Calling all PG'ers-I need advice conceiving!

[christinew]

Hi Ladies! I have been trying to get pg for 6 months and have even charted BBT and recorded cm(cervical mucus). Any advice?

I am 34 and Hubby is 32 and we are supposedly in great health. I thought it would happen a lot sooner http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/confused.gif.

I am even considering taking Robitussin and standing on my head!!

Thanks for any help.
Christine

[BlueMoose]

Christine...
I know it seems like you've been trying for a long time, but 6 months really isn't that long. I think I've read that it takes an average of a year to get pregnant. It will happen any time now! Keep trying! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

[christinew]

Thanks BlueMoose! I am just getting impatient especially since I have nailed down when I ovulate and have done the baby dance around that time and even on that date!!! OK, I will try to relax.

[BeckyM]

Christine,

My ob/gyn also said it takes an average of a year to conceive. And I have heard stress & worry can lessen your chances. I know relaxing about it is easier said than done, but it's probably the best thing for you. Good luck!

[BosunsWife]

I was almost 36 when we started trying to conceive so my doc told me if I hadn't conceived in six months that I would be sent for testing. We got preggers in three months. After the second month of trying and not succeeding (I was impatient), I made DH wear boxers and we got pregnant the next month! Something about overheating those little swimmers (not a scientific fact).

Also, like others have said, relax and it will happen. DD was conceived on a weekend jaunt to Boston!

[mb]

definitely relax! try not to worry about all that charting stuff and thinking about when you're ovulating, etc. it will happen when the time is right! good luck!
marisa http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

[christinew]

Thanks Everyone! I am just worried about every little thing. I will try to relax. Should I make Hubby quit drinking beer? See here I go again!

I have to admit I am glad I quit temping and charting!

Trying to conceive in GA,
Christine

[KristaMB]

Christine,

I don't have any advice, but I'll send good wishes your way!

~Krista

[karen w]

Christine,

When my husband and I first started trying, he wanted to chart my temp. each month. I refused to let him. Fortunately, we conceived the first month!

If you are concerned, however, it certainly can't hurt to talk to your Ob/Gyn. Perhaps he/she has suggestions for you for conceiving, and may offer information for when it is appropriate to start testing or other interventions if that becomes necessary.

GOOd LUCK!

[Tiger]

Christine,
Even a perfectly healthy couple only has a 20% chance of conceiving each month. Everything has to be just right. It's a wonder there are suprised pregancies!
There isn't a concern until a couple has unprotected sex for 1 yr. So enjoy the next 6 months before you start getting concerned. At that time there is plenty of help out there. You could also talk to your GYN there are basic tests out there that aren't too involved that could ease your mind or get you on the right track. Good Luck!

[Kimbercook]

Although my DH and I just started trying, it seems like endless waiting. I think the best advice is to not think about it all the time and enjoy! Easier said than done. Good luck and keep us posted!

[Mbart]

Here's some advice on what NOT to do...as your husband is trying desperately to get out the door to work in the a.m., DON't chase him around with a calendar saying, "Honey, I can't remember, did we have sex yesterday morning, or was it Tuesday morning"...(scribble on calendar with pen)..."gosh, this just isn't looking good"...(wave calendar in his face and shout: "WE'RE GOING TO HAVE TO DO BETTER THAN THIS!" Trust me, you will NOT be getting pregnant any time soon after this episode! In fact, you will not be getting much of ANY kind of action after this episode http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

Not that I would know from personal experience or anything!

[BlueMoose]

Christine...

DON'T make him give up his beer(IMHO)! Then he would really be stressed, if he's anything like mine http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/wink.gif . As long as he doesn't drink excessively, I don't think that hurts anything.

Another Christine http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif

[christinew]

Good morning! No temping for me! I did that for 5 months. Whew! http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/eek.gif

Krista: Thanks for the well wishes!

Karen W: You are so lucky to have been able to conceive right away! Send me some luck.

Tiger: Bad Odds I know (20%). How do these teenagers get pg so quickly? Well I am no young dog either ...I am 34. That might explain things!!

Kimbercook: Best Wishes and Baby Dust!

MBart: What a hilarious story. I can relate to this and I did something similar to this in the first few trying months! DH was all too nice though. Ithink he is really glad I've piped down a bit! Do you have children now?

