterday. I'm learning!

Thanks for the advice and the websites! It is all very much appreciated.

[SusanD]

Glad to hear someone else is in the same boat I am! Don't worry, it gets better.

I'm 11 weeks along, and am just starting to get some of my energy back. I'm usually ready for bed between 8:30 and 9 (as opposed to my previous 10:30-11), but the daytime fatigue is starting to disappear. I used to get up at 5:30 every morning to run 2.5, but running got too difficult, my legs felt like bricks, so I'm just walking now.

I, too, have had trouble with eating - not really feeling nauseous, but more like when mealtimes roll around and NOTHING sounds good. Listen to your body and eat whatever hits you at the moment. Eating a couple of pieces of pizza is better than nothing at all, so give in to your cravings because the last thing you want to do is starve yourself and junior. I went through a phase where all I wanted was sugared cereal!

This is my first, too, so I'm learning as I go and it helps to hear someone else's experiences. Keep in touch!

[MrsReber]

SusanD, I am Susan, too! Congrats to you!! I knew there had to be someone else out there in my shoes! That is exactly how I feel! I took out chicken for dinner last night, but when dinner time rolled around, I couldn't even think about chicken. I had pasta instead (which I found revolting last week). It's all so very odd.

I gave up running at the gym, they told me not to get my heart rate up so high, so now I will be walking and doing some light weight training, as opposed to pushing myself. Oh,and that's if I can get my tired butt to the gym to begin with! I am glad to hear the the tiredness may go away soon. Ugh, I have to get up at 5:30 just to come to work!

Thanks Danielle! Yes, we've been thinking about a family for a while. Just didn't think it'd happen so soon- we weren't trying for all that long!

[SusanD]

Wow! Fall must be a fertile time for us Susans...we weren't even officially "trying" yet.

I totally hear you on the food thing. My poor husband can't keep up with all my cravings and aversions. The thought of a hamburger makes me want to boot, yet one day last week I had a sausage mcmuffin for breakfast and it was the tastiest thing ever. Go figure!

Congratulations, and good luck with everything! I'm sure it will all be worth it in the end!

oh, PS...friends have told me that water aerobics is the best b/c it takes off the weight of the baby and feels great! I plan to take it this winter when it gets too cold to walk.

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[MrsReber]

Where do you sign up for water aerobics? I belong to a gym, but they don't have a pool. I guess I wouldn't feel too huge with other pregnant women around! I feel much better today. I walked a few miles and ate just fine at dinner. But I just never know what tomorrow will bring. This is a whole new experience for me. Guess you can't ever know what it's like until you go through it yourself. My husband works with this guy who keeps telling him we're having a boy because I haven't actually gotten sick yet. Apparently, if I get sick, it'll be a girl. Men are so funny! We don't have any preference, just as long as we get a healthy baby. Whew, sausage McMuffin? I don't think I could handle that!

[Danielle]

MrsReber, I just wanted to offer a congratulations! I remember you mentioned a while ago on the other BB that you were thinking of starting a family. How wonderful!

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[SusanD]

How are you feeling this morning? Fine here. Dinner last night was chicken burritos which hit the spot perfectly!

We belong to the YMCA, and they offer water aerobics classes. I'm also going to check and see if they have any kind of special pregnancy workout classes - I bet they do. You might want to check w/your hospital, they might offer exercise classes or be able to give recommendations.

I've heard the same thing...the sicker you are, the more likely it's a girl. But I spoke with 2 women who have girls and neither one felt sick at all. I also heard that if your skin breaks out a lot then it's a girl (because of female hormones). I've been breaking out like crazy. Then I talked to a friend of a friend who had really bad skin with her son. So who knows...it's all so strange! I just feel super lucky that I've only had very mild, occasional queasiness because my mom was sick as a dog with all three of us, plus my sister-in-law was miserable for about 2 months straight. Ugh! I'm like you, I'd be happy with a boy or a girl, I'm just hoping for healthy.

[MrsReber]

I breaded and fried some chicken cutlets last night with mashed potatoes and peas. It worked out just fine. However, in the mornings, I get this incredible hunger and it makes me queasy. It hit me really bad on the train. It happens every hour or so. For the first time in over a week, I actually craved some fresh fruit, so I got some on my way to work. I guess everyone has their own theories on boys and girls. My only problem with a boy is that I can't come up with a name! I did go walk 2 1/2 miles last night on the treadmill at the gym since I was feeling really good. I used to warm up at 4 mph, but now it's a struggle to walk at 3.7mph! I keep monitoring my heart rate as I go along, too. I'll probably be exhausted when I get home today!

It is kind of fun and really weird to think that this little person is growing inside of you. I've been looking at this pregnancy calendar on line. I did a search under "pregnancy" and it popped up. It tells you what's happening each day and calculates your due date. Have you seen that one?

[Kristilyn1]

I think the old wives tales about how to tell what you are having are pretty funny....
this day and age of ultrasound--most people don't need to wonder, they can find out!

