out of curiousity

[matt]

I have a friend who is extremely overweight, her roommate does everything for her. When it comes to do anything is phyisical her friend does it for her. I am wondering if she is enabling her to continue her weight. She has gained from a size 16 to a size 28 or 30. Her friend does not encourage her to exercise at all. I was wondering what are the long term is going to be like. she is going to be fifty this year and I am afraid she is going to get worse as she gets older and her roommate is not going to help the situation. thx matt

[mlou]

It sounds to me as though you are putting a lot of resposibility on this roommate http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif Only your friend can make the decision to change her ways. Perhaps as you sound sincerely concerned, you should talk to your friend about this.

[matt]

I am curious to know. i have a friend that who is seriosly overweight and was wondering she has a friend that is an enabler and was wondering what do u do. When the person is enabling that person to eat more and exercise less? Her friend is naturally active and has her friend the one overweight do nothing at all. thx matt

[emilycat]

Matt,
Could you explain in a little more depth? I'm not quite sure I understand the situation...

[BevP]

It sounds to me as if the "friend" isn't really a friend. I think the overweight person should consider ending or restricting the friendship.

[MrsReber]

Matt, I have to agree with mlou here. I was overweight for a long- not as much as your friend, but I was about 40 pounds over. Nobody forced me to sit still and not exercise. It's easy enough to pick up and go for a walk and to choose to eat healthy foods instead of fattening foods. Perhaps all your friend needs is a little guidance as far as the food and maybe a work-out buddy to get her motivated. Even if it's just to go for a walk three times a week, at least it's a start and she'll be on her way to feeling better. It is sad that she gained so much weight, but it's not up to her roommate to encourage her to exercise. It's nice to have encouragement, but we mostly need to find the strength within ourselves to change our lifestyles. Believe me, I know!

[hka]

Matt, maybe you could just casually ask your friend if she'd like to go for a walk with you? Maybe you could make it a regular thing and she'll start to enjoy it? Just an idea. http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif