I remember when a friend's husband died. She shared with me that the children were feeling strange, it was a difficult adjustment from going to having a dad, to not having one.
I took the children out, one day before lunch, allowed the youngest to choose where we would have lunch and the older one to choose where we would have dinner. We spent the entire day doing things that they wanted to do. We were in a neighboring town, where they knew no one and they could just be themselves. We had a really good time and it gave their mom some time to do things she needed to do and some alone time to deal with her feelings.
You are a good friend to want to do something at this most very difficult time.
Tuesday, November 6, 2012