I had an abrupt menopause thirteen years ago. I was on HRT since but the last couple years I've reduced my dose so I'm now at less than 1/4 standard dose. as the dose went down, the interest level went down. I asked my gyn about it and she said it's a "common problem" and really didn't have much to offer. My health is good and our relationship is good with this one exception. DH is not so understanding and seems to think "it's all in my head" because I have a "negative attitude". I don't think it's my "fault" any more than it's his fault for losing his hair. and yes, it's sort of humorous that I chose Valentine's day to talk about this!
It occurred to me that this is why older men marry much younger women... one menopause was enough for them and they want to be dead before a second go-round. I really didn't expect that this would happen though.
"If the world were a logical place, men would ride side saddle." Rita Mae Brown