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    Lessons Learned the Hard Way

    This one is in the "jump while the iron is hot" category. I am a rose lover. "The father of miniature roses," Ralph Moore, who will be 101 January 14, is closing his legendary Sequoia Nursery in Visalia, CA. I always thought, "One of these days I'll stop by on a trip to southern CA." Too late. What was I thinking? How many years did I think I had?

    Any lessons you'd care to share?

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    Lesson learned:

    Make sure that you are running to something, not running away from something.

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    Do your oil changes. Otherwise you blow an engine on a Honda less than 70,000 miles on it.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Robyn1007 View Post
    Do your oil changes. Otherwise you blow an engine on a Honda less than 70,000 miles on it.
    Yeah, I've learned that lesson too .
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    Pay attention to your gut reaction.

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    Just because Grandma made it doesn't mean it was pulled from the earth and painstakingly pickled/brined/jellied/roasted to legend status. Having lost one grandmother before learning how to make her specialty, I was determined not to let it happen again.

    Me, to grandmother: Would you send me your famous lemon meringue pie recipe? I made one last night - the meringue was gorgeous, and the filling flavor was good, but the texture was a little off.

    My grandmother: How could the texture be "off"?

    Me: It was a little grainy. I don't know if I didn't zest the lemons finely enough, or if I overcooked the egg yolk custard, or if it was just too humid and it didn't set properly.

    My grandmother, after a pause: Really? They don't make lemon pie filling mix anymore?
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    Quote Originally Posted by stefania4 View Post

    Just because Grandma made it doesn't mean it was pulled from the earth and painstakingly pickled/brined/jellied/roasted to legend status. Having lost one grandmother before learning how to make her specialty, I was determined not to let it happen again.

    Me, to grandmother: Would you send me your famous lemon meringue pie recipe? I made one last night - the meringue was gorgeous, and the filling flavor was good, but the texture was a little off.

    My grandmother: How could the texture be "off"?

    Me: It was a little grainy. I don't know if I didn't zest the lemons finely enough, or if I overcooked the egg yolk custard, or if it was just too humid and it didn't set properly.

    My grandmother, after a pause: Really? They don't make lemon pie filling mix anymore?

    That's funny!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Autumn View Post
    Yeah, I've learned that lesson too .
    Autumn, thank you for sharing that, I thought I was the only idiot who'd done that one.


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    If you adopt a fish from your co-wroker, don't try to bring it home on public transportation.

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    Listen to yourself. You know what is best for you.

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    When you buy a boy fish and a girl fish from the fish store, and the nice employee tells you that they will mate, don't just smile and say "well, that will be fun."

    Put the boy back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Robyn1007 View Post
    Autumn, thank you for sharing that, I thought I was the only idiot who'd done that one.
    Robyn - to make you feel better, here is my "oil change" saga. Many moons ago, when I was a "young thing" I bought a used truck. I had had it for about three weeks when driving down the road the engine seized up and just DIED. I barely managed to get it into neutral and coast to the shoulder. I had the truck towed to my mechanic (a nice guy that despite having lived in CA for years,still retained his TX drawl.) When I asked him what was wrong with it, he told me that my engine had died (thrown a rod, and a bunch of other stuff.) I said "But WHY did it die?" Mechanic: (with drawl) "Well, hon, ya got to put oil in it." Me: "But I haven't even made a payment on it yet, why should it need oil?!?!?" So, $3000 later I have a new engine. My B-day is coming up and what do I get from my dad? A custom made fridge magnet that says "Have you checked your oil?" To this day, when I call my dad he usually begins the conversation with "have you checked your oil?" ( I usually tell him that's why I got married, so I wouldn't have to check it!) So, fast forward to a few years ago. Dad's b-day is coming up. I found a card that said "Dad, in honor of your birthday, I checked my oil today..." (Inside card) "Still black and icky!"

