You know what I hate?

[ljt2r]

OK this could have went in the vent thread but it really did not fit--it is *not* a *real* problem, but just something I feel like yelling about.

I hate syrupy sweet passive aggressive pushy people who always get their way by being really pushy but toothachey sweet and preschool teacherish on the surface while doing it. Irritates the heck out of me--not to mention their syrupy sweetness always makes me feel judged if I say something even remotely snarky or sarcastic.

There is one in my playgroup and she is driving me nuts.

[kaygee1]

I'm sorry, yes those peeps suck butt. Not to change the subject but can I steal your "syrupy sweetness"? I see myself using that to milk something from the DH in the future....

[ljt2r]

Originally Posted by kaygee1

I'm sorry, yes those peeps suck butt. Not to change the subject but can I steal your "syrupy sweetness"? I see myself using that to milk something from the DH in the future....

Feel free, something worthwhile--and devious!--might as well come of it!

[Beth]

Me too, but I especially dislike it in teachers.

And teenage girls working behind the UPS Store counter cupping one hand over the other in a choir cherub pose, cocking her head sideways and giving that little smile that makes you want to suddenly be in a movie so you can say the perfect thing and it will all be okay because you know you can't smack her like she deserves -- and besides, she seems right out of a movie. But I kinda liked seeing a help wanted sign in the window the next day.

[Jewel]

Originally Posted by Beth

And teenage girls working behind the UPS Store counter cupping one hand over the other in a choir cherub pose, cocking her head sideways and giving that little smile that makes you want to suddenly be in a movie so you can say the perfect thing and it will all be okay because you know you can't smack her like she deserves

My three cousins's wives are all the exact same way. When the three of them are standing together with the same glazed over expression with their heads cocked I have a hard time holding it together. Dave and I have nicknamed them 'The Stepford Wives'.

[Kevlar]

Do you mean the ladies who say "Bless your heart"? What they really mean is "What a loser!"

[ljt2r]

Hahaha!

I needed a laugh about this very irritating person. Oh and yes she used to be a teacher so I bet she was really annoying then.

[Peweh]

I call these people saccharine sweet because really, they leave a bitter taste in my mouth!! There was one in my shop recently, aggravating my colleague asking for a better price on every item she picked up. Finally I stepped in and said we'd prefer not to haggle on every item, but we could give her a flat percentage off of anything she wanted. She said in a lazy Southern Drawl, oh honey, you're taking the fun out of it... and I promise I'll make up the difference in the volume I'm buying. I stuck to my guns and said I appreciate you like to haggle, but we price our items to sell; and as much as I'd like them to, our landlord, the electric company, etc won't haggle with us. She was put off but later apologized and said she appreciated the sentiment. Sometimes you have to gently put these sickenly sweet people in their place (OH! and it was her Dooney & Burke cowhide purse, which probably cost $1200, that REALLY put me over the edge to decide she did NOT need a bargain!!)

[Shugness]

Peweh - my husband runs into people at our shop who want to try and haggle us on prices. My husband will tell them "this ain't the flea market". I find it offensive because it's implying we are overpriced. Seriously, and it is always the people who we know are doing VERY well - I think they do it just to do it - no matter what price something is, even if its already a killer deal, they're going to still try and get it lower.

Back to the original topic though, reading this a woman I used to work with came to mind - nice as could be on the surface but she'd slide in really snide comments. One thing she'd do to always tick me off - if she done something that upset someone, and they told her - she'd reply "I'm sorry you feel that way". Doesn't come across as a real appology to me, she's not reference herself but *you* in it, like she's not wrong, you're wrong for feeling that way.

[lindrusso]

Ack, yes, that would drive me nuts too.

Not quite the same but there's this woman here in town who drives me nuts. She is involved in band stuff, PTO stuff, sports stuff and is also a den mother for the cub scouts. She. is. everywhere!

She's chummy with all the teachers and coaches and must always talk to them and joke around with them and make nice-nice.

What's wrong with any of this? Nothing really, but she drives me insane!!!!!!! I want to smack her!

There's more, but it's hard to explain. It's just this whole aura she gives off. Some people are really involved and do it humbly, others seem to feed off of it - almost like an obsession or a power trip? Or maybe the aura is more like - "Look at me, I'm the perfect mom and my kids are all fabulous and perfect too and aren't we all just wonderful." Gag.

[ljt2r]

Alysha you have summed up perfectly how I feel about this woman in general.

[MaryMac]

Originally Posted by Kevlar

Do you mean the ladies who say "Bless your heart"? What they really mean is "What a loser!"

I actually snorted on that one...so true!!!

[lindrusso]

Originally Posted by ljt2r

Alysha you have summed up perfectly how I feel about this woman in general.

Maybe there's still room on WASP-1 for them!

