For the first time in 35 years, I have hair down to the bottom of my shoulder blades. It's great when I want it down, but when I'm cooking or in warm weather, etc., I find I want to pull it up. Unfortunately, pony tails pull and I have a permanent sore spot on my scalp from the big claw clips. Even putting it up in a modified French twist with bobby pins is painful. Is there something simple and obvious that I'm missing, or is this just one of those "deal with it" things?