Hey gang. Sorry I wasn't more active last week - in so many ways! This back thing is still a bummer, but it's slowly getting better.
The talk about postive thinking last week got me thinking about a saying that's on the wall at my Weight Watcher's center (which became this week's topic) --
Behind every action, there's a postive intention.
We had a long debate over that in one meeting, actually, but I think it's true, when you really explore it. Somewhere, in every choice, there's a postive intention - to feel better, to help someone, to learn something... something. It may not manifest itself positively, but it's there - even when someone's being mean, manipulative, or saying downright nasty things, it's usually driven by the postive intention for them to feel better, even for a moment, about themselves, or to feel in control.
Then, I picked up my long-abandoned Geneen Roth "Why Weight?" workbook, figuring if I can't be physically very active right now I could work on the mental and emotional aspects of this journey towards better health. One of the early exercises is entitled "Why Weight?" and explores a little of this postive intention idea. I found it very helpful to reframe my extra weight in this way - what has it given me (or had I hoped that it would give me) that is postive? And, how else can I meet those needs (or face the fears to destroy those needs) so that I can be more mentally and emotionally ready and revved up to get rid of the excess weight that, truly, I don't want.
Here's the exercise:
Complete the following list:
Being fat enables me to:
1) have excuses for not quitting my job.
2) eat whatever I want.
3) know who likes me for my body and who likes me for myself.
(I'll list my own answers later, and I encourage all of you to DO the exercise before reading other's answers, as you'll likely get more out of it that way!)
Part two of my topic is this -- what two things can you do for yourself THIS WEEK to start to meet those needs in healthier ways? How can you start to change your thinking to create new answers for the postive intent so that you don't have warring intents ("I intend to lose weight" vs. "I intend to allievate boredom by eating" for example.)