I have two boys and I threw up every day for the first 3 months with both of them. I gained 20 lbs with my first--gave birth to an 8 lb. baby boy and up until 8 months--nobody could tell I was pregnant from the back. With the second? Hah! I gained 30 lbs and looked like a bus from the time I was 4 mos. all the way through. Again, an 8 lb. boy.

The Susans---do your doctors do routine ultrasound? My OB didn't and I understand that to be in the minority these days. If so, will you find out what you are having? I've done it both ways and I am still torn on what I preferred......

Kristi

[lorilei]

Since you've been mentioning some ways of "predicting" sex, I'd like to share an interesting philosophy that was passed on to my mother when she was pregnant.

If a woman maintains her pre-pregnancy shape (curves) during her pregnancy, the baby is a boy. If she loses that shape, the baby is a girl.

Now, supposedly this visual test should take place while looking at the backside of the woman a few months into her pregnancy.

Anyone want to experiment with this one? http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

[MrsReber]

Lorilei- I'm afraid to look at my backside now and I've only gained about three pounds!

[lorilei]

Oh, MrsReber -- I didn't want you to be frightened. http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif Maybe your husband would have fun with this one!

[MrsReber]

Knowing my husband, he would have fun with this one! The man can be brutally honest!

[MrsReber]

Kristi, I am seeing my dr for the first time this Thursday- provided my boss lets me leave work early (he better!!!). They schedule appts for 8 weeks after your last cycle. I am quite anxious. I do not know if they'll do an ultrasound or not. My husband and I talked briefly about finding out the sex, but neither one of us has a preference at all, so it really doesn't matter. I understand that it depends on what position the baby is in, too, if they can even tell at all. And, of course, we've all heard the stories about them being wrong. I'm going to go neutral with the baby's room. I was never one for pink and blue stuff anyway. I love bears. I think I might rather be surprised, though. My sister was surprised with her first (a girl), but found out for her second (a boy). I think it's kind of nice to be surprised like that. We still haven't told any family. It's kind of fun having this secret since we keep hearing "so when are you having kids??".

[Kristilyn1]

Mrs. Reber-

try not to be nervous about your appointment! If anything, you may be disappointed. There's not a lot they do when you are in the beginning stages of pregnancy. Judging by how many weeks you are--they may not even be able to listen for the heartbeat. Lots of family history questions, though! As far as ultrasound--they usually can't tell the sex until you are a few months along. Be sure to write down any questions you have for your doctor--otherwise you WILL probably forget to ask the things you want to know. Good luck and remember ALL pregnant women are nervous, scared, excited and generally a wreck for many months to come--it seems to come with the job! Take care of yourself.

Kristi

[Laura]

Just thought I would add this about water aerobics. When I was pregnant I swam a lot. You do feel light as a feather in the water, but in the later months, your stomach feels like it weighs a ton when you get out because the water is no longer supporting it. Toward the 8th and 9th months I literally had to support my stomach with my hands when I first got out! I asked my dr. about it because it felt so strange. He told me not to worry, but it was rather disconcerting the first time it happened.

[SusanD]

Mrs R, I'll be thinking of you on Thursday, that's when I have my first ultrasound. We can be nervous together...ha-ha! I've already had one Dr. appointment, it really wasn't too daunting. It was basically a lot of questions about my and my husband's medical histories, and then the good ol' pelvic exam...ugh. Doc tried to find the heartbeat - she said occasionally she's able to at 8 weeks but it's pretty rare. So don't be disappointed if you don't hear it. We want to find out the sex, even though we've already decided how we're going to do the room (primary colors). This first ultrasound is just to check my progress and to make a better estimate on the due date. I then have my second dr. appointment next Monday - time to see how much weight I've gained!

One question that I'm going to have for my doc is that if I sit for too long (like in a car or plane, or at a football game this past weekend) my left hip starts to hurt. I know that the baby is on my left side, and is sitting pretty far back - I'm wondering if he/she could be pressing on a nerve or muscle or something?

That's neat that you haven't told anyone yet. My husband was so excited he promptly went out and told everyone!

[MrsReber]

Let me clarify that - I haven't told anyone. My husband has told everyone he works with, all of our neighbors (shouting across the street "I did my job!!") and a few of his friends. I told him to stop that. Family does not know yet. I think we'll tell them together. I have only told three of my friends.

I am trying to get my husband to go with me on Thursday. He doesn't want to go- changed his mind. My best friend offered to go with me. I hate to go alone. I want to share it all with someone!! I don't know much about my husband's family history so I hope I can answer the questions. Come to think of it, he probably doesn't know much about it either since he doesn't really pay attention to things like that. Don't get me wrong, he's very excited. I think he's just uncomfortable with the thought of sitting in the waiting room. I wish he'd go so he could hear what the doctor tells me.

Wow, I guess I am in for alot of visits then, huh? I haven't told anyone at work yet. I heard that you can sometimes hear the heartbeat at the first visit. Do they do more than one sonogram nowadays? I will rely on you for answers since you're about 6 weeks ahead of me! Good luck on Thursday! How exciting. I had an echocardiogram for my heart about 10 years ago and that was nothing. I know you're probably as nervous as I am, hoping that everything is okay with the baby, though. Well, I'll be thinking of you as well!

[BeckyM]

This is really interesting reading for me, since my husband and I haven't yet reached the point of both being ready for kids. (I'm more ready than he is!) But we're thinking maybe we'll try this spring. I think reading actual comments from women going through the first stages of pregnancy is giving me a more REALISTIC view of what to expect. I sometimes tend to idealize things like that, so it's good for me to realize that being pregnant can be scary as well as exciting. I'm happy for the two Susans that you two have each other to compare notes with. Hopefully by the time I'm going through this, there will be someone for me to "chat" with too. Good luck to both of you, and best wishes for happy, healthy babies! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

[MrsReber]

Good luck to you, Becky! My husband and I have only been married one year, but we've been together for four years. I was ready and he was giving me very vague answers, but now he just loves the idea of being a dad! There is never a "right" time to have kids, you just have to jump right in! Glad you're enjoying our notes.

My stomach has not been right for a couple of weeks now. Not much fun at all. Plus, I get so hungry every hour or so! I can't wait to see the doctor and ask all kinds of questions. I already wrote down a few.

[SusanD]

Well, it seems that men are all alike...when my home test came up positive my husband ran around shouting "He shoots, he scores!" He's super excited about becoming a dad. He's actually been ready longer than I have. We've been married almost 3 years, and he wanted to start trying right away. I was the one who took a little time...but we've got enough friends & relatives who've been through the process now that I'm a little more confident. Once in awhile I still get this feeling like "what have I gotten myself into?" But like you said, I don't think there's ever a perfect time, you just kind of have to jump in and do it.

Don't worry about your husband not going to the first appointment, there will be plenty of opportunities down the road. I feel pretty lucky, my husband says he's going to make it to as many as he can, but with his work schedule I'm sure I'll be going to at least a couple alone. The thing that's going to take some work with him is going to classes. One of his friends told him that lamaze class was a total waste of time, so now he doesn't want to go. Hopefully I can change that - although I'm quite certain that I don't want to see the movies! I've already seen the birthing pictures in a couple of books, and I think I'd just rather remain blissfully ignorant going into the delivery room. Don't want to know in advance what I'm in for!

Speaking of books, I found a good one, it's called "Pregnancy and birth, your questions answered" (or something like that). It's a full-color book and I've found it to be the most helpful and informative without scaring the crap out of you. I've also heard that "The Girlfriend's Guide" is supposed to be a good one, I think I'm going to try to find that this week.

Well, I hope you feel better! I've found that apples & pears (applesauce is good too) seem to help when I'm hungry but too nauseous to eat.

[MrsReber]

That is so funny that your husband ran around like that! They get so proud of themselves. Men are so funny- my husband does the same thing; if a couple of guys tell him something like "don't get married, everything changes", we suddenly have to have a big serious discussion. Yes, married men telling him not to get married? Then men with kids telling him not to have kids? Ha!

I will try out some applesauce. I didn't even think of that. I thought I was going to have to pull over on my way to the train station this morning. I was not well at all. Oh, my best friend said she'll come with me to the doctor. I thought that was awfully nice of her.

You sound like me, not wanting to see a movie of a birth. We'll have to skip tha class! I was never afraid of raising a child, just afraid of giving birth to one and being pregnant. But I found those fears have subsided now that it's actually happened. How exciting for both of us!

[andi]

Congrats to all you "preger" girls! This is all so fresh in my mind since I was pregnant this time last year! I felt pretty yuck for the first four months and then felt wonderful for the remainder. I would eat what ever sounds good right now-I ate alot of cold stuff/salty things and ate constantly to keep the nausea at a tolerable level. I think it is perfectly ok to let your hubbys prepare their own food. Don't feel guilty!! Maybe a quick run to the bathroom with your hand over your mouth while preparing a meal will make it quite clear! I did alot of walking for exercise but know several currently pregnant friends who swear by the water aerobics. Good luck! This is such an incredible time!

[mightyh]

One more book suggestion (can you tell I love books?): We bought a book called Baby Bargains which is an incredibly helpful Consumer Report-like guide that covers all sorts of things you'll need to stock up on during pregnancy and for the baby... Each chapter goes through what to look for in a carseat, for example--how to shop for one, things that make it safe, etc. Anyway, there are chapters on absolutely everything (I'm looking at mine now--dog-earred!)--cribs, dressers, baby bedding, baby clothes, maternity and nursing clothes, baby monitors, swings, high chairs, car seats, strollers, baby proofing, shopping on the net http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

I really liked having it BEFORE the baby for several reasons: (1) it gave me something to read and get excited about (2) it helped me develop a budget that I felt comfortable with (seriously, the first time I priced cribs pre-Baby Bargains I came home crying wondering how on earth we could afford the baby http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif) (3) buying early helps you space out some of the expense and (4) it helped me give hints to relatives about what brand we wanted. For example if Brand A is a baby monitor that is very staticky, you don't want to go to the hassle of returning it when your mom gets it for you....

