Another Vent -- on behalf of a 19 yr old

[Beth]

I had a call from my brother yesterday -- wanted to know if I would talk to a friend of his daughter's, so I had her call me. The girl just lost her father last week and his mother 2 years before. Doesn't sound like the dad had much to leave her -- he didn't pay child support regularly, but he had a collection she is interested in and he had possession of some jewelry and a car that were passed down from her grandmother. The woman who held herself out as a platonic roommate is now claiming she had a "special" and close relationship with the dad.

Yesterday she was claiming he left her everything in a will (Dad told the mom -- his ex, he did not have a will just a week before he died). Today, when the cops escorted the daughter to the woman's house, she said she had disposed of the jewelry already the girl wouldn't get anything else. She didn't tell the cops she had a will. Didn't produce one. Instead, she told the cops the man who passed wasn't the girl's biological daughter, he wasn't on her birth certificate and she wasn't entitled to anything.

Now, anyone with half a brain knows that a claim like that is pretty easily unraveled, especially when the girl has her birth certificate. Anyone with half a brain would also realize that telling a different unsupportable story every time you turn around itself tells a story and pretty quickly lets people know who is telling the truth and who isn't.

We're trying to get the girl some local legal help. I hope she can at least get her grandmother's wedding ring so she can have her own wedding ring made from it as she had planned (she is engaged to a guy in the navy), but I hope this low-life woman gets what she deserves. Bad Karma! Bad Karma!

You couldn't see it, but I just laughed. I feel better now, but you can join me.

I hate scum bags.

[donleyk]

And don't they come out of the woodwork when there is a death or other difficult times. Incredible. Sending good mojo her way Beth.

[LakeMartinGal]

AARGH! That woman sounds like she's related to the guy my DMIL married! I hate scumbags, too!

[RiverFarm]

Oh, poor girl, to have to go through all of that with such a scummy woman! I hope she can get some legal help and prevail!

[SDMomChef]

She needs to get an attorney yesterday. It is too bad she has to deal with this on top of the death of a parent. Glad that she has you!

[PurplePotato]

What a mess. I have no advice but I really hope you can find an attorney to help her through this.

[Beth]

Working on it, but across a holiday weekend, it isn't easy to reach folks, and meanwhile the GF could dump stuff. She was told by the cop that if she disposes of anything she has, the girl can press charges and the cop will come back and put her in jail.

I was so impressed by how cool, rational and reasonable the girl was when I talked to her Wednesday, but after being told in front of the cops that the man wasn't her father and she wasn't 'going to get anything, she was obviously shaken and upset. It was one of those times you wish you weren't a couple hundred miles away and could just give someone a hug. She is a neat young lady and doesn't' deserve this. I hope we can at least help her get the stones from the wedding rings. It wouldn't upset me the least if a judge had to hold the GF in contempt and plunk her in a jail cell for a night or two to get her to fess up about what she's done with everything.

I will admit I posted as much in hope of creating some good vibes in the girl's direction as to vent -- one of those anything I can get going times. Thanks for sending her positive thoughts.

[LakeMartinGal]

Definitely positive thoughts for your young friend! What a devastating thing to be happening!

[jjsooner73]

I don't understand how people can be so vile.

Kudos for you for being an ear and helping this girl.

[luv2cook]

disgusting. I hope she gets what she deserves! And I know how frustrating it can be to get things done over the weekend too.

[jmarie]

Beth, I know this isn't about you, but can I just say how you bless me by becoming involved in these kids lives? She could walk away from this thinking that all older people are cads....but not with you on her side.

I pray that this is resolved quickly to your young friend's satisfaction. Bod bless you, Beth.

[Shugness]

The "Horror Story" topic made me think back to this topic....any updates, Beth?

[Beth]

Yes. The girl called me a couple of weeks ago to thank me and let me know that she was getting the car and the ring back. Her dad had a collection of Hot Wheels that she didn't know if she would get back, but she got the most important stuff at day 30 -- the date by which the girlfriend had to produce a will. She got a police escort again to claim her car, so I think they guys at the department took a liking to her. I haven't met her, but I did just from talking to her. The girl has moxie and is really sweet at the same time. She was so thankful, but I felt bad that we couldn't do more long distance. But -- she did get the things she said were most important and was picking up the car with a police escort on her birthday. That's one she will always remember.

[Shugness]

I'm glad it worked out for her. It's a very valuable lesson to learn that early on in life - don't just sit back when someone is trying to take advantage of you.

[Beth]

Not only that, but to stay true and not get as nasty as the other person might be or might make you want to be. That is sometimes the harder part, but she kept everyone in her corner because she was such a nice kid even in adversity. Really good life lesson.