Oh, honey, first of all, just relax! This is a highly personal decision. And, every decision you make about your child is a big deal. But you can't second-guess yourself to death. When we had our first child, my husband and I discussed this at length. Like you, I was reluctant to subject my child to something that was unnecessary. I finally told DH that I would weigh his feeling on it a bit more heavily than my own, because I felt he could relate a little better. He thought that since he himself was circumcised it would be easier if his son looked more like dad. We also lived in Iowa at the time, and circumcision rates were higher than average, so DH also felt that "fitting in" was important, especially when it would come to being an age when being different is hard. At any rate, after much soul searching, we decided to do it. It was done out of our room by our own doctor, and he wasn't even crying when they brought him to me 10 mins later. I was, though! It healed very quickly (about a week, and there was a tiny bit of blood for a couple of days) and required very little care, other than keeping him clean and applying some ointment (can't remember exactly what they gave me). If you ask your husband if he forgives HIS parents or thinks they didn't love him the way he was born, what's his response? Since my son has been like this virtually his whole life, I don't imagine it will be a problem. Congratulations on having a son! My son is a delight every day and is happy and healthy. Yours will be too, regardless of your choice.
Edited to add: when talking this over with my doctor (who was also pregnant) she sort of indicated that it was largely medically unnecessary, that any benefits could be reached via lifestyle choices, etc. But then she told me if she was having a boy, they would circumcise him, based on the same reasons I stated above.
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