Hope I am not butting in too much--just get excited and want to share what worked for us!

[MrsReber]

I cannot wait for my appointment tomorrow. I noticed yesterday (and only once) some very light spotting. Has anyone else had this at all? Of course I am terrified that something will go wrong, but I understand that some light spotting is perfectly normal.

My husband has been great about dinner. I do try to cook as much as I can, but sometimes after work, I just lie on the couch in my sweats. Especially last night after I noticed the spotting. I have just been taking it easy, but it was very disturbing.

In the mornings, I have been eating watermelon from the cafeteria at work. I even look forward to it. I am still dying for that hamburger, though. Haven't had a good one yet. Maybe tomorrow night.

[SusanD]

Thanks for the advice on the book! I think I'll try to find that this weekend. It's amazing how much STUFF you have to have. Yikes!

Mrs R, I wouldn't worry too much about the spotting - from what I've read that's not unusual. Just take it easy till your dr. appt. and I'm sure she/he will reassure you. I feel bad for you that you've had such awful morning sickness. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones - what little nausea I've had is usually wiped out with a few pretzels or an apple or something. It's so bizarre how different every pregnancy is. You're dying for a hamburger, and the thought of any kind of beef just turns my stomach. My husband got tired of my "bland" pregnancy diet and bought himself some roast beef for sandwiches. None for me, thanks! My biggest problem has been fatigue, I'm totally useless after about 8pm. For awhile there it was really bad during the day, too, one time I almost fell asleep at the wheel driving back to work after lunch.

Good luck at the dr. tomorrow, I'm sure everything will be fine!

[andi]

Mrs. R-
Hang in there! Good luck with that Dr's appt. I wonder if the spotting is related to implantation-especially if this is week 4/5... Anyway, it is very common (but I'm sure scary) and since it was light probably just that old uterus adjusting. Let us know what your doctor says. Did they do an ultrasound?? Seeing everything in the right place does wonders for your confidence!

[mommywannabe]

It's been so interesting reading all of your comments. As you can tell by my user name, I'm ready to be a mommy http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif My husband and I are going to start trying after the first of the year. Of course, he's all for practicing a lot, just to make sure we get it right http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif
Susans - I cracked up reading your husbands' reactions to your pregnancies. I can see my hubby doing the same thing http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif He's convinced that we'll have a boy...thinks the law of averages is with him since his brother and sister both have all girls...4 of them. He figures that we HAVE to have a boy given those stats http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif I've told him that it's all up to him. I will laugh SOOOO hard if we get pregnant and find out it's a girl http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif As you both said, I don't really care as long as it's healthy.
Good luck to both of you...I'll be interested to hear more as you're pregnancies progress. Congratulations!

[MrsReber]

Thanks, Andi. Yes, this is about the beginning of week 6 and the end of week 5. I have read that it's common, but I am very glad to be going to the doctor tomorrow. I will be sure to let everyone know. All my other symptoms are still in place- the soreness, the ill feeling. No gym for me until I see the doctor, so I'll just take it easy until tomorrow afternoon.

[MrsReber]

I hear that spotting is pretty normal, but I need the doctor to tell me because I am a worrisome, paranoid individual by nature. I only seem calm on the outside! I will feel better after I go.

Yes, I have extreme tiredness, too. Last night, I saw my friend and then my husband and I went out for that hamburger. Well, we got home at 10:00 and I am so exhausted today! I feel like somebody drugged me and I am dizzy. I am learning. Even if I feel really good, I have to take it easy because I get tired so very quickly.

Mammawannabe, be careful! My husband and I finally agreed to try and it only took 2 weeks of trying! I was worried (naturally) after hearing the stories of people trying for three years and not having any luck. Well, what does that say about us http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/wink.gif?

[SusanD]

Well, Mrs R, it's the big day! I'm sure all will be fine. I'm like you I tend to be a nervous nellie. I think it's that maternal instinct kicking in! You'll have to keep us posted on what Doc says.

Last night I looked in the mirror and noticed the first signs of the disappearance of my figure. I admit, I cried. But I know I'll feel better once I start actually looking pregnant rather than just a shapeless blob.

Mommywannabe...I have to chuckle too. You might be surprised! For us, there was no "trying". I figured it would take at least a couple of months. NOT! I think my hubby was a little disappointed, but happy to at least know that his boys were swimmers. Best of luck to you, it certainly is a wonderful feeling (once you get past the fatigue, upset tummy, pimples, etc...ha-ha)!

[MrsReber]

Well, went to the doctor and everything is fine so far. So now I will be fine until it comes time to worry about the next thing! She told me that the blood is probably just from the implantation (as was mentioned by Andi, I think). I am still in disbelief a little bit.

I am afraid to lose my figure too, but I've been eating too much lately so it's on its way out! I did not like what their scale said!