[clairea]

In our house we refer to these as the "bobble-head mommies." Have you ever noticed that most of them tend to kind of nod their heads when they are speaking to you in that oh-so-sweet, but slightly condescending tone?

[Beth]

I may never see a particular mom in the same way now.

[Jessnc]

Being a northerner in the south for almost three years now, I have come to find many cultural differences, which I can appreciate, but the passive-aggressive, overly sweet, not saying what I mean is not something I've gotten used to! I know not everyone is like that, and it is definitely more friendly and welcoming in the south (I don't plan on moving any further north ever again) I just have found myself working for people who make me paranoid. I'm very used to people being direct with me and telling me how it is. The few managers I've had here have not been direct with me (even though I've asked them to, because I can't find my way or their true opinions through all of the niceties, bless their hearts. )

If you tell me I'm doing something that is good, but you don't think it's good, so you tell someone else that you think it's not good, so they can tell me you think it's not good, it makes me question EVERYTHING you say to me and it makes me paranoid.

My situation is probably not exactly like the OP's situation but I think there are similarities.

[ljt2r]

Originally Posted by Jessnc

Being a northerner in the south for almost three years now, I have come to find many cultural differences, which I can appreciate, but the passive-aggressive, overly sweet, not saying what I mean is not something I've gotten used to! I know not everyone is like that, and it is definitely more friendly and welcoming in the south (I don't plan on moving any further north ever again) I just have found myself working for people who make me paranoid. I'm very used to people being direct with me and telling me how it is. The few managers I've had here have not been direct with me (even though I've asked them to, because I can't find my way or their true opinions through all of the niceties, bless their hearts. )

If you tell me I'm doing something that is good, but you don't think it's good, so you tell someone else that you think it's not good, so they can tell me you think it's not good, it makes me question EVERYTHING you say to me and it makes me paranoid.

My situation is probably not exactly like the OP's situation but I think there are similarities.

No it is pretty darn similar--I thought of that comparison myself actually. Although this woman is from Michigan.

[bobmark226]

Originally Posted by lindrusso

What's wrong with any of this? Nothing really, but she drives me insane!!!!!!! I want to smack her!

Alysha, did you miss your Anger Management class again last week?

Bob

[ljt2r]

Originally Posted by bobmark226

Alysha, did you miss your Anger Management class again last week?

Bob

Bob you disappoint me. You are one of the snarkiest people around here. I was hoping for some scathing commentary on these people.

[Ann1965]

Oh my, y'all must be talking about the secretary at my office. Her nose is stained permanently brown and sugar wouldn't melt in her mouth she's so sweet. However, she keeps tabs on everyone and reports to the boss about everything that goes on, but when the boss isn't here, will spend an hour on the phone talking with her sister, mom or any other family member she wants to. Makes me want to puke! Also, not all Southerners are like that. I grew up around folks like that and I promised God that I would never be that way. If I'm mad at you or don't like you, you'll know it.

[Middydd]

Originally Posted by Ann1965

Oh my, y'all must be talking about the secretary at my office.

Nope, they're talking about my sister-in-law!!!

[LakeMartinGal]

Originally Posted by Jessnc

Being a northerner in the south for almost three years now, I have come to find many cultural differences, which I can appreciate, but the passive-aggressive, overly sweet, not saying what I mean is not something I've gotten used to! I know not everyone is like that, and it is definitely more friendly and welcoming in the south (I don't plan on moving any further north ever again) I just have found myself working for people who make me paranoid. I'm very used to people being direct with me and telling me how it is. The few managers I've had here have not been direct with me (even though I've asked them to, because I can't find my way or their true opinions through all of the niceties, bless their hearts. )

If you tell me I'm doing something that is good, but you don't think it's good, so you tell someone else that you think it's not good, so they can tell me you think it's not good, it makes me question EVERYTHING you say to me and it makes me paranoid.

My situation is probably not exactly like the OP's situation but I think there are similarities.

This is so interesting to me, because I'm a northerner in the south, and I have had similar experiences! I can never tell if people really are being friendly, or if it's just that "Southern hospitality!"

[Jessnc]

Originally Posted by LakeMartinGal

This is so interesting to me, because I'm a northerner in the south, and I have had similar experiences! I can never tell if people really are being friendly, or if it's just that "Southern hospitality!"

I am breathing a sigh of relief! I'm so glad I'm not the only one who had encountered this. For what it's worth, I have heard my co-workers calling northerners "abrupt." I call it "being direct" and not "beating around the bush."

I do know that not everyone is like that. I have met some really wonderful people in the short time that I've been down here.

In general, I'm a really friendly, nice person and I like dealing with people who are nice and friendly. However, when it comes down to business I'm serious and expect to be treated in a professional manner. No beating around the bush!