I really need some advice, please, folks. You guys can always come up with the most helpful/creative/duh! solutions, so I'm turning to you for help. I have an office situation that just won't end. My officemate and I share an office that is a 9x10 closet (with 2 uselessly ginormous desks, one 2-drawer and one 4-drawer lateral filing cabinet, and a small visiting chair). We sit kinda back to back/side to side and literally bump chairs into each other sometimes. We can easily hear each other's stomach growl we are so tight in our office! Plus we sit near the elevator w/our door open, kind of as greeters (which I enjoy). When I want to listen to a news video or rewatch Chuck or whatever, 99.99999% of the time, I pop my plug for the earbuds in to not bother her w/listening to my interests or have the volume where I'm having to read lips. Even w/repeated hints and flat-out requests, she will not do the same courtesy. "Umm--I'm returning calls for the boss--would you mind listening to that twangy inspiring musical email w/the earbuds please?" Every single patriotic or inspirational/religious email she gets is blasted at mid-range volume; don't get me started on the "Donna Summer I Will Survive" Thanksgiving Turkey video email that we had to listen to during the entire holiday season (that thing surfaces EVERY Thanksgiving)! Video link on ADHD? Blast it, baby, cause it's important but we're not going to follow their advice anyway. Every Tuesday I had to listen to almost all The Batchelorette episodes as she watched (she can't get control of the TV at home because of her boys so can't watch there), plus get pelted w/"look at this guy? Do you think this guy is cute?" for all 20 whatever contestants, whether I wanted to or not. (One of her brats was out of school this spring (a whole 'nother thread there!), was brought in to work w/her, crowded in our closet w/us w/me trying to work, and they watched the latest Batchelorette--after repeated sighs and my yelling into the phone or at someone in the hallway to make my point that I was having to yell above the show, she turned and said, "Huh, are we bothering you?" "Yeah, trying to work here--could you use the buds?" "well, we both can't listen that way, can we?" In the mood for music today? Let's blast Kid Rock so the folks in the hall can hear it as well! It doesn't even matter that I have to listen to her spend 40-50% of her day (she only works 6 hours officially) on personal phone calls, that I can actually live with. We have been really good friends for a long time but she just doesn't have a clue about this! Or does and just doesn't give a dang. We enjoy numerous moments during the day of our doorway being a social gathering place, so we have distractions easily throughout the day. I just don't know what else to do w/o totally destroying our friendship and work relationship. Am I the perfect officemate? Oh heck no, but I am totally respectful of her considering our tiny confinement as far as noise or keeping what I listen to to myself. I do ask her to look at my screen occasionally at the funnies at Cake Wrecks or Go Fug, but not often, she doesn't have the same snarky sense of humor that I do and doesn't seem to enjoy those sites. If I'm sniffling thru a fond Tar Heel basketball video tribute during lunch, that could probably be annoying. I have asked nice and been in amazement about having to ask. What else can I do????? How do you make someone be more aware of this problem??
thanks in advance for ANY advice!
(Whew, dang, that loud email video this AM really set me off, didn't it?)