Susan, I hope your visit went well today, too. I haven't told anybody at work so I have to figure out how to sneak out for my next visit in a month. They don't do sonograms until I think it was 20 weeks and that's to check the position of the baby. They won't do another one unless it's absolutely necessary. Wow, I guess it really is true!

[Laura]

Mrs. Reber- glad everything went well. I just wanted to say, Please don't worry about losing your figure. Yes it is going to happen but you can get it back. I am in much better shape than I was before I had kids. YOU can do it too. Enjoy this time for what it is. Truly nurturing and caring for the young life inside you.

[Sandy1]

I have to tell the 2 Susans how much I am enjoying following their pregnancies. I can almost 'hear' the excitement in the posts and it makes me smile:-) I have three children and although they are all grown up your messages open up a well of memories and for this I say "Thank You!".

I can identify with the sickness... I suffered thru 3 months of it with each of my pregnancies (2 girls and 1 boy...so I guess the queasy stomach didn't mean anything?). I do remember that soda crackers did wonders for me... I never went anywhere without them (the salt free ones of course).

I also gained substantial amounts of weight with each of my babies. I sometimes look at my pregnant pics (make sure you take some to show the kids), and cannot believe that I was that big. But I managed to lose it after each subsequent baby; and I am in better shape now than ever (and I'm in my fifties!), so don't get too discouraged.

Here's to good health and wonderful new little lives...

Sandy.

[lindrusso]

Mrs. Reber,

First, those magazines I promised will be in the mail tomorrow. This week has been busy - I apologize for taking so long!

So glad to hear that everything went well! I too am enjoying reading all this. My husband and I are stopping with our two, so it's nice to live vicariously through you all. But then when you're complaining about sleep deprivation, I will once again be happy with my decision not to have any more!! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/biggrin.gif

I was surprised to find that I LOVED my belly. I didn't like all the weight in my butt, but I liked having that belly there - it was comforting and reassuring - it didn't make me feel fat, just nurturing. I loved feeling the baby move and kick. You just might be surprised at how you react once you start showing!

Now once the baby comes out and that big old belly is just HANGING there with nothing to keep it taut......now that's a different story!! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/eek.gif

Oh and here's a little blurb that I read in Parent's magazine once - it made me howl!!

"When I was six months pregnant with my third child, my 3-year-old daughter came into my bedroom just as I was undressing for a shower. "Mommy, you're getting fat!" she exclaimed. "Well, there's a baby growing in my tummy," I said. "Yes, I know," she replied, "but what's growing in your butt?" http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/biggrin.gif

[SusanD]

Mrs R, glad to hear the appointment went well! It's nice to have everything confirmed, isn't it?

The ultrasound was soooo cool! Even though the baby's only about 2 inches long right now, it really looks like an itty-bitty person! We could see the arms, legs and head perfectly, and apparently it's right on target for size. It was very active throughout the ultrasound, rolling and wiggling around, and at one point it actually looked like it was waving at us! The tech said that as long as everything goes OK, I won't have another one till about 20 weeks.

Sandy1 - thanks for the vote of confidence! I put on my pants this morning and realized that I'm going to have to go shopping this weekend. I'm sure this is just the beginning. I'm not too concerned about losing the weight afterwards, my mom is still able to fit into her wedding dress so hopefully genetics will do their thing. Glad we can help bring back some fond memories for you!

[MrsReber]

I love all of these posts from everyone! I think I will love being pregnant as well. It is just such a cool thing. I told the nurse yesterday that I still can't believe it. She said "you won't believe it. You'll have the baby at home and you'll be wondering when the kid's parents are coming to pick him up!".

Susan, glad everything went well for you. My dr's office only does one sonogram and that's not for a while. It sounds so neat, though, I can't wait!

Lindrusso, your quote cracks me up! I hope my butt doesn't get too big! I already told my husband not to laugh at me when I come home with a bag of big underwear! It's funny, losing the weight used to be a huge concern to me, but I find it really pales when I think about all the other things involved. I'm sure I'll lose it somehow since I wouldn't feel comfortable with myself if I didn't. The scale at the dr's office says I weigh 10 pounds more than my bathroom scale! But I did have jeans, a sweater, and my sneakers on at the dr's. I think I've really only gained about three pounds. The scale at the gym confirmed three pounds as well. The nurse says she doesn't think I'll gain too much weight- nothing above average weight gain. That was reassuring- and she told me to eat tums before I go to sleep to ease the ill feeling in the morning. It worked today! Good thing we have a HUGE bottle at home!

And one more thing, Lindrusso- I really appreciate you sending me those magazines. I am enjoying reading about all of this pregnancy stuff. So please don't feel rushed about sending them, I know what it's like to be really busy!

