I am so very sorry that your DH is going through this!
You just dealt with your brother's health/death and now this. Life can sure stink.
My comments, not as a dietitian or a medical researcher or anything "professional," just as a female who feels strongly about gut instincts.
If your gut is telling you something is not right...LOOK INTO IT. People poo-poo going to the ED and worry that they will look silly or hypochondriac or whatever. Doctors (good ones) will tell you they would much rather send you home and have you feel silly than have you never make it to the ED.
If you are unwell or "off" and your gut is telling you something is not right, don't care if you meet the list of symptoms. Have YOURS checked out.
Julie, I am so happy your DH is ok and only had a mild blip in issues. I totally get his angst on being on meds and having stuff in his body. Having been someone that "did everything right" and still got cancer, I was so bitter and angry having to take meds and have surgery. I guess the bottom line is that we only get so long on this earth and it is the journey...maybe if he reframes his ideals and goals and says "I want to make it to 80 or 90 or whatever, and do it with dignity and with being able to handle my own care..." that that is the goal...not whether we have surgery; not whether we have "a disease" that we feel labels us; not whether we need medical assistance, but that we cross the finish line as best we can and ENJOY the journey getting there.
I have certainly started rethinking things for myself.
You know, my gut worried you had not posted for a while....and then I read this....
trust your gut. Know your body...know it is OK to seek help even if you don't meet any specs.
None of us is perfect and at some point, we will all (if we are lucky to make it to a ripe old age) face challenges.
Consider the journey and don't focus on the destination.
I'm sorry if I am rambling, but stuff like this hits close to my heart...........
I will just add: did he have a c-reactive protein test? IL-6 levels?? sometimes our "healthy" diet causes damage because our genetics are not like the majority.
I am glad to hear he is doing well and that you are handling things well....
Happy Valentine's day, Julie!
Thoreau said, 'A man is rich in proportion to the things he can leave alone.'