DD is 18 and asked if one of her male friends can sleep over tonight after their play rehearsal. He is 16, a nice kid, and openly gay. We don't have a problem with him sleeping over but told DD we wanted him to sleep in our spare room. DD is really put off by this and wants him to sleep in her room the same way one of her girlfriends would. I know that nothing would be going on, but are we wrong in making this request?