I have had several issues that I have been sitting on for quite a while. Today I just had to vent. First off, I can't get a break in the pet dept. I have had one sick cat after another and one with mental issues and one dying. Of course, vet thought she'd be dead last year...but anyway. The stress of having a cat with cardiomyopathy and not knowing if she's going to be dead when I come home or be in respiratory distress is very hard. Three times now I thought I was going to have to take her in but her breathing got better.
Today my DH took one of my younger cats to the vet. He's really sick. Apparently they think he has another case of mycoplasma. They put him on 2 antibiotics so that makes 2 cats on antis and 2 on drugs every day. I feel like a pharmacy. My 17 y/o has started howling and wants to eat constantly. He's due for bloodwork and my 15 y/o is hungry too and she just went to the vet and had bloodwork so there's nothing wrong with her but kidney disease.
Then there's the family/friend issues I have been stewing over. I have a friend who is about 12 years younger than me. I only bring that up bc she's been in a different place in her life up until about 3 years ago. She finished her master's program and is studying for her CPA.
However, she still behaves like I am her personal chef, her boyfriend on occasion - when we go out to eat, she doesn't offer to pay her share or when we ask, doesn't have cash - and I am never the beneficiary of any of her work perks. She calls her other friends. I am starting to feel used. In the past I didn't mind having her over -- a lot, sometimes 3 times in one week - and she never brought anything with her. Even my DH noticed it. She pleads poverty but buys clothes/shoes online a lot, takes trips to Mexico and makes about 80k a year.
Then there's the stepsisters. Both are lifetime students. SS1 has been in school for years and works and keeps changing what she wants to do. Quite honestly she has the personality of a toad and doesn't care for authority. She's very smart but I just don't see her doing anything - she has quit pharmacy and nursing school and still doesn't have a degree in anything.
SS2 is in her second year of law school. Both have come and gone from my dad's house on multiple occasions and both are over 30. Neither one of them Ever volunteers to (a) ever cook or bring anything unless it's something vegetarian she wants to shove down us (b) or something They want.
My stepmom has allowed them to just treat her as a personal servant all these years but I don't appreciate it. They don't lift a finger - the only thing they do is bring their dish to the sink and that's it. It SO annoys me but that's what my stepmom has fostered.
I am hosting Easter this year and the moochers are coming. Do you think I have heard anything from them, if they can bring something? Nope. Not a word. Am I surprised? No. It's just like they expect my stepmom and I to always do for them yet they never even act like they appreciate anything. I remember one thanksgiving SS1 and her GF came, ate and left 30 min after the meal. and that same Thanksgiving both SSs comandeered my iPad and spent the whole time on the sofa playing games.
I know there's really nothing I can do but it makes me feel better just venting it out. We all have family stuff that annoys us. This is just some of mine.
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Originally Posted by RiverFarm
...how ungrateful and childish can they be? You didn't word the request properly? Really? Sounds to me like a passive aggressive way to tell you they are not bringing anything, to never ask or expect them to bring anything and that they expect to show up with a fully catered Easter celebration without a peep from you. At this point I think you are justified in canceling the entire thing, your cats are too sick to have company over and you just simply cannot do it this year. Then cook for those who appreciate it and are pleasant to be around. I'm not sure I could get through the day without some serious resentment or a blow up about the entire rudeness of it all.
