What's 'normal' for end of the year teacher gifts? Do you give gifts a tthe end of the year plus teacher appreciation week plus holidays plus birthdays (yes, we've been asked by the room parents to contribute for all these occasions).
Do you give a gift or do a group? How much do you usuually spend? We just got asked to contribute $40 or more for the end of the year gifts - there are 2 teachers. While I appreciate our teachers, its just seems like a lot of money. But we are on a much tighter budget than most of parents at our school. They did say it was optional but...
all this end of the year stuff is bugging me - seems like no regards for working parents and those who watch their money. The events are all daytime and I'm guessing we're also going to be asked to contribute for the party which seems to be a lot larger than past years. (vent)
Our schools have never done more than a card or flowers (as in each child bring in one blossom from the garden or store) for birthdays or teacher appreciation. There were some years where the room moms brought in a lunch for the teachers, but that was their deal, not a take up a collection thing.
There was always a split on opinions about money or gifts at the holidays and end of year. When they did take collections, I can't remember anyone asking or even suggesting a dollar amount. I would not like that even if I could afford more.
When I donated to a class gift, it was usually $5-10 per teacher because my kids have often enjoyed giving the teachers something themselves and that was additional. Even $5 adds up and I don't think teachers need to get several hundred dollars for each gift or to say thank you.
Knowing the business you have, I'd think you could do or give something special without spending a lot if you would rather do that. If you made it a gift card, the other moms wouldn't even have to know how much it was for and you might get a chance to see the teacher again over the summer break (especially nice since you can't be there during the day). If you do cinnamon rolls or scones, muffins -- something they can enjoy for a leisurely breakfast after school is out, maybe that is a better option for you. Or just write them a note.
In the end, I think most teachers enjoy knowing that their efforts each day are appreciated or that they have made a difference in some way, and a card accomplishes that just fine. Teachers don't have unlimited incomes either (my SIL is one) -- they get it. If you donate to a gift, give what makes sense for you when you can and don't worry about it. If it doesn't work for you, no shame in saying so and saying thanks in your own way.
Last edited by Beth; 05-10-2012 at 11:19 AM.
Dana, that is over the top. It sounds like you gave a teacher appreciation gift, and I think that is plenty. I'm a teacher, and a card with a note written by your child would be greatly appreciated.
My kids are both out of elementary, so there are fewer end of year gifts these days, but way back when ...
We never gave birthday or teacher appreciation gifts. I can't imagine a teacher mentioning their birthday to a class.
End of year gifts were generally about $10-$15/teacher, I think we gave gift cards for almost all of them, either to a book store or for a manicure. We usually did the same for Christmas. But that is within our budget. I don't think that most people gave gifts at all, and I don't remember a collection being taken up ever.
For teacher appreciation week the PTO used to provide breakfast one day, lunch another and afternoon tea and cookies another. Parents were asked to donate, but not all did, and the bulk of the stuff was from PTO funds.
Wow, your school does seem completely over the top.
I'm a room mom and at the beginning of the year we ask for donations with a max of $10. Those funds are spread through 2 parties, teacher birthday ($20 max) and teacher appreciation ($20 max). We do not request any donations after the one at the start of the year.
I hadn't even thought of an end of the year thing except to ask each child to make a card.
thank you - I feel better. I wanted to make sure I wasn't being cheap. I will decline to participate and do something seperately more in our budget or something I make.
We go to a private school and most families are very well off. Then there are families like us where we stretch to send our kids to the school and also a lot of staff members kids attend.
I was a teacher and I sure as he** didn't get $40/student. If I got any gift at the end of the year, it was a treat.
ETA: Except for mugs. Don't give a mug. I got enough mugs to last a lifetime.
I work at a local thrift store, and we have boxes full of apple motif and "worlds greatest teacher" mugs, picture frames, t-shirts. Most of them look untouched. I guess I am advising against that sort of thing.
LOL! Foodfiend, we get new mugs every year from my MIL, who is a teacher, and can't find space for all the gift mugs she receives!
Originally Posted by foodfiend
I think a homemade gift that isn't a sugary treat would be nice, or a giftcard, especially for a bookstore-- it doesn't have to be a large amount.
Although, every teacher I know spends hundreds out of their own pocket through the year, for supplies.
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