Today I heard my mother tell my 3-year-old daughter that she shouldn't eat a particular thing because, and I quote, "It will make you fat." We were in public, so all I could do is give her a look. Now I have to decide whether or not to pursue a discussion about this.
On the one hand, I know that if I do, it will turn into a gigantic confrontation with my mother. Without going into detail, I can just say we have a pretty poor dynamic as it is, and any time I suggest she might be out of line, it turns into a "thing." Uggghh.
On the other hand, my mother is overweight and so am I. My poor DD (who has wonderful eating habits, by the way, and is exactly in line in terms of height and weight)definitely has some bad genes to battle. I am trying so hard not to pass on to her the bad habits I grew up with (clean your plate, being "good" and being "bad" based on what I eat, etc.) And I believe those little messages really do make a lasting impression. . .
So, what would you do? (And feel free to tell me to relax if you think I'm making a big deal out of nothing. . .)