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[mommywannabe]

Susans - glad both of your appointments went well, I'm really psyched for both of you! I'm encouraged by your comments about getting pregnant quickly...that's what I'm hoping for, but everyone has been telling me it'll take a while. My Mom, however, says that our family is extremely fertile...she has two daughters, and guess how many times she was off birth control breifly to change birth control methods?...yes, two!
Anyway, thanks for the comments; I look forward to following both of your pregnancies over the coming months http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

[andi]

I've had mega-company for the last week so couldn't wait to get back to the computer and find out how the Susans were doing! So glad Mrs. Reber's appt. went well-With all three of my pregnancies I would always feel better once I got that check and once I reached the magic 12 week point.
Try not to get too worried about the figure thing! As I've mentioned, I'm still trying to find mine again after 8 months. Besides, you can rejoin the support group when it's all over! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif Try to focus on eating healthy-My weakness was sweets and I used pregnancy as an excuse to eat all that I wanted. Not the smartest rationale! Keep your Fan Club posted you two!

[karen w]

Mrs. Reber and SusanD,
Congratulations to both of you. I love reading about your pregnancies, and I hope you keep us updated. Even though I was so recently pregnant (actually, I was terminally pregnant-3 kids in 3 1/2 years!!), there is something about having a big round belly that is so wonderful and magic. I hated first trimesters though-nauseous and tired, clothes getting snug, but nothing really yet to show for it-no big belly announcing to the world "Hey look, I'm performing the miracle of life!" Hang in there, second trimester is great. Third starts going down hill at the end-you just want it out already. A couple words of advice/warning:

They are alot easier to take care of in-utero so don't wish it out too fast(I know you are not anywhere near that stage yet!)

About clothes...I started wearing a few of my husbands big T-shirts etc... around the house because I refused to spend alot of $$$ on a pregnancy wardrobe. I am an anesthesiologist, so at work I wore scrubs. I did not need the professional outfits. When he started getting a little out of joint about this(jokingly, of course), I told him he could either let me wear his clothes or I could go spend ALOT of money shopping. He changed his mind quickly. It is fun, however, to go buy a few things!!!

Also, the worrying never gets better. I think I worried through all three pregnancies, and it only gets worse after they are born!!! I was spoiled, though, Everytime I was worried about the pregnancies, my husband would scan me. He is a radiologist. I think my children were the most photographed children before birth. Our families insisted we knew the sex of them because of this, but we actually only found out with our last one. I had an amniocentesis with her. And by the way, boys names were really tough. I couldn't think of a good one until the end with my first two(who are boys), but thought of girls names right away.

What I'm trying to say in too many words(as usual) relax and enjoy this special moment in your life. I won't tell you not to worry. It's par for the course. Do keep us posted. Congrats again.
Karen

P.S. Mrs. Reber,my husband and I had been married just a few months shy of one year when we started trying. I too got pregnant in the first month. My husband was the one who figured out I was pregnant. And then I did not believe it even after 3 positive pregnancy tests. He finally took a pregnancy test just to prove to me his test looked different then mine. I'm proud to say my husband was not pregnant!

Also, with my second pregnancy I spotted at 4-5 weeks(it was actually how I figured out I was pregnant. I thought I was getting my period, but then it stopped. And we had just started trying again! Everything turned out OK, though. My husband scanned me. We think there may have been 2 babies!!But nature was taking its course with one of them. We'll never know for sure, but it does not matter I had a healthy boy that pregnancy-which by the way the chinese calender predicted would be a girl. Just goes to show the old wives tales are just that. ENOUGH ALREADY!!! Have a great night!

[MrsReber]

Karen, you are so funny! I am feeling much better mentally, but about the same physically. I figured I'd go back to the gym last night after 2 weeks away from it. I was feeling guilty. Well, I am exhausted today!

My neighbor had a baby last year and she said I can borrow her maternity clothes. She said she started wearing them at 3 months because they were just more comfortable. I can relate to that.

At my next visit, I should be at the 12 week mark or very close, so things should be getting better for me. Still haven't told the family. I'm afraid to tell my mother-in-law. She's going to go nuts and I don't think I can deal with her having all these hormones running wild. She can be a bit wacky (my husband strongly agrees with me). He suggested she move in and take care of the baby. Ha! I told him that I would have to move out at that point. I do love her, but at a distance.

So right now, I don't exactly feel pregnant, just sort of bloated. I still fit into my clothes but they are getting a little tight. I am not sure how to tell my boss about this either, so I would really welcome any suggestions. I've only been here 6 months so far. I'll make it to just over a year before my due date, so I'm sure I'll get all my benefits, but I almost feel guilty or like they'll be mad at me. I am hoping we can work it out so I can work from home on occasion, too. I can't even imagine placing a 6 week old baby in daycare. I think it'd break my heart. So many things to think about! We're starting to prepare the room. I have to go get a border and some paint and then we're doing new carpet in the bedrooms. Finally!!!!

I am with you on boys names! I can't come up with one. The ones that I like are already taken by other family members (my husband's family is quite large). I can come up with girl's names, though! I took three or four tests on different days and I still didn't believe it until the doctor told me I was pregnant! My husband is very proud of himself!