Christne(BlueMoose): Like your name! What is IMHO? Can I have beer too while trying to conceive?

Thanks Ladies!
Christine

[KristaMB]

Christine~ IMHO= In my humble opinion

[Mbart]

Yes, after badgering my husband, finally mellowing out, having a miscarriage, and then surgery plus 5 months of bedrest, we had our first child. Two more surgeries later, we now have three! It can be a difficult process, and I know people that have been unsuccessful, so I offer you my support and encouragement. Children are a wonderful blessing, whether they come through pregnancy or adoption.

Stay optimistic and patient! All my best to you!

[christinew]

Thanks MBart! Did you have PCOS or Endo or anything? Fantastic that you are a mother of three!! I am taking a "relax" approach from now on and just keeping in mind that it has been only 6 months. It is just that I am 34.

Thanks again.....glad you shared.

Christine

[karen w]

Christine,

I am sending you something.........LUCK. Hope it works.

Karen W.

[christinew]

Karen,

Thanks for the luck!! I am getting good vibes and good energy. After typing with all of you I feel calmer.

http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/smile.gif
Christine

[BlueMoose]

Just wondering...for all of you who have had kids, even though you really wanted to get pregnant, didn't you still have a moment when you got the positive result when you said "oh my god, what have I done http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/eek.gif "?

[KristaMB]

BlueMoose~ my first is due in August and I have that thought on a regular basis! While I am very excited, there is definitely a tinge of fear. Sometimes I think, "What in the heck am I doing!?" But, oh, I can hardly wait!

[Mbart]

Christinew, I am a DES daughter (my mother took DES while pregnant with me) so I have a malformed cervix, which the doctors feel is incompetent. So they stitched my cervix shut each pregnancy "to maintain the pregnancy". Also the reason for the bed rest with baby #1. However, I went overdue each pregancy, even after the stitch was removed, so it's highly debatable whether the surgeries/bedrest was necessary! Didn't want to risk it, tho.

BlueMoose, I distinctly remember a (very short!)period of time after bringing our first child home from the hospital when I was sure I had just ruined my life! Never again would I be able to just "do my own thing" on a whim, keep my own schedule, etc. I was incredibly depressed. However, this feeling lasted about 6 hours, then I came to my senses, and sort of blamed it on hormones.

You do need to readjust your thinking, not to mention your life, after kids come, and I think it's natural. Unless your a foster parent or something, how else can you really grasp this radical change in your life!

[karen w]

To quote my husband...."kids ruined our lives for the better!" Yes, they change it...out with spontaneity and in with diapers, but overall we feel so much more complete with our 3 kids. And I think when we conceived #1 we were at stages in our lives where we were ready emotionally and financially to finally settle down, so I did not think "Oh my god, what have I done," but I did not beleive I was pregnant for quite a while. My husband got so frustrated that after 3 positive pregnancy tests, he offered to take one to show me what a negative looked like in comparison to mine. I'm proud to report my husband was not pregnant. He also did an ultrasound(he's a radiologist), and we saw the heartbeat. After that I could not deny it anymore.

Karen W.

[patsyk]

Hi christinew - I just wanted to chime in and tell you that I went to my dr at 6 months and he said that I should relax and if by 1 yr then we could test and do all of those other things. But, he was positive that he would see me way before then... and you know what? He was right! I went in today and found out that I am pg!!! I am due in Feb 2002... so, don't worry it'll happen.

If you decide not to chart or do the opk route (which can get expensive), just make sure that you do the baby dance at least 3-4 times a week. Don't keep to a schedule though because if your dh is anything like mine... he'll get stressed out and the little swimmers don't like stress!

Good luck and I am sending you babydust so that it'll happen for you soon!

Patsy http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/biggrin.gif

[BlueMoose]

Congratulations Patsy! It's true, kids do change your life for the better. Even when I'm totally stressed out and tearing my hair out, I would never want to go back to not having them. Now a break now and then would be nice.... http://www.cookinglight.com/bbs/biggrin.gif

Chrisi

[funnybone]

Our first took 3 months, and our second took 8 months, so there really isn't any rule or help one can give. We didn't bother with any of the calculations or temperature methods. We just let it happen naturally, when the mood hit, and let nature take it's course. Relax and have a good time trying to conceive. Don't let it stress you out worrying if "this is the moment" or not.