    BTW, about 2 months after the engine blew on that truck, the tranny went too. So my lesson learned was: Even if the nice old man selling the truck (who reminds you of your grandpa) has a log book showing everytime he did maintenance on the truck, don't trust him and have the truck checked by a mechanic!
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    Quote Originally Posted by stefania4 View Post

    Just because Grandma made it doesn't mean it was pulled from the earth and painstakingly pickled/brined/jellied/roasted to legend status. Having lost one grandmother before learning how to make her specialty, I was determined not to let it happen again.

    Me, to grandmother: Would you send me your famous lemon meringue pie recipe? I made one last night - the meringue was gorgeous, and the filling flavor was good, but the texture was a little off.

    My grandmother: How could the texture be "off"?

    Me: It was a little grainy. I don't know if I didn't zest the lemons finely enough, or if I overcooked the egg yolk custard, or if it was just too humid and it didn't set properly.

    My grandmother, after a pause: Really? They don't make lemon pie filling mix anymore?

    That's really funny.

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    Repair guy: Well, you ran out of water.

    Me: (interior monologue) the engine uses water?
    Me: (to repair guy aloud) Oh.

    Lesson learned: Not only does your oil need to be checked, but make sure there is water as well!
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    Quote Originally Posted by stefania4 View Post
    Me, to grandmother: Would you send me your famous lemon meringue pie recipe? I made one last night - the meringue was gorgeous, and the filling flavor was good, but the texture was a little off.

    My grandmother: How could the texture be "off"?

    Me: It was a little grainy. I don't know if I didn't zest the lemons finely enough, or if I overcooked the egg yolk custard, or if it was just too humid and it didn't set properly.

    My grandmother, after a pause: Really? They don't make lemon pie filling mix anymore?
    I loved this one too! That reminds me of when I asked my mom for the recipe for some lemon-poppy seed muffins that my girls loved. She said "Well, you go to the store and buy the boxed mix".

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrswaz View Post
    When you buy a boy fish and a girl fish from the fish store, and the nice employee tells you that they will mate, don't just smile and say "well, that will be fun."

    Put the boy back.

    Because 40 fish do not belong in a fish tank meant to hold two.
    This advice applies to hamsters and gerbils too.

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    The lesson that took me a while to learn is when you first meet someone and are getting to know them and they tell you that they are trouble, lazy, worthless, crazy, moody (you can fill in the blank here) BELIEVE THEM! Dont do what I did and tell them Oh, dont be so hard on yourself and ignore what they just told you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 2HUNGRY! View Post
    If you adopt a fish from your co-wroker, don't try to bring it home on public transportation.
    Not to turn this into a fish thread, but.... feed your fish, or you will end up with only one, who has fed himself.. (DS, not me!!!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vinca View Post
    The lesson that took me a while to learn is when you first meet someone and are getting to know them and they tell you that they are trouble, lazy, worthless, crazy, moody (you can fill in the blank here) BELIEVE THEM! Dont do what I did and tell them Oh, dont be so hard on yourself and ignore what they just told you.
    We learned a related lesson -- if a man's mother says that all the men in the family are no good, believe them!
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    Quote Originally Posted by stefania4 View Post
    Me, to grandmother: Would you send me your famous lemon meringue pie recipe? I made one last night - the meringue was gorgeous, and the filling flavor was good, but the texture was a little off.

    My grandmother: How could the texture be "off"?

    Me: It was a little grainy. I don't know if I didn't zest the lemons finely enough, or if I overcooked the egg yolk custard, or if it was just too humid and it didn't set properly.

    My grandmother, after a pause: Really? They don't make lemon pie filling mix anymore?
    This totally cracked me up!
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    Quote Originally Posted by 2HUNGRY! View Post
    If you adopt a fish from your co-wroker, don't try to bring it home on public transportation.
    LMAO! Similarly, if your friend offers to adopt your goldfish, don't let your batty mother drive over to said friend's house in her VW Beetle in a torrential downpour, you carrying the fishbowl (the short, wide sort - not the classic deep and narrow type) on your lap. Much hilarity will follow for years to come -- none of it on your part.

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    I have been wracking my brain to think of mine since this post started. The previous post turned the light bulb on.


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