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[karen w]

Mrs. Reber,
Don't feel too quilty about work. I found out that I was pregnant with my first one 2 months after I started a new job, I finished the year, took my maternity benefits, and then moved to a different state when the baby was 6 weeks old so I never went back to that job.(I did give them notice, of course). And with my last one, I found out I was pregnant just TWO days before my first day of work. I did not want to tell my partners the first week, but the first day I was assigned to a case in the operating room that involved an x-ray machine. I had to refuse to do the case and tell my partners why. One hugged and congratulated me; the other just scratched his head and said "OOh!, this could be a problem." Everything worked out O.K. I worked until a week or two shy of my due date, but I have not gone back since. I'm trying to decide if I want to now since I just stopped nursing the baby(she's 15 mo.). Somehow, work does not have the same appeal to me as it did before having kids! It's a tough decision. I feel guilty since I spent so much time and money getting my M.D. Sometimes I wish someone could just tell me what I should do, and I would. I guess life would be too boring then. Anyway, I guess I am lucky that I have this kind of option. Many people don't have this choice!! I know everything will work out for you too with your career. Like my husband always says, "kids ruin your life for the better!"
Just enjoy it!!!
Karen

[karen w]

Lindrusso,

AGAIN, I just want to say thanks. Although as I mentioned I have not entirely made my decision, those two questions gave me alot more to think about. I think deep in my heart I know what is right for me and my kids. Now I just have to be strong and go with it! Thanks for the "food for thought" so to speak! I like your attitude toward living life!

Karen

[lindrusso]

Originally posted by karen w:
It's a tough decision. I feel guilty since I spent so much time and money getting my M.D. Sometimes I wish someone could just tell me what I should do, and I would.

Don't feel guilty about your education - it's never really wasted, just utilized differently! I went to college and now I stay at home (not really the same comparison as getting an MD, but..) and I'm glad that I had that opportunity to learn and grow.

Now, I admit that I am biased here, but I remember reading two things that helped me put it in perspective (on those days when I get frustrated as a mom). And basically it consists of asking yourself two questions - 1. When you look back on your life, will you ever say "gee, I wish I had spent more time at the office/work"? and 2. If you had had a choice at birth - would you have chosen to be raised by "strangers" or by your own parents?

Now, I am NOT trying to make anyone feel guilty nor am I knocking anyone's choice to work. I think it is wonderful that women have the choice and are not simply [b]expected[b] to stay at home. I just think that if someone is struggling with the issue of whether to stay home or not, it's worth thinking long and hard about these questions.

So, go back to work because you LOVE it and because you know your children are well-cared for, but don't go back because you feel you'd be wasting your education not to. Time spent with your children is never a waste. Just my 2 cents....

[Laura]

Thought I would add my 2 cents on the whole work v. stay at home thing. As I think I have mentioned I am a single mom (since my youngest was a month - gotta love my ex!) Anyway at that time staying at home simply wasn't an option, but I had a wonderful nanny for 4 years and I didn't feel as bad leaving the kids at home. When my son was 4 and my daughter was 7 I had them in school with afterschool day care. I was working close to 60 hours a week as an attorney and was not a very happy mom. I started to really try and figure out what my values were and where I needed to be and where my children needed me to be. One day I up and quit my job moved 1100 miles away and found a great job that allowed me to work 8:30 to 3 every day so that I could be with the kids after school. I took a HUGE paycut and will likely have to work until they are through college to make up for it, but I don't regret it for a minute. I know a lot of people may disagree with me, but if you find that you have to work, if you can find someone who you really trust when the kids are small, I think it is more important to be with them as they get older then when they were small. My daughter is now 11 and starting to ask some serious questions about life. I am glad that I am here every day to answer them right when she gets home from school. Plus it allows me to be with them at afterschool activites. I hope that no one takes offense to anything I have said. As I said its just my 2 cents, but it is a way that I was able to make things work in my situtation.

[MrsReber]

It is a tough decision to make about staying home or working. The thing with my husband and I is that we just would not be able to afford it if I stayed home. Right now, I make more than he does and I carry all of our benefits on top of it. Plus, he works for the government and they play games with his job. He was laid off for three weeks last year right after we got back from our honeymoon! Earlier in the year, he was laid off and then re-hired as a contractor at a different salary. Anyway, it's just too "iffy" for us to rely on his job. We are toying with the idea of my husband staying home to raise the kids and maybe work part time or if he gets a permanent gov't job, he may go part time and I may try to work from home at least one day a week. I hate the thought of leaving my 6 week old baby with anyone I don't know.

Lindrusso and Karen, you guys made the right choice for yourselves. Believe me, I'd LOVE to be able to stay home, but I don't think it's in the cards for me. My sister cut her hours at work to be with her kids in the afternoon and she's still going to college- mostly for herself. No degree is a waste of time or money. As Lindrusso says, the learning experience is always worth the effort! And it's also something you'll always have that you can be proud of.

As for telling my employer about my situation- I think I may have to do that in the next three weeks or so! I don't know when I'll start to show, but I have a feeling that my work clothes won't fit too well in a few weeks!

[slknight]

Well, I have been following this thread with interest and just wanted to join in now, because I just found out that I'm pregnant too. I think I'm now the third pregant Susan on the board who wasn't even "trying"! Mrs. Reber, I'm a few weeks behind you - due the end of June.

[Laura]

Congratulations to the latest Susan. Mrs. Reber I totally understand your plight, I was there too. Have you looked into the Family Leave Medical Act. I believe it requires your employer to keep your job open for 4 months (albeit not paid) I would suggest you get all the information you can before you approach your employer.

[MrsReber]

Uh oh, we better warn the other Susans! Apparently you don't even have to try! Well, congratulations! That is wonderful!

Laura, I've been reading up on my options as far as work. Yes, here in NJ, I get 10 weeks and then I can have an additional 12 weeks withouth pay. Also, they are only required to hold a similar job open, not necessarily the actual job that you leave. I think the first ten may be at 50%, but I can live with that. This is too important for me to let work become an issue! I do want to come back to my present job, though. They are pretty good here about things and understanding about family, so hopefully it'll all work out just fine.

[Laura]

Just a side note Mrs. Reber- If you are considering having your husband stay home part of the time, working for the gov't, I think he is entitled to the same type of leave benefits. Something to look into anyway. We'll keep good thoughts.

[Terri-Lynn2]

Hello Susans (all 3 of you)

There is so much info that I want to share with you. I have 2 children, 32 months and 5 months. Both times I was as big as a house, people would gasp when they saw me!! I had one son just shy of 9 pounds and one just shy of 10 pounds!! I loved being big and pregnant, there is nothing like watching that life in there moving around or seeing a foot pushed up against your stomach. I gained just over 30 pounds with both and I was back to my old clothes in just over a month both times. (Everybody tells you it will never happen and with the second they say you were just lucky!). My advice is to eat if you are hungry, your body knows what it is doing, I was a carbohydrate junky it was the only thing that would settle my morning sickness.

A tip for morning sickness there is a product out there called seabands that are used for sea sickness and they work very well.

You will be very tired in the first and third trimesters (enjoy the second), a really great way to exercise is to join a pre and post natal exercise class, it is a wonderful experience to be around other pregnant woman and see their newborns. It is a great support network while staying fit.

Finally, on the subject of great reading material the book "What to expect when you are Expecting" is terrific. We also enjoyed the magazine/Book "A Child is Born" by Lennart Nilsson, we loved looking at the pictures and reading about what the baby was doing.

Enjoy it, I am so excited for all of you. It is the most wonderful experience you will ever have. A word of advise is take pictures, we took a side profile picture of me on the same date each month wearing spandex shorts and a crop top and it was great fun to look at the change each month and my 2 year old loved looking at the pictures of him in moms tummy while I was pregnant with his brother. (which by the way due to the severity of my morning sickness we were sure was a girl!). It also was neat comparing pregnancy pictures between the two.

Good luck to all of you!

Terri

[Terri-Lynn2]

Sorry I posted twice....

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[SusanD]

Glad to hear you're feeling better, Mrs R. After talking to so many other women, I almost feel guilty for feeling so good. Don't worry too much about telling work - I'm sure they'll be very excited for you. One hint - bring food to supplement the announcement. Food always makes everything better! Everyone at my office was very excited for me - but I think they were all kind of waiting for it too. There's one other woman in my area who's my age - the rest are all in their 40s and 50s - and she had a baby in June so now it's my turn. My boss actually gave me a big hug!

Like you, staying home full time isn't an option for me. I wish it were, but that's life I guess. After maternity leave, I am going to try to condense my work week into 4 days - my husband is going to adjust his hours to accommodate that and they're pretty flexible around here so I don't think it should be a problem. We're entitled to 12 weeks off I'm definitely going to take advantage of that, we can live without my $$ for that long, anyway. I just can't see taking a 6-week-old to daycare, and being a new mom I'm definitely going to need the time to figure out what the heck I'm doing!

And to the newest "Pregnant Susan" - Congratulations! Welcome to the club! Let us know how you're doing...

[MrsReber]

Susan, I am with you- it would break my heart to drop off a 6 week old baby at daycare. I think we're going to tell my mom and brother this weekend. They still don't know. Then I am hoping that my mom can help us out one day a week, then maybe my MIL and then I want to try to work one day a week from home and my husband, hopefully, will get hired on as a permanent gov't employee so he can adjust his hours as well. I don't know if I can take the full 12 weeks without pay, but I will probably take a few extra weeks. It's going to go by so fast!

Thanks for the hint about softening the blow with goodies! That sounds like a good idea! I know they'll be happy for me, it's just my stupid work ethic that makes me feel bad about being out of work for so long. I'm sure that will all change, though.

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[MrsReber]

The "morning sickeness" seems to be subsiding! I am almost to 11 weeks now, so I guess it's time that it went away. I never actually got sick, but felt quite ill on a couple of occasions- grocery shopping was horrible! All that food around me and I didn't want to look at any of it!

Anyway, I love reading all the posts from the moms! I am glad to see that it is possible to go back to your old clothes shortly after giving birth. I guess it'll just require some work on my part. I hope I'm not gaining too much weight, but we'll find out